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Wondering why men these days always want to see their partner with other men..

81 replies

airpodcushion · 01/08/2022 10:24

It's become a trend.

When I was single, most men I spoke to said they get off to the idea of me with other men, wanted to know about past experiences, things like that in detail, would be open to sharing me with another guy.

I've just spoken with another friend who's single, and she's been getting the same from men. Wanting to know who she's having sex with, and in great detail. We don't date the same type of men or even have mutual friends or circles, so it's not that. I see this "fetish" on MN a lot too.

What is causing this to spike? Why is it happening?

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Iamclearlyamug · 31/10/2022 16:51

See that's not my experience at all. My current partner and previous partner couldn't have been less interested in my sexual past and certainly would NOT have appreciated seeing me with another man.

Caveat being that maybe it's a cultural thing? I don't date English men so maybe they're different. Current partner is Polish and previous was Turkish

ArcticSkewer · 31/10/2022 16:54

How many of them actually go through with it? Or is it all talk? I know a few couples where the man changed his mind halfway through... and then had a big strop about it

EndlessMagpies · 31/10/2022 17:04

When is it ever a good idea to share highly personal information with someone you barely know?

Sugargliderwombat · 31/10/2022 17:05

I think this is a fantasy for someone you don't really care about, more of a one night stand turn on - I don't think men want their actual partners to sleep with other men.

EndlessMagpies · 31/10/2022 17:10

frozendaisy · 31/10/2022 14:47

Anyone else had to Google pegging?

Not a chance!!! Grin

howdidIgetthere · 31/10/2022 17:16

Cuckolding isn't all about pain and ideas of cheating, for a lot of men it suspends the stress of their everyday to give up control much like being a sub.. but I guess it's less emasculating. For men in a stressful high powered job where they always have to take control and make decisions, it can be a very effective stress relief to watch listen or know someone else is taking that control and satisfying their partner

mourndayclub · 31/10/2022 17:20

@Sugargliderwombat I've been with my husband for almost 4 years now and I fulfil his cuckolding fantasy fairly regularly.. it goes through phases of doing it and then having a break but his ultimate enjoyment comes from me having the most pleasure possible, the more I enjoy it the better so it's not a one night stand thing at all

NC12345665 · 31/10/2022 17:21

Looks like someone's fishing for stories to feed their fetish. Hmm

Crikeyalmighty · 31/10/2022 17:25

Ah- whatever happened to romance!! No wonder plenty of women are totally off men if this is the kind of shizzle they are having to deal with

donquixotedelamancha · 31/10/2022 17:28

Very popular in the Latin porn watchers world apparently!

Estne multum porn Latinum? Quotidie schola est dies.

RudsyFarmer · 31/10/2022 17:29

whatthefuck23 · 01/08/2022 11:18

Same with pegging, that’s all Over Tinder at the moment. I have no issue with what people want to do but butting it on their profile is just grim to me. ‘Hi I’m Steve, I like walking, red wine and love to be pegged’ literally every 4th profile

🤣

Whattodoagainandagain · 31/10/2022 17:50

Absolutely no way would I like to see my partner with another man.

ArcticSkewer · 31/10/2022 18:07

One of my female friends likes to see her male partner with other men. Poor sods usually get coerced into trying it once but aren't up for a repeat performance.

EBearhug · 31/10/2022 18:32

donquixotedelamancha · 31/10/2022 17:28

Very popular in the Latin porn watchers world apparently!

Estne multum porn Latinum? Quotidie schola est dies.

Oh yes. All those frescoes in Pompeii, and there was some filthy writing (not actually on the A-level syllabus.) And they were keen on things like phallic lampstands.

You've clearly not been watching enough BBC4. 😁

firstmummy2019 · 31/10/2022 18:50

YouAreNotBatman · 01/08/2022 12:58

Porn.
They fried their brains with that shit.
A lot of men just see women as something to fulfil their sexual fantasies on.

Yes! Porn has all but ruined male sexuality.

SammyScrounge · 31/10/2022 18:51

howdidIgetthere · 31/10/2022 17:16

Cuckolding isn't all about pain and ideas of cheating, for a lot of men it suspends the stress of their everyday to give up control much like being a sub.. but I guess it's less emasculating. For men in a stressful high powered job where they always have to take control and make decisions, it can be a very effective stress relief to watch listen or know someone else is taking that control and satisfying their partner

What woman would take on a man so inadequate?8>

firstmummy2019 · 31/10/2022 18:51

Eleusa · 01/08/2022 14:51

Pre-internet porn: straight man meets a beautiful woman and wants to shag her.

Post-internet porn: straight man meets a beautiful woman and wants to imagine someone else shagging her while he has a wank, because too much porn has made some men see sex not as a moment of intimate connection between two people but as an individual and solipsistic act of content consumption.

This!

JamSandle · 31/10/2022 18:59

My friends bf is into this and loves seeing her with other men. Cuckolding fetish.

CaronPoivre · 31/10/2022 19:02

Grim. My husband would probably leave me. Our male friends would find it equally abhorrent as would all the younger men I know well.

Clearly we mix in very different circles. In my world fidelity and commitment are seen as the ideal.

GardenMind · 31/10/2022 19:12

Porn dumbs the brain down. You can get natural sexual high , higher than watching porn. That is what the Karma Sutra is for or tantric sex ... porn only gives pleasure for a short time... it is really boring, but addictive . It desensitises you. It is narcissistic society we live in of addiction. Does porn make people happy? Not long term surely. People who do porn as a job it is quite mentally exhausting job.

Bravosir · 31/10/2022 19:45

I’ve just googled Pegging too! Christ almighty. No wonder women are going off men and dating.

dapsnotplimsolls · 31/10/2022 19:58

frozendaisy · 31/10/2022 14:47

Anyone else had to Google pegging?

I googled it a while back when princeofpegging was trending on twitter :)

THisbackwithavengeance · 31/10/2022 20:08

I miss the days when we had good old fashioned sex with a hard dicked man who got turned on by the sight, taste and smell of our bodies.

Now they're all porn hounds who can't get it up unless their partner is indulging their latest kink which is usually either dangerous, degrading or illegal.

Even on MN, women are sneering at so called Vanilla sex.

It's not exactly Mills and Boon is it?

Bananalanacake · 31/10/2022 21:06

Pegging is hanging out the washing, but I might have to Google solipsistic.

TheHappyLoser · 31/10/2022 23:24

THisbackwithavengeance · 31/10/2022 20:08

I miss the days when we had good old fashioned sex with a hard dicked man who got turned on by the sight, taste and smell of our bodies.

Now they're all porn hounds who can't get it up unless their partner is indulging their latest kink which is usually either dangerous, degrading or illegal.

Even on MN, women are sneering at so called Vanilla sex.

It's not exactly Mills and Boon is it?

God I agree with this!