Hi
very confused and stressed mumma here needing some advice! Me and my partner have been together for almost 3 years, very very close and loving with each other until the past 6 months or so after our baby was born.. he’s become so cold and withdrawn (very little sex life which isn’t like us whatso ever) he always made it very clear how he felt about me, but not anymore.. At first I thought it was stress but since bringing it up to him he’s become even more cold, it’s like we’re strangers!
fast forward to Wednesday last week, he nipped to his mums after work (nothing unusual there) and our little girl got hold of his smart watch and was on his call log, I took it away from her and noticed that he’d called his ex’s works number, I was on the phone to him at the time so I asked if he’s spoken to her today and instantly the call log was deleted from the watch and he said he has no idea what I’m talking about.. something didn’t add up but I left it. Then when we went to bed he went to Google something and his browser was still open from earlier which showed his ex’s works number.. I pretended I didn’t see it. Then the next day he had logged me out of the o2 app (we have 2 phones one his and one mine on his account, we both use the app on our phones to keep an eye on our data usage etc) I thought nothing of it and carried on as usual.. then that evening i mentioned the Google search that I saw and he got up his browser to show his search history trying to prove that he didn’t Google her works number BUT again his previous browser was still open and it was how to find call logs on o2.. I didn’t leave it this time I questioned him and he said he was just looking to see if it was possible to find it on the app.. I left it at that. THEN last night he lay in bed on his phone looking confused and said he’s just got a random text from someone that said ‘hey, I heard you were off last week I hope you’re feeling better. Are you in tomorrow? Xx’ (he did leave work last Wednesday to go to a drs appointment)
He replied, sorry I don’t have your number saved who is this?
their reply, it’s (so and so) haha x
he replied, sorry I don’t know a (so and so) I think you may have the wrong number. Who do you think this is?
their reply, (so and so?) which by the way is his name..
his reply, that is my name but I’m very confused because I don’t know a (so and so) where do you work?
their reply, ok must be wrong number so sorry.
allllll evening after that he was talking about these texts and over explaining it.. saying he’ll let me know if she texts again(why would she if it’s the wrong number?) he saved the number and checked on WhatsApp to see if there was a profile picture, there was.. a woman that he “used to work with 4 years ago”
am I being paranoid or does something not add up here? I’m going crazy and I have no idea what to do. Do I forget it or do I pay attention to his behaviour and sit on it for a while?
sorry it’s a long one!
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Is he hiding something?
Moomoo012 · 25/07/2022 13:38
CrazyRatLover · 25/07/2022 17:42
If he was quilty regarding the text, why would he read it out to you?
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