DH belittling my achievements

[Offandonagain]

An example today… I’ve just been for a lovely solo walk after work in the local mountains (I live in the Lakes). There’s a grade 1 scramble I’ve been wanting to do for ages and the conditions were lovely tonight soo I went and did it! I was a little nervous due to the exposure but so chuffed with myself for doing it!…. Dh has done it before.

I got home and told him. All I needed was a good effort! Or well done! But instead, the first thing he says is well the conditions are good, it’s much harder in the rain!… I said of course it is! I wouldn’t do it in the rain! He then said I bet you were scared…. I was a little to start with but I tried to describe my experience and he just kept saying you must have been scared!

I just stopped the convo and refused to tell him anymore about my walk. What’s the point?!

It’s funny because I work with autistic kids in an sen school and they’re all so different! Yes there are traits, but notiing you could pin point from one single thread on MN

The only man who actually put me down - though I can’t say many have raised me up either - was a fully fledged Narcissist (NPD). In fact this how I found out about the disorder about 10 years ago.

I only dated him for a few months. When he found out I had a university degree (naturally he didn’t) he immediately declared it as completely “worthless”. Later he diagnosed me as having ‘mental problems’ for no reason whatsoever. He could not give me one credit for anything (apart from nice eyes on date no.1).

Luckily he shortly proved to be mad as a box of frogs and I stopped dating him then. But have stopped seeing him immediately!!

Not saying your partner is like this OP. But it’s not OK for him to “put you down”.

I hope he is absolutely stellar otherwise, and I would consider his general impact on you and what positives he truly brings to your life.

SHOULD have stopped seeing him

Did I imagine it or did he say your geography degree was just colouring in? Unless it was genuine, humerous banter (and he acknowledges really how hard a Geog degree can be really). Hmm…. What was his degree in? I’m curious*

Anyway if he is genuinely putting you down - and I suspect so, since you’ve posted so I’m geuessing not getting the loving light hearted banter aspect - well IMO - that’s a bad sign. (Also as another poster said why bother with stupid games? )

*childish but I’d like to think of a parting shot twatty response to his….

He doesn’t have a degree funnily enough! He does earn way more than me though 🙄