He’s blocked me on everything

[Jolene93]

Me and the guy I’m dating usually message first thing in the morning but yesterday I hadn’t heard from him so thought I’d call instead as it was his day off, he didn’t answer but then text me and said he was on the phone - I didn’t reply as thought leave him to it as he’s obviously busy.
He then text me when he was done asking if I was okay, I said yeah and asked him etc etc.
This basically escalated out of nowhere to him asking me what was up when I said “cool xxx” to him being okay?? I said nothing and he kept pressing what was wrong so I said I don’t want an argument, then he ended it with me over text & blocked me on absolutely everything.

I’m so confused and would really like some impartial advice from people who aren’t my friends/family, as I just don’t know if he’s angry after an argument and will unblock me or what.

I'd say he wanted to end it already but didn't have the guts to just say so, so created an argument out of nowhere so that he could make it your fault.

He's blocked you so that he doesn't have to answer any questions he can't and doesn't want to and because he'd already made the decision to end it.

Because I'd think 'cool xxx' was a perfectly OK response to him telling you he was ok and didn't require pressing further.

Or, he's a bit of a drama llama who will keep on doing stuff like this to keep you on your toes. Do you really want to be with someone who does that?

Either way, it's not good.

What's confusing? He's a drama man child. Who needs this childishness?

I agree with Blue, sounds like an excuse to me to break up.

It’s all a bit ‘playing games’ really. If he feels like being left alone, then can he not say so? If he feels that you’re being passive aggressive, then can he not say so (preferably with good humour)?

I agree with above pp that he’s backed out, and not in a mature way.

Although he probably will unblock you and claim frustration. Do you want him back? You don’t sound well suited tbh.

Yeah it’s all a bit weird. He was supposed to come down to see me tomorrow and to meet my son for the first time, idk if it has anything to do with it but everything he said just didn’t make sense.

I sent him one final message yesterday afternoon from my friends phone explaining that I wasn’t after an argument and if he could unblock me so we could communicate like adults, but if not then wished him the best.
Still blocked on WhatsApp, Facebook/messenger, Snapchat, calls and texts 😂 we had something so special and he’s just thrown it all away. Keep thinking he’ll come back as I have his hoodie 😂

You think he’s got cold feet over meeting your son?

How long have you been dating?

Ah i’m sorry. It looks he got cold feet about meeting your son and engineered a childish argument so he could block you and not actually communicate with you. Is that the sort of person you want in your life?

He thought you were being cold with him over text (this is why texting is shit when you don't know somebody very well) and you saying "I don't want an argument over text" suggests something is wrong but you're going to have it out when you meet up next rather than just resolving the issue - which doesn't sound like was the case but it's how he construed it.

It's all a drama over nothing and a bit of crap communication.

Don't text him from your friends phone. That's a bit weird. He doesn't want to talk to you.

Sorry but I actually think your the one in the wrong here, he asked if you were okay and you said you didn't want an argument. That suggests something was wrong, he didn't want to deal with the drama.

He was on the phone, then he text you, you could have either rung at that point or just had a conversation not sure why it escalated.

Or a simple text of "just wanted to know how you were doing :) Whats your plans" Etc..

@Jolene93

This basically escalated out of nowhere to him asking me what was up when I said “cool xxx” to him being okay?? I said nothing and he kept pressing what was wrong so I said I don’t want an argument, then he ended it with me over text & blocked me on absolutely everything

I can't even work out what went on here. I think he maybe didn't either and couldn't be bothered.

Block him everywhere and think no more about it.

If this is how he deals with conflict, this is how the relationship will go every time there is conflict. Unless this is what you want, then he's done you a favour.

Still blocked on WhatsApp, Facebook/messenger, Snapchat, calls and texts.

Bit scary that you've checked on all those and still sent a message from another phone.
Just leave him alone.

I think he wanted out x

He then text me when he was done asking if I was okay, I said yeah and asked him etc etc.
This basically escalated out of nowhere to him asking me what was up when I said “cool xxx” to him being okay?? I said nothing and he kept pressing what was wrong so I said I don’t want an argument, then he ended it with me over text & blocked me on absolutely everything.

I totally don't understand any of this, but it sounds like quite a bit is missing here. But pursuing him when he had blocked you is weird. It's perhaps wise just to move on.

It hurts but dump him back and harder in your own mind.

if you stop chasing he will undoubtedly get into contact with you at some point over the next few months. Block him now so your not tempted to reply.

totally disrespectful and it hurts I know. But it’s better to just ride out the pain and give yourself closure. You deserve better and he seems like a very bad guy.

"He then text me when he was done asking if I was okay, I said yeah and asked him etc etc.
This basically escalated out of nowhere to him asking me what was up when I said “cool xxx” to him being okay?? I said nothing and he kept pressing what was wrong so I said I don’t want an argument, then he ended it with me over text & blocked me on absolutely everything"

I can't make sense of this. Could you clarify OP and your responses might be better...

He was on a call when she phoned.
When he finished he text her asking if she's ok - because she called when they normally text.
She said "yeah, are you?" (Or similar).
He said "yeah".
She said "cool".

So he felt like she was being short with him and questioned it. She said she didn't want an argument over text rather than explaining the issue so he blocked her.

Oh after telling her she was dumped. Probably because he felt like she was playing games.

@girlmom21 right, ok. I normally forms an opinion pretty quickly but I really don't know here.
Was OP being misleading and bringing the drama or was the bf being a dick. Or both? No idea.

I’m hearing that music they played in jaws after reading about texting from a friends phone.

Unless you want a relationship with someone who's confused you like this, let him go. Who's right or wrong doesn't matter. You don't understand each other, so the relationship couldn't ever work.

I sent him one final message yesterday afternoon from my friends phone

So he blocked you on every possible interface and you thought he would want to hear from you? Why?

I think it's impossible to know without knowing exactly what was said.

His breakup text would presumably have explained his issue but perhaps not!