Name change. Been with DP 12 yrs no dc together but I've a grown up daughter. Partner has always been kind loyal trustworthy loving..also incredibly difficult he's highly intelligent with a stressful job.we rub each other up the wrong way. He says black I say white and we're clashing. Growing tired of constantly not knowing how to predict his moods he's very blunt and that can be very hurtful and Blowing hot cold. Is this normal in ltr aibu? feeling worn down and the intimacy and affection isn't very often.