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He’s blocked me on everything

59 replies

Jolene93 · 12/07/2022 06:49

Me and the guy I’m dating usually message first thing in the morning but yesterday I hadn’t heard from him so thought I’d call instead as it was his day off, he didn’t answer but then text me and said he was on the phone - I didn’t reply as thought leave him to it as he’s obviously busy.
He then text me when he was done asking if I was okay, I said yeah and asked him etc etc.
This basically escalated out of nowhere to him asking me what was up when I said “cool xxx” to him being okay?? I said nothing and he kept pressing what was wrong so I said I don’t want an argument, then he ended it with me over text & blocked me on absolutely everything.

I’m so confused and would really like some impartial advice from people who aren’t my friends/family, as I just don’t know if he’s angry after an argument and will unblock me or what.

OP posts:
Christinatheastonishing · 13/07/2022 01:07

Is it a good hoodie?

Inthesameboatatmo · 13/07/2022 06:19

You've had a lucky escape op. He's well and truly shown you who his be grateful it's now and not further down the line.

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Jolene93 · 13/07/2022 07:20

Sorry I’m only just replying now, been away from my phone (deliberately) - I’ve read all your messages and thank you for your opinions. I know it wasn’t the best thing to do messaging him off my friends phone, but I only did that to tell him what had happened was a misunderstanding and I hoped we could communicate like adults if he unblocks me but if not I wished him all the best.

I’m still blocked, and still unsure whether this is just an argument that’s got out of hand or what tbh. I hope he will unblock me soon so we can talk. We told each other only two weeks ago that we loved each other and he said he could see us long term, this outburst of his has come out the blue for me because he’s the most laid back sweetest man and I just don’t understand it. I’m heartbroken and never saw this coming, I thought he was so much better than that.

Once again, thanks for all your opinions.

OP posts:
baileys6904 · 13/07/2022 07:22

Are u actually going to answer the questions asking how long you've been 'dating'?

BetterFuture1985 · 13/07/2022 09:21

wellhelloitsme · 13/07/2022 00:45

He's either a coward who didn't have the balls to say he didn't want to keep seeing you or he's a dickhead who plays games to see if you'll keep chasing him.

I sent him one final message yesterday afternoon from my friends phone explaining that I wasn’t after an argument and if he could unblock me so we could communicate like adults, but if not then wished him the best.

You've now shown him that you're bothered enough about him you'll play games (I know you won't see it like that but he will - you finding a way around being blocked and offering him another chance) so if he's the latter type mentioned above, as far as he's concerned you're someone who will put up with bullshit.

Honestly, let these ones go.

Nice guys don't do this and you want to be with a nice guy, surely?

Onwards and upwards.

@Jolene93 This is excellent advice. Nice guys would never do this, it's passive aggressive behaviour and like I said, could be a warning of someone who wants to control you. A good friend of the family has been treated like this by a man for a good three years now. Reeling her in, having good times and then suddenly ex-communicating her for some slight. It's horrible to watch, especially when she keeps going back to the controlling bastard.

Ohahjustalittlebit · 13/07/2022 09:32

Blocking you is giving you the silent treatment and silent treatment is abuse. He has blocked you from the phone now you need to block him from your life and be delighted your child has not been in the middle of this mess. Walk away now with your head held high. Everything that has been said is words, his actions are speaking louder than them.

Flopisfatteningbingforchristmas · 13/07/2022 09:33

Jolene93 · 12/07/2022 09:24

Yeah it’s all a bit weird. He was supposed to come down to see me tomorrow and to meet my son for the first time, idk if it has anything to do with it but everything he said just didn’t make sense.

I sent him one final message yesterday afternoon from my friends phone explaining that I wasn’t after an argument and if he could unblock me so we could communicate like adults, but if not then wished him the best.
Still blocked on WhatsApp, Facebook/messenger, Snapchat, calls and texts 😂 we had something so special and he’s just thrown it all away. Keep thinking he’ll come back as I have his hoodie 😂

He has blocked you. He doesn’t want to talk to you. Leave him alone.

Carlycat · 13/07/2022 12:08

Get some self respect and leave him alone. He's not into you

Summersolargirl · 13/07/2022 18:04

Ohahjustalittlebit · 13/07/2022 09:32

Blocking you is giving you the silent treatment and silent treatment is abuse. He has blocked you from the phone now you need to block him from your life and be delighted your child has not been in the middle of this mess. Walk away now with your head held high. Everything that has been said is words, his actions are speaking louder than them.

It’s only that if he intends to unblock, otherwise he’s already taken your advice to her, he’s blocked her from his life and walked away.

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