Background: I have a 14mo LB who has beautiful long blonde curly hair, it really is gorgeous, typical beachy / wild child look. Both his dad and I agreed we wouldn't have it cut until much older, it was fairly long in the fringe but not bothering him or affecting his vision.
I have a bad relationship with my mum at the best of times as she has a habit of breaking boundaries and doing absolutely abhorrent ridiculous stuff that you could never imagine doing to your own child. I didn't have a relationship with her for years until my son was born and I thought I would give her chance to have a relationship with her only grandchild, up until now it was going well and she seemed to be really trying hard. She had made a few remarks about DS hair but I had explained all of the above.
She looked after him for an hour today while I had an appointment. I got home and first thing I say is "you have cut his hair". It is glaringly obvious as his fringe is now above his eyebrows on one side and completely straight. She denies it and says "I would never do that, I know how much it means to you". I tell her I can obviously see its been cut and she continues to deny it. When she leaves I go to look at the kitchen scissors and find them covered in hair clippings. I then look in the bin and find the clumps of hair. I then notice my son is missing curls from the back of his head and has a bald patch where some curls have been cut off at the scalp.
I'm so upset. I was the only one in my family with curly hair so no one knew how to manage it properly and I hated it. I can now look after mine beautifully and look after my sons beautifully too, his hair is very precious to me. His first haircut was the last milestone card we had left to complete and now that has been taken from me! She even threw the hair in the bin! I presume she has kept the curls for herself. I feel so betrayed by her. We have sent her proof but she is still denying it. I'm so astounded!