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He told me he would pay me for sex

104 replies

crocsRecool · 02/08/2022 14:28

Hello
I’ve recently have been seeing a guy, we’re exclusive and I really really like him.

Recently we have slept together, and he was texting me today saying he would pay me to do that again. He said me being on top was amazing and he would pay a specific amount for me to do today. I feel yuck, my friend has said I’m being fussy but I feel like it means he’s done it before?

OP posts:
darisdet · 02/08/2022 18:14

Idontthink
If he took you out and paid for the night out meal, cinema, drinks and then you had sex how is that different from him paying you to have sex? It’s all a monetary exchange just paid differently

I'm worried you can't see the difference Shock

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Ohsugarhoneyicetea · 02/08/2022 18:54

@Idontthink
How sad, of course its not, the exchange if you accept your dinner being paid for, is to pay on the next date. If there will be no next date, you dont let them pay.

I feel for you if you price access to your body at the cost of a pasta and a wine. And using your 'pricing' analogy, access to my body is mutual attraction, respect and trust - and they are priceless.

lastminutedotcom22 · 02/08/2022 18:59

I used to work with someone who was in a similar situation - she was a single mum, hard up so maybe he thought she was an easy target??
Some guy said this to her but something didn't add up properly she got rid then She rang 111, the police interviewed him, he was on their radar already - what a surprise and was under surveillance for trafficking women and was basically a pimp and he "recruited" other women like this

wibblywobblybits · 02/08/2022 19:04

DenholmElliot1 · 02/08/2022 14:29

How much?

Lol

Cismyfatarse · 02/08/2022 19:09

Tell him you usually charge £500 and are totally insulted by the amount he has offered.

And then send him an invoice for the last time.

alwaysontheloo · 02/08/2022 19:28

@Idontthink

If he took you out and paid for the night out meal, cinema, drinks and then you had sex how is that different from him paying you to have sex? It’s all a monetary exchange just paid differently

WTF? Is that how you view women and dating? You think all women are prostitutes?

fuckfuckfuck2021 · 02/08/2022 19:29

Wow what a twat! I would be hugely offended the fact he had offered you a specific amount to have sex with him again is crazy. No way is that a clumsy compliment 😱

WelliesandWine88 · 02/08/2022 19:29

I cannot stress this enough 🤮🤮🤮

WidgetDigit2022 · 02/08/2022 19:37

Sounds like a silly joke to me that isn't funny but I wouldn't find it offensive.

It's like saying "ah I'd pay a million pounds for you to give me another back massage". Obviously you wouldn't, and obviously you wouldn't have to. Its got nothing to do with professional masseuse's. It's just a compliment, a way of him saying he loved it.

If you raise this with him, you'll probably upset him as I highly doubt he meant any offensive or meant to insinuate that you're a prostitute.

BullshitHunter · 02/08/2022 19:47

Make sure you carry enough change on you for a five pound note and you will be fine.

Discovereads · 02/08/2022 19:56

Well, at least he’s not invoicing you for the sex.

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crocsRecool · 02/08/2022 21:17

I promise I’m not a journalist….
I love mumsnet I love hearing peoples opinions and I have one close friend who told me I was being fussy.

I know how to listen to my instincts and I’m actually not going to see him anymore, it’s like all attraction has gone. It would cost more than £130 anyway 😂

OP posts:
D0lphine · 02/08/2022 21:31

I agree I wouldn't want to continue with this man... on a certain level he sees women as things to be bought.

Suzi888 · 02/08/2022 21:33

Sandra1984 · 02/08/2022 15:34

Ask him for 300 hundred, 130 is shit.

🤣🤣🤣🤣🤣

User23072 · 02/08/2022 22:25

crocsRecool · 02/08/2022 14:55

It was a weirdly specific offer (£130) I’m not sure whether to be offended….
Maybe it was a joke but the first time we had sex and that’s what you can come up with

If this is real then run for the hills.

If you're exclusive, you'll surely have sex again so why does he need to pay you for it?

This is beyond weird.....

Hawkins001 · 02/08/2022 22:30

@crocsRecool
Do what's best for you, and if you did choose to accept x amount, get as much as you can.

All the best op.

Buythebag · 02/08/2022 22:34

I was about to come on and say he obviously meant it as a joke until:

It was a weirdly specific offer (£130)

OMG 😂

He clearly DID mean it and that's how much he has in his young savers bank account! Dump!

GreenManalishi · 02/08/2022 22:38

I feel yuck

and herein lies the answer to your question.

LoveInNashville · 02/08/2022 22:42

I’m not sure what’s worse, him saying that or your close friend saying you’re being fussy. I’d get rid of both of them, he’s a prick but you don’t need friends like that either.

Keep being ‘fussy’.

PeppaPigIsAnnoying · 02/08/2022 22:48

A friend of mine had a ONS. When she woke up in the morning the guy was gone and he'd left some notes for her on the bedside table

£50

britneyisfree · 02/08/2022 22:49

£50 omg how rude!!

What did she spend it on?🤣🤦🏾‍♀️

userxx · 02/08/2022 22:49

PeppaPigIsAnnoying · 02/08/2022 22:48

A friend of mine had a ONS. When she woke up in the morning the guy was gone and he'd left some notes for her on the bedside table

£50

Cheapskate

Sandra1984 · 02/08/2022 22:56

PeppaPigIsAnnoying · 02/08/2022 22:48

A friend of mine had a ONS. When she woke up in the morning the guy was gone and he'd left some notes for her on the bedside table

£50

Considering prostitutes charge a minimum of 500 pounds per night he got a pretty good deal. I guess some men have figured out that Tinder is cheaper than paying escorts and it's working quite nicely for them. I feel bad for the real hookers who are loosing so much business to Tinder.

Branleuse · 02/08/2022 23:50

Sandra1984 · 02/08/2022 22:56

Considering prostitutes charge a minimum of 500 pounds per night he got a pretty good deal. I guess some men have figured out that Tinder is cheaper than paying escorts and it's working quite nicely for them. I feel bad for the real hookers who are loosing so much business to Tinder.

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