Should I start caring more about my looks?

[Nhll454]

I've been with my husband since I was a teenager, now mid forties, and I've always been quite relaxed (some might say lazy!), about my looks. I'm just not that interested, I don't have an opinion on other peoples looks either, I've never seen a person I thought was unattractive. My husband takes care of himself and makes a good bit of effort with his appearance, but I am getting older, a bit of grey etc and it's just going to get worse. But I'm not bothered on a personal level. I just want to relax as I get older but I've met some people lately who are very looks orientated and it's started to get me thinking.... Should I care more? I've seen it said that when you let yourself go you're letting your partner down. I get that in terms of fitness/cleanliness but should it go beyond that?

But I wouldn’t want to be too “hair-shirt” about it all. Sometimes clothes are beautiful and make up can be nice too and I can admire that if I see a woman dressed well or in an interesting way. Just as I would if I saw a man well-dressed, though that is VERY RARE! But not everyone is interested. We’re all different as I said. My mum was interested in clothes - but could not care less about her home environment which was basic to say the least!

I wish more people were like you. It really doesn't matter what you look like, attractiveness is as much about personality as it is looks so I doubt, after all these years, that your partner minds if you're relaxed or not about your looks.

Good for you. Life is about so much more than worrying about other people's perceptions of you.