Wondering why men these days always want to see their partner with other men..

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It's become a trend.

When I was single, most men I spoke to said they get off to the idea of me with other men, wanted to know about past experiences, things like that in detail, would be open to sharing me with another guy.

I've just spoken with another friend who's single, and she's been getting the same from men. Wanting to know who she's having sex with, and in great detail. We don't date the same type of men or even have mutual friends or circles, so it's not that. I see this "fetish" on MN a lot too.

What is causing this to spike? Why is it happening?

Brilliant 😂

Excellent, and wonderful word solipsistic.

Thank you.

Great comment.

Vanilla (which is actually an incredible spice) used to refer to heterosexual missionary position. Now the term seems to be used dismissively against simply being a human turned on by shagging another human.

We're mammals! I think if you ALWAYS need all the bells and whistles to fuck the person in bed with you, there is a possibility that actually you just don't fancy them enough?

I'm not at all offended by kink if it's consensual though (find it a bit boring but that's just my personal opinion). I do reserve the right to criticise kink that apes abusive power differentials eg misogynist, paedophilic or racist. Or worse actually IS those abusive power differentials.

I've been fairly adventurous sexually, including group sex, but in the end, nothing quite beats good missionary. I don't care if that makes me vanilla.

Pre-internet porn: straight man meets a beautiful woman and wants to shag her

Post-internet porn: straight man meets a beautiful woman and wants to imagine someone else shagging her while he has a wank, because too much porn has made some men see sex not as a moment of intimate connection between two people but as an individual and solipsistic act of content consumption

I know other people have also copied this but bloody hell it really summarises it perfectly.

And the poster who points out if you always need the bells and whistles then maybe you just don’t fancy the person enough- again, absolutely spot on, there is a trend to see anyone who doesn’t engage in porn/paraphillia sex as terribly repressed and prudish, and trying to erase the fact that having an emotional connection with someone can make sex much more pleasurable.

there is a trend to see anyone who doesn’t engage in porn/paraphillia
sex as terribly repressed and prudish, and trying to erase the fact
that having an emotional connection with someone can make sex much
more pleasurable

Of course, and this suits men and Governments perfectly.

The virtue signalling that goes on with accepting porn is being written into the younger and future generation's psyche.

Love and respect don't make as much money., and it appears women and the family unit are suffering.