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Found messages for prostitutes on partners phone

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Kassy222 · 09/08/2022 07:38

Help! My partner recently got a new phone. Whilst moving furniture I found his old phone. I went through it as I have felt uneasy for quite some time. I found he had joined adult work and had messaged a prostitute for sex. He had re visited the site numerous times. Whilst working away he had also googled a massage parlour in the area he was working and also revisited adult work whilst he was away. (No new messages) but most have there phone numbers displayed anyway. Also I went out for a walk with a friend and whilst out the house he went on adult friend finder and searched women in a 5 mile radius. He didn’t register with the site but had filled out the boxes what he was looking for. I found he is always watching porn most days literally amy chance he gets which I know can be normal for men but it was even at times he would turn me down, I would leave the house and he would go straight on it.
we haven’t really had a sex lift for close to two years. He’s had low libido, despite my many efforts and despite me getting upset about it a lot and explaining to him it’s making me insecure and not feeling wanted. These feeling have made me question him a lot and have made me controlling which he states stresses him out. His answer to my recent find is that he’s never gone through with it. He states that he was confused about the low libido and didn’t know if he had lost his sexual attraction to me or women in general. He also said that he didn’t know if it was my behaviours that was putting him off me sexually. I asked why he went on adult friend finder and he said it just popped up and he was bored but would never go through with it. The pain and feeling is unbearable and He’s played it down like I’m partly to blame. Im confused and don’t know what to think, feel or do :-(

OP posts:
Original poster
Kassy222 · 11/08/2022 12:44

Update is I’ve left him and booked a flight to Miami to visit my best friend xx

OP posts:
Aikko · 11/08/2022 13:04

Kassy222 · 11/08/2022 12:44

Update is I’ve left him and booked a flight to Miami to visit my best friend xx

Enjoy the vacation and sunshine!

Pinkbonbon · 11/08/2022 13:19

Here's the thing op, he doesn't make you happy. Everything else aside.

You've got so wrapped up thinking about what he thinks and what he wants that youve forgotten yourself. You matter. Your needs matter. You deserve respect and kindness.

And this man, not only doesn't love you...but he does something far worse - he robs you of your own self love. And thats no way to live. And not a person you should live with.

Choose you.

Cyberworrier · 11/08/2022 13:19

Fantastic update!
Have a wonderful time with your best friend OP. So glad for you.
I am going to see my best friend who lives abroad soon and I can't wait.
Well done.

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 22:22

Why is everyone here like never take him take back etc etc

As a guy just been through this here’s my story why guys do this.

Got married 23 never been with anyone previously now 36.

  1. Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
  2. Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
  3. Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
  4. we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
  5. my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
  6. We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
  7. I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
  8. I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.

allboysherebutme · 23/11/2022 22:51

Divorce him, ask him to leave.
Once a loser, always a loser. X

IheartJKRowling · 23/11/2022 23:00

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 22:22

Why is everyone here like never take him take back etc etc

As a guy just been through this here’s my story why guys do this.

Got married 23 never been with anyone previously now 36.

  1. Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
  2. Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
  3. Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
  4. we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
  5. my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
  6. We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
  7. I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
  8. I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.

Oh, thank you so much for telling us little women the way to improve a marriage is for your husband to visit a prostitute, we are dazzled by your make insight into what makes a relationship successful.

Go on, off with you, back to whichever rock you crawled from under.

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 23:07

IheartJKRowling · 23/11/2022 23:00

Oh, thank you so much for telling us little women the way to improve a marriage is for your husband to visit a prostitute, we are dazzled by your make insight into what makes a relationship successful.

Go on, off with you, back to whichever rock you crawled from under.

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And you women are perfect never lust after other men.
im Just telling you porn is an addiction what it leads too. Don’t need to go under my rock I’m set free and have a happy marriage now I’ll come back out take victory for being a better person now not having an addiction.

Porkchops22 · 23/11/2022 23:12

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 22:22

Why is everyone here like never take him take back etc etc

As a guy just been through this here’s my story why guys do this.

Got married 23 never been with anyone previously now 36.

  1. Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
  2. Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
  3. Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
  4. we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
  5. my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
  6. We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
  7. I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
  8. I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.

😂😂😂🤮
Disgusting cunt, paying for women. Just grim.

BritInAus · 23/11/2022 23:18

Yay OP - awesome update! Thrilled for you.
Enjoy your holiday and the rest of your life without this loser.

Roundbasket · 23/11/2022 23:22

@Straighttalk22
’Why is everyone here like never take him take back etc etc’

because NO woman deserves to be with some sleazy dude who believes it’s ok to buy women

if consent has to be paid for it’s NOT consent.

True Consent cannot be bought .

i don’t know a woman alive who would want to be with a man who is happy to pay a woman to have we with him knowing she’s only doing it for money AND DOES NOT WANT To have sex with him

Simple as that really

the fact this needs to be explained to you says it all really

DontEatMyFace · 23/11/2022 23:24

He hasn’t got a low libido, he’s addicted to porn and using prostitutes.
He knows how it’s hurting you and your relationship and he’s kept on doing this for years.

I think he’s selfish and his behaviour is disgusting, I know I could never forgive, even if I didn’t end it immediately, I’d never respect him again.

Roundbasket · 23/11/2022 23:25

@Straighttalk22

would you have taken your wife back if she were taking money from men for sex … yeah thought not …
the double standards would be laughable if they weren’t so incredibly unbelievable

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:28

Not sure why you felt the need to resurrect a zombie thread to mansplain to an OP who last posted in August @Straighttalk22 but ... are you feeling OK? Because you seem to have misunderstood some very basic facts.

Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
Yeah - you missed the bit where it's not OP who's the one withholding sex. That's her pornhound partner. She's been craving a sexual relationship with him - why are you blaming HER for HIS refusal?

Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
OP has no children. You are an absolute arse to have missed her heartbreaking update about undergoing fertility treatment. Which is now all wasted, because who wants to make children with a man who pays women for sexual 'consent'?

Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
Congratulations. It;s taken you from the age of 15 to mid-30's to 'realise' something OP & PP worked out in very short order for themselves.

we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
It takes a lot of phone hours, making constant contact with sex workers & watching porn all night ...

my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
Aaaaw you poor baby.
Your wife THINKING about kissing another man is SO much worse than you hooking up with prostitutes. Twice.

We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
And your point is ...?

I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
And your justification for hating your wife & blaming her for the ED you gave yourself via porn addiction is ...?

I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.
He got a test! What a hero!

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.
Anxiety made me cheat missus.
It wasn't my selfishness & desire for a bit of strange.
It was ANXIETY.
My wife's anxiety is different. She's not allowed to cure it by visiting gigolos.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.
"Be honest" is your instruction to a woman who's husband lies to her about paying sex workers? Ha ha ha ha hahahahahaha
btw - our wife just PM'd me, She's secretly planning to dump your cheating, blame-laying, pathetically porn-addled arse.
We're all supporting her & cheering her on.

Now run along, little man. Your self-serving diatribe isn't fooling anyone.

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:35

I’ll come back out take victory for being a better person now not having an addiction.

Yeah despite your bragging that it only took you 20 years to realise that porn is addictive, you still don't understand what addiction is.

Just like a booze addiction - you are NEVER an "ex addict". You are a booze addict in recovery. You are still a sex addict. Just one who is managing to keep it in his wife. For the time being.

You are also still a man who reckons it's just dandy to pay a woman for use of her body, for 'consent' that she would not give you if you were skint. You used prostitutes without a single concern about what circumstances brought them to sex work & who was coercing/trafficking/abusing them. What a better person you are.

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 23:41

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:28

Not sure why you felt the need to resurrect a zombie thread to mansplain to an OP who last posted in August @Straighttalk22 but ... are you feeling OK? Because you seem to have misunderstood some very basic facts.

Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
Yeah - you missed the bit where it's not OP who's the one withholding sex. That's her pornhound partner. She's been craving a sexual relationship with him - why are you blaming HER for HIS refusal?

Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
OP has no children. You are an absolute arse to have missed her heartbreaking update about undergoing fertility treatment. Which is now all wasted, because who wants to make children with a man who pays women for sexual 'consent'?

Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
Congratulations. It;s taken you from the age of 15 to mid-30's to 'realise' something OP & PP worked out in very short order for themselves.

we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
It takes a lot of phone hours, making constant contact with sex workers & watching porn all night ...

my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
Aaaaw you poor baby.
Your wife THINKING about kissing another man is SO much worse than you hooking up with prostitutes. Twice.

We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
And your point is ...?

I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
And your justification for hating your wife & blaming her for the ED you gave yourself via porn addiction is ...?

I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.
He got a test! What a hero!

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.
Anxiety made me cheat missus.
It wasn't my selfishness & desire for a bit of strange.
It was ANXIETY.
My wife's anxiety is different. She's not allowed to cure it by visiting gigolos.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.
"Be honest" is your instruction to a woman who's husband lies to her about paying sex workers? Ha ha ha ha hahahahahaha
btw - our wife just PM'd me, She's secretly planning to dump your cheating, blame-laying, pathetically porn-addled arse.
We're all supporting her & cheering her on.

Now run along, little man. Your self-serving diatribe isn't fooling anyone.

She’s right here beside me this site full of arseholes like you aww poor woman husband cheated with a woman paid her for it.

Look at the reasons men cheat when have bitchiness like yours

All this emotional crap you give us you ain’t got a clue what you want in life you think you do and marriages can be stronger when people cheat because it shows what’s missing and how bad they are in the first place.

Yes it took me 21 years to get over my addiction why did I have an addiction because of my child hood.

You haven’t a clue if I had been abused or what I might have been through.

So I’ll tell you summat as I said earlier look at why we cheat and the Bloke’s past don’t just assume or judge.

Roundbasket · 23/11/2022 23:53

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:28

Not sure why you felt the need to resurrect a zombie thread to mansplain to an OP who last posted in August @Straighttalk22 but ... are you feeling OK? Because you seem to have misunderstood some very basic facts.

Look at your marriage no sex life so yes men are going to go else where. Men looking for love and although you say you love him do you touch each other
Yeah - you missed the bit where it's not OP who's the one withholding sex. That's her pornhound partner. She's been craving a sexual relationship with him - why are you blaming HER for HIS refusal?

Don’t spend time together your love goes onto your kids rather than making time for each other
OP has no children. You are an absolute arse to have missed her heartbreaking update about undergoing fertility treatment. Which is now all wasted, because who wants to make children with a man who pays women for sexual 'consent'?

Lo labido is because he’s watching porn having had a sex addiction since the age of 15 i hadnt realised until recently porn is actually an addiction and the issue also leads your brain to wanting things you can’t ask your partner and lustful thoughts.
Congratulations. It;s taken you from the age of 15 to mid-30's to 'realise' something OP & PP worked out in very short order for themselves.

we were living like flat mates each on our phone every night no communication.
It takes a lot of phone hours, making constant contact with sex workers & watching porn all night ...

my wife since the start of our marriage has also looked at another man admitting she nearly kissed him (emotional cheating)
Aaaaw you poor baby.
Your wife THINKING about kissing another man is SO much worse than you hooking up with prostitutes. Twice.

We hadn’t a sex life due to my ED (Recently found out it was the porn and since stopping watching it have a higher sex drive) my wife was looking at porn and other men wanting to be loved in that way. (Porn can be classed as cheating)
And your point is ...?

I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.
And your justification for hating your wife & blaming her for the ED you gave yourself via porn addiction is ...?

I went once to a hooker twice we didn’t have sex other things went on my reason was I was craving other women having never been with another woman I was craving the desires of this world. The first time all we did was get naked she touched me that was it the second time was just me craving a woman never had intercourse and yes I got tested both times.
He got a test! What a hero!

It takes 2 for a marriage to work all you guys going he’s a cheat always a cheat. Look at his back ground does he suffer with anxiety? and for people who say it’s a bit of porn I’ll tell you it’s not it leads you down paths and the stuff you watch gets worse.
Anxiety made me cheat missus.
It wasn't my selfishness & desire for a bit of strange.
It was ANXIETY.
My wife's anxiety is different. She's not allowed to cure it by visiting gigolos.

Now our marriage is now a million times stronger because we make time to communicate, no phones in the bedroom, talk more were stronger for it. Don’t give up but be honest with each other. Note he who casts the first stone.
"Be honest" is your instruction to a woman who's husband lies to her about paying sex workers? Ha ha ha ha hahahahahaha
btw - our wife just PM'd me, She's secretly planning to dump your cheating, blame-laying, pathetically porn-addled arse.
We're all supporting her & cheering her on.

Now run along, little man. Your self-serving diatribe isn't fooling anyone.

SPOT ON !!!!

everything you say is exactly right but I’m betting he’ll be back with some smart aleck insults because he ckearly has zero respect for women

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:53

Look at the reasons men cheat when have bitchiness like yours
😂😂😂

You cheated on your wife, & paid prostitutes, because one day in the future some random on the net was going to have the bitchiness to call out your bullshit?

That is quite a talent for precognition you have there, BentTalk.
You should be on the telly.

Roundbasket · 23/11/2022 23:53

Straighttalk22 · 23/11/2022 23:41

She’s right here beside me this site full of arseholes like you aww poor woman husband cheated with a woman paid her for it.

Look at the reasons men cheat when have bitchiness like yours

All this emotional crap you give us you ain’t got a clue what you want in life you think you do and marriages can be stronger when people cheat because it shows what’s missing and how bad they are in the first place.

Yes it took me 21 years to get over my addiction why did I have an addiction because of my child hood.

You haven’t a clue if I had been abused or what I might have been through.

So I’ll tell you summat as I said earlier look at why we cheat and the Bloke’s past don’t just assume or judge.

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BINGO !!!

KettrickenSmiled · 23/11/2022 23:55

IKR @Roundbasket - he doesn't realise how hilarious he is.
(unless you're married to him, or have to pretend to want sex with him for money ...)

Roundbasket · 24/11/2022 00:02

@Straighttalk22

’So I’ll tell you summat as I said earlier look at why we cheat and the Bloke’s past don’t just assume or judge.’

ok but I’m curious , do you make the same conscientious for women when they cheat ?
if your wife cheated would you take her back ?

Straighttalk22 · 24/11/2022 00:25

Roundbasket · 24/11/2022 00:02

@Straighttalk22

’So I’ll tell you summat as I said earlier look at why we cheat and the Bloke’s past don’t just assume or judge.’

ok but I’m curious , do you make the same conscientious for women when they cheat ?
if your wife cheated would you take her back ?

Believe it or not yes I do my wife’s sister has cheated on her husband he doesn’t know does that make it ok?
Also had female friend married and she cheated with my best friend who was (single) her husband took her back. It takes 2 to make a marriage work if it’s paid for not paid for does it matter? One could argue paying for it there’s no emotions involved but that’s another debate.

If you put the time and effort in talk about things work it out it’s not just he’s cheated there’s reasons why people do what they do.
I could argue mine was curiousity never been with another woman. We werent on a good place and it was my addiction to porn and using it that took me down the path I chose..did I ever foresee myself doing it no.
Would I take my wife back if she cheated yes I would if the effort was there from both parties as my wife said to me we’ve both been guilty in our marriage for our failings. People have different perceptions of what cheating is but it’s how work through them.
Is watching porn cheating?
Is texting another guy going on days out to the point of you’re lusting after him rather than being with your husband to the point you want to kiss him and other things?

monsteramunch · 24/11/2022 00:30

I was angry with my wife all the time i had a hatred towards her it got to the point I couldn’t even look at her naked.

This and the history with sex workers. Who he cannot possibly have known weren't trafficked, abused, coerced etc.

So a man who literally hates women and holds them in contempt.

Who came onto a predominantly female site to resurrect a four month old thread in which a woman shared that her husband didn't want to have sex with her... to tell women how to deal with men who cheat on them because they won't have sex with them 😂

Definitely sounds like a happy person who sees women as equals!

monsteramunch · 24/11/2022 00:33

It takes 2 to make a marriage work if it’s paid for not paid for does it matter? One could argue paying for it there’s no emotions involved but that’s another debate.

Cheating with a consenting adult = shitty but consensual.

Cheating by paying a sex worker = shitty and showing a complete disregard for women as you cannot possibly have known whether the sex workers you visited were abused, coerced, trafficked etc. You were willing to run the risk they were.

Punters hate women. Otherwise they wouldn't feel capable of having sex with someone who may be one of the many who are abused, coerced, trafficked etc.

Vile.

Roundbasket · 24/11/2022 00:41

Straighttalk22 · 24/11/2022 00:25

Believe it or not yes I do my wife’s sister has cheated on her husband he doesn’t know does that make it ok?
Also had female friend married and she cheated with my best friend who was (single) her husband took her back. It takes 2 to make a marriage work if it’s paid for not paid for does it matter? One could argue paying for it there’s no emotions involved but that’s another debate.

If you put the time and effort in talk about things work it out it’s not just he’s cheated there’s reasons why people do what they do.
I could argue mine was curiousity never been with another woman. We werent on a good place and it was my addiction to porn and using it that took me down the path I chose..did I ever foresee myself doing it no.
Would I take my wife back if she cheated yes I would if the effort was there from both parties as my wife said to me we’ve both been guilty in our marriage for our failings. People have different perceptions of what cheating is but it’s how work through them.
Is watching porn cheating?
Is texting another guy going on days out to the point of you’re lusting after him rather than being with your husband to the point you want to kiss him and other things?

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Ok so you’d take your wife back … that I agree would be fair

however this part of your response I take huge objection to
‘if it’s paid for not paid for does it matter?’

yes it does matter . Do you think that women are objects to be used and paid for ? Do you understand that there are reasons women get into sec work . Do you have much of any education on gender issues and how women are not paid more in ANY other jobs other than those where their bodies are used and exploited for men / society

do you see a problem with this

what is your position on the fact that paying a sex worker is effectively paying a woman to do something against what she would freely give consent to without money

woyld you be happy to be married to a women who works as a sex worker or for any daughter of yours to work as one ?