Online dating - what do you look for in a man..?

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I'm posting on behalf of a very good male friend of mine.

He's 57, tall slim, good looking, takes care of himself. And single.

He's doing online dating but not having much luck!

He gets chatting to women but dates don't materialise or he goes on a date or two and they tell him he's lovely and want to be friends - He's stayed in contact with a couple and built good friendships.

He's my friend so obviously I think he's great!

I've checked his profile - it's all good and none of the obvious no nos... Good photos - not a fish, bathroom/half naked selfie or other woman in sight.

He'd really like some reflections on the experiences/opinions of women on where he might be going wrong. What do you look for in a man? What turns you off one you were initially attracted to?

I've got a boyfriendand don't have much online dating experience so I'm not much help...

TIA

@Crazykatie I'll ask again. Sources? Stats with regards to marriage in African countries? Anything apart from offensive assertions?

As someone who actually is both African and a Black woman (please note the use of upper case) I think you’re talking absolute nonsense. Racist nonsense, as well.

Well a black colleague told me she only dated black men. Now reverse that and see the outrage if I said I only dated white men. Why on earth is colour relevant?

Most people, statistically, date within their race. There is no drama or shock horror about it.

As long as you’re not wandering about being a twat or saying offensive things, you can date who you like. Nobody is outraged about it. I seriously doubt that the Black colleague in question would have given a shit if you’d responded in kind.

As to why colour is relevant - that’s a statement of racial privilege. If you’re an ethnic minority in a systemically racist society (which is all of them), race is always relevant. If you’re unaware of that, then it’s probably for the best that you don’t date interracially.

It would put me off that he has never been married and never had children. He’s never “closed that deal”.

is he on paid sites? There’s a level of self selection on those.

I think he should just go on as many dates as possible and not be a pen pal. And be really clear BEFORE the date, about what he’s looking for.