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It’s 2am and I am out of my mind with worry. DH and have been together for 27 years and married for 20 years. No kids, just us. We live a long way from family, but neither of us have families who are close knit, no reason it’s just the way it is.
Over the last three or four years DH has been becoming increasingly angry at the world (not me specifically). This has become magnified with the pandemic. He sees everything as an injustice or slight against him and becomes wound up over things. Every topic of conversation no matter where is starts ends with how nasty people are and everyone is out for themselves. It’s really hard to deal with. He now works completely at home following the pandemic and in the last two and a half years has only seen me and his Mum. I think his lack of social contact is really taking its toll. Pre- COVID he used to play with a sports team but hasn’t gone back. Gentle encouragement is backfiring as he doesn’t like being told what to do. He has no contact with any former friends at all. Suggestions that he makes contact are just answered with that there is no point they are all out for themselves.
The whole thing is driving a wedge between us. We are loosing intimacy, no kisses good night now, or when I come in from work. He’s not unkind to me and makes a lot of effort with chores and so on. I’m just so sad that my beautiful funny husband has been replaced with a cynical, angry man raging at the world. I’ve tried talking with him but it just ends in a row. I’m getting really concerned that this could end our marriage as we end up not being able to chat or talk without ending up in this awful place of everything being awful and the world burning.
to be fair everything is really shit what with climate change, politics etc, but if you fixate on this and forget the good things you will end up in a bad place.
Has anyone else seen this in their DPs, friends, relatives? Any advice?