We all have our reasons for separation, what's yours? What was your final straw, what made you make that decision?
Mine was that my exh could not / can't priorise his children's needs before his own. Didn't take responsibility / discuss anything ever! The separation is all my fault, I have destroyed my children's lives etc etc blah blah....
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What made you leave? Your final straw?
Lifeisarollercoaster647382 · 10/08/2022 17:46
PixelatedLunchbox · 10/08/2022 21:59
I found my journal from five years earlier and was reading my own words of how miserable I was. Five years of my life later, nothing had changed, and the penny dropped: that in another five years and another and another, nothing would still have changed. I got my financial ducks in a row and left six months later. Life is short, and it's precious, and we hold the keys to our own cages.
Pollydon · 11/08/2022 05:40
He was an abusive arse but I thought I'd hidden that fact well, I was very young. Over the Christmas period I was working nights in healthcare , he had 2 weeks off work. To punish me for speaking to my family on Xmas day he decided that he wasn't going to allow me to sleep in between shifts. After the 4th day I arrived in work to find my lovely boss waiting for me, she told me that I was on leave and she was taking me home to my parent's house, over an hours drive away. She and my colleagues had known for months that I was in an abusive relationship and she had decided enough was enough. I never went back to him & met my now DH of 28 years within a year.
She was a bloody angel.
Pollydon · 11/08/2022 05:40
He was an abusive arse but I thought I'd hidden that fact well, I was very young. Over the Christmas period I was working nights in healthcare , he had 2 weeks off work. To punish me for speaking to my family on Xmas day he decided that he wasn't going to allow me to sleep in between shifts. After the 4th day I arrived in work to find my lovely boss waiting for me, she told me that I was on leave and she was taking me home to my parent's house, over an hours drive away. She and my colleagues had known for months that I was in an abusive relationship and she had decided enough was enough. I never went back to him & met my now DH of 28 years within a year.
She was a bloody angel.
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