yesterday, I finally cracked and told my boyfriend that I don’t love him anymore and I don’t want to be with him. There are numerous reasons why the relationship didn’t work out; including his constant grumpy/moanyness and the fact he is very controlling and manipulative. He was very upset but agreed he would save for a new place and move out when he could. I said that was fine and he could come and see the kids whenever he wanted to and I would help him move and get settled in.
fast forward to today he woke up in a rage and told me he refuses to leave because it’s ‘his’ house and he has a right to be here and I can’t kick him out. If I want to break up I have to leave.
we have a joint tenancy on a housing association house and we have 2 preschoolers for whom I am the main carer and he works 12 hours a day 5 days a week. He threatend to end the tenancy and make us all homeless or take me to court and take my children off of me if I make his life difficult.
his name is on the tenancy so I can’t make him leave any more than he can make me but where does that leave me? I have to just put up with it and live with him forever even after ending the relationship? I feel like a prisoner in my own home cursed to be controlled by him forever! I thought breaking up would finally give me back control of my own life but clearly not
i have no idea what to do