He’s cheated again!

[embarrassed12]

Can’t even believe I’m writing this. My partner cheated on me 5 months after I gave birth to our son! He’s now 3.

I’ve just found texts between someone he works with, disgusting texts of what he wants to do to her in the bedroom. He’s told her he’s been single for 5 months and he lives with his mum and see his son on the weekend. We’ve just got back of holiday together, we live together, we’ve been in a really good place so what the hell is this about!!!

I can’t cope, I’m absolutely heartbroken that he’s fine this again! How do I get Over this?!

Most men if they’re bored get a hobby. If he can’t think of a single way to amuse himself other than lusting after another women, he sounds a bit thick and you’re better off without him.

Right? Normally men would say I wasn't happy, you weren't giving me attention blah blah but he literally has no reason 😂

They're not married, so how do you suppose that would help?

@embarrassed12

I'm sorry, that's really shit 💐

you've done the right thing kicking him out, stay strong & don't let him wheedle his way back making all kinds of promises (he won't keep) & telling you that you & DS are his world etc. it's all predictable horse shit.

you gave him a second chance & he pissed all over it. Don't give him the opportunity to do that again!!

get on to CMS today!!

Also, get going with benefit applications, don't be shy! Obviously you might be earning 19x what I do & not need them, but if you do, then start applying.

whats your housing situation? Own/rent?

childcare?

bag the rest of his crap up & tell him it's on the doorstep, or drop it at his mothers, whatever is easier for YOU.

I know none of this makes it hurt any less or you feel less embarrassed/stupid (you shouldn't but we generally do) BUT you NEED to show YOURSELF that this is DONE & you're NOT taking the cheating little fuck back!

If you have the time/money start today, bag shit up, buy new bed linen, move your room around. Move furniture around in other rooms, buy a few small bits YOU love to change the look to make it YOURS (and stop you picturing him there, it does help)

(((HUG)))

You CAN do this!!

Thanks everyone!

I am so broken today, I've slept about 2 hours. I haven't eaten my body is aching I can't stop crying. This is hard!

Why aren't I good enough?! Why aren't me and our son good enough for him to stop fucking round with other girls 🥺

OP,
"Why aren't I good enough?! Why aren't me and our son good enough for him to stop fucking round with other girls"

Stop blaming yourself for his poor choices. Stop.it.now.

Just thank your lucky stars you aren't married to this irresponsible moron.

See a solicitor and get some maintenance and visitation arrangements put in place. Also check with your Health Visitor about other entitlements you can claim.

I'm sorry this has happened to you.

I'm sorry OP. He won't change. He doesn't even care enough to come up with a decent excuse. He was fucking bored?! Seriously? Please care about yourself enough to say that yes, you may feel broken right now but this is the last time he will ever get to make you feel this way. You deserve better. Your son deserves better.

What a stupid response 🙄

When someone shows you who they really are, believe them.
He's a cheat. Always has been, always will be.

There's nothing wrong with you at all. You'll send yourself mad trying to work out what you did "wrong" when it wasn't ever about you at all..... stay strong. You're worth more.

It's not you that isn't good enough, it's him. I know you feel that the bottom has fallen out of your world but the only person to blame here is him. Do not let the bombshell that his actions have created lead you to question your own worth. His excuse is pathetic and gives an insight into his selfishness and immaturity. When normal people get bored they read a book, watch TV think of things to do with their partner and enjoy parenting their children. They don't go off and shag other people.

Whatever you do, please don't give him a chance to do this to you a third time. He's shown you exactly what kind of person he is and he won't change. Forgive him and he'll just get better at hiding his affairs and he will have more because he knows you'll forgive him.

Lots of people get bored in relationships;we've all been there at some point;it doesn't mean we cheat on our partners.

He's not only disrespected you by cheating but he's led on the other woman by lying through his teeth to get in her knickers meaning he has no respect for her either.

It's time to end things permanently;you deserve better.

Pack him off to his mothers then if he is so keen to live there.

Walk away, you and your child deserve so much better than this.

I knew something wasn’t right. I literally had a gut feeling since Saturday, I’ve been being sick and everything I just knew. Since he cheated the first time I’ve been really depressed and i was put on anti depressants. Don’t get me wrong I had more good days than bad days but every now and again I’d go through like a really hard couple of days.

I started to feel like this and we was talking and I just asked him I just have a bad feeling about something, I said is there anything going on. He said “you’ve got nothing to worry about! We need to figure out how to change the way your feeling so you don’t think I’m going to fuck youover all the time” then he said “ it just comes down to the fact you don’t trust me do you?” saying this to me but him knowing he’s texting another girl, acting like he’s single but trying to get me to feel like there is nothing going on when I just knew.

always trust your gut!!!!!!!

Theres some people out there that when they have a good think 'well if I could have this, what if I can have even more?'. That's a THEM issue. There's no fixing it. Because they are selfish and greedy and don't give a fuck who they hurt so long as they can keep getting more and more.

You can't ever be enough for people like that because they are never happy. They always want something else or added on or on the side.

All we can do is spot these sort as quickly as possible and drop them like the shit they are.

*that when they have a good thing, think

Ps: iysnmoynypu that's lacking. Its him. e's essentially like a cup with a hole in it. Don't waste any more time pouring anything into him. It's pointless.

You shouldn't be surprised. He did it once, you accepted it and it was inevitable to happen again. Hopefully lesson learnt for you.

Yeh, to me that aspect is worse than the cheating. The conscious intention to invalidate your intuition and make you doubt yourself and lose your sense of yourself, just so he can fuck two women.

And this is how he will treat somebody he presumably likes (you).

It's just such entitlement. His right to extra sex comes above the emotional well being of a woman he supposedly likes.

Yuck.

All my sympathies, and I hope you are so turned off my such entitlement and low emotional Quotient

HE isn't good enough for you OP, not the other way around. Do not let him come back, he will do this again.

It's not you, it really is him. He's a bastard. Try and limit contact with him and be kind to yourself.

OP this man will take every ounce of self esteem you have - trust me, I have been there. I did not have a child to factor in so do appreciate it was probably easier for me to wake up and see the light. However, because you have a child you have a reason. A reason to want better and to do better.

Do you want him to grow up modelling his behavior on his father? If you keep putting up with it and taking him back, how will he ever know it is wrong and unacceptable? His father is clearly not bothered about what his son witness' or believes about the way you treat people but you do.

Put your child first, put yourself first and get away from this man.

Now when I look back and see what I put up with, I am shocked. But it's what they do. I pity him now, he is with a girl who is only 18 as anyone our age knows what a cock end he is.

This will be your life if you don't change it. I don't believe you're upset over him - I believe you're upset at the life you wanted, a family. Please don't be scared to be on your own. Your time is better spent by yourself, rebuilding who you are, then wasting any more of it on this loser.

Why aren't I good enough?! Why aren't me and our son good enough for him to stop fucking round with other girls 🥺

YOU ARE TOO GOOD FOR HIM. YOUR SON IS BETTER OFF WITHOUT HIM AS A ROLE MODEL.

You don’t even need to trust your gut with this loser, he’s openly proven to you time and time again that his penis is his priority. Believe him. Raise your standards .

It’s not you not being good enough, it’s him. He’s an idiot. Boredom?! How about he steps up and does some bloody parenting rather than sexting some girl?

It isn't that you aren't good enough OP, honestly.

It entirely comes down to him having zero respect, and not just for you, but for women in general.

Think about it this way, he was happy to lie about everything to get a woman into bed. In any situation that shows he is a player who see's women as things as oppose to people. This won't change unless he has some major personality change or epiphany. Regardless of if he changes in the future, he isn't worth going through the heartache. His affairs will eat you up and beat you down.

Tell someone in real life what is going on. A friend, a parent, a relative...just someone who can help you, who you can turn to on a day to day basis. It won't be easy to end this relationship, but you should, for your own sake. You child deserves a happy mother and you deserve to be happy. This man will not make you happy.