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How important is someone's voice and accent when it comes to attraction?

117 replies

JuicyMelonss · 07/07/2022 10:57

Could or have you been attracted to someone despite not liking their accent or voice initially?
Have you fallen for someone purely by ears?

A man's voice and accent is a deal breaker to me so I'm curious to see if other women share my view.

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butterflied · 07/07/2022 14:37

It is very important. I can't deal with Boris Johnson talking. It's unrelated to my dislike of his politics. I just don't want to hear him speak. On the other end of the spectrum is Northern Irish. I could listen to that all day.

ShandaLear · 07/07/2022 14:39

My DP has a very deep Scottish burr. It is really, really, beautiful.

SheepingStandingUp · 07/07/2022 14:40

Chris Hemsworth a could talk me into bed with a bag over my head, he has a beautiful voice.

SheepingStandingUp · 07/07/2022 14:45

Also had a date with possibly the most beautiful man I've seen in the flesh. His mate got my number so didn't talk to him. He called and had the broadest Black County accent. Devastated 😂

He also wanted to hang out at his mates work who worked as a security guard so had like a port's cabin they'd go sit in and drink cider.

It didn't happen

Circumferences · 07/07/2022 14:49

I clicked on this thread because I completely recognise this, out of all the traits a man can have to make him sexually attractive to me, it's his voice.

I think I'm rather unusual in that respect? As in it can have a profound affect on me.

I was in a long term relationship with a lovely young man for nearly 7 years, his voice was normal nothing special but nothing wrong with it, his company was nice and our relationship was fine.

Then I met a man who to me was literally god's gift, I got completely obsessed with him and it was his voice that first made me notice him. It was just incredible, deep (from smoking so much I guess) and a wayof delivering words like I'd never come across in real life. He was in a band so he was naturally rather lyrical but not on purpose.

Needless to say I left my lovely boyfriend and shacked up with this much older much more exciting man, lasted 3 years and we had the most passionate love life... ..

Unfortunately he was an arsehole.

Been with with DH 10 years now, and although I wasn't attracted to him solely because of his voice, I am very pleased to say it's a lovely one, soft and deep, the voice of an intellectual, slightly posh but not too posh 😂

I wouldn't be able to handle a rubbish voice. I just wouldn't get turned on.

LadyCampanulaTottington · 07/07/2022 14:50

It’s very important because it’s what you’ll be listening to for potentially a very long time.

My DH is Italian and whether he speaks English or Italian the accent is dreamy 😁

Puffalicious · 07/07/2022 14:55

It TOTALLY affects how attracted to someone I am. There are some regional accents I just couldn't thole. I'm Scottish (West coast) and many East Coast accents would drive me insane. Posh of any sort is an instant turn off.

An ex bf was Mancunian- an accent I like v much- but certain dialect drove me mad, particularly "poorly': it was so whiny, and after a while the fact that he took forever to get a sentence out drove mad (I do speak very quickly, it's a regional thing). Similarly ex DP was Aussie. He had a lovely voice, but when I lived over there it bore me down and to this day most Aussie accents I find really, really irritating, particularly those who try to be posh, it's so obvious.

Look at me, all judgy! I don't mean to be.

Squirrelsnut · 07/07/2022 14:55

It's very important. Myneighbour is a pleasant, friendly woman who seems to have plenty of friends. But she has a voice that is loud, harsh and nasal. I have to keep our conversations really brief because I literally can't listen to her.

Cloverforever · 07/07/2022 15:01

I had a date with a nice, good looking bloke once - but his voice made me cringe. It went up at the end and was very soft. Sounds trivial but it was a hard no.

eatsleepswimdive · 07/07/2022 15:05

My DP has a beautiful voice. We met on OLD and I was so worried he would have a horrible voice but now even 2 years later it gets me every time, especially on the phone. I don't like strong regional accents - I quite like them in general when they're soft but something like a thick geordie or Scouse accent is an instant no for me.

yellowsmileyface · 07/07/2022 15:37

Voice and accent are very important to me.

My favorite accent is Scottish. A guy could have very average looks but pair it with a Scottish accent and I'd definitely be crushing on him.

I can't stand overly posh accents, the kind you hear on Made in Chelsea.

I was once put off a guy who had a very monotonous voice. It made it difficult to pay attention to him. I like voices to have a lively quality.

whinetime89 · 07/07/2022 15:44

I am Australian. I can't stand a German or French accent on men. The Irish accent makes me go weak at the knees and I could listen to a man whisper sweet nothing's in my ear all day no matter what he looked liked or if I was attracted to him.

Wouldloveanother · 07/07/2022 15:46

I couldn’t fancy Joe Swash put it that way

tellmewhentheLangshiplandscoz · 07/07/2022 16:07

MiniTheMinx · 07/07/2022 11:19

Northern Irish accent, mmmm, I could listen to Gerry Adams all day.

I actually really like a NI accent but find Jamie Dornans very distracting and not in a good way.

Babdoc · 07/07/2022 16:51

Oh, yes - there’s an old saying that men fall in love through their eyes and women through their ears!
DH had a gorgeously sexy voice - a mix of Dutch (MIL was Dutch) and middle class English with just a hint of northern accent.
It didn’t hurt that he was lovely looking too!
I also have had a crush on Mr Spock from Star Trek for over 50 years - combination of gorgeous velvet voice and those phallic ears. Yes, I am autistic and weird…!

D0lphine · 07/07/2022 16:55

Yeah deep voice is super sexy.

Oblomov22 · 07/07/2022 17:04

Very important to me, the tone, deep voice for men, some strong accents not keen on.

youlightupmyday · 07/07/2022 18:40

Northern Irish makes me want to remove my underwear, particularly a deep, Belfast voice. DH is aware of this and tries to keep me away from Irishmen in general 😂 (He is local to me and I do love his voice- it's deep).
my DP has a deep Belfast voice. Had never even thought of it before, but as soon as I heard it, I was gone...

feellikeanalien · 07/07/2022 18:50

Si King from the Hairy Bikers does it for me. I love a Geordie accent.

Having said that my ex-H was very posh and my late DP was a Scouser so I obviously have quite varied tastes!😁

Marineboy67 · 07/07/2022 20:20

I have quite a distinct Bristol accent that tends to decend in to full on Wurzel mode after a few pints. I don't think it's ever been a hindrance during my extended time doing O.L.D. My ex wife's family were fairly middle class, University educated and all spoke very eloquently and I'm sure they're they thought I was pretty thick. Unfortunately that's one of the sad things about coloquial accents, you tend to be classified the moment you open your mouth. I like a west country or Welsh accent personally . That said it's nice to hear all regional accents. I don't think it's the accent that's the problem it's more about the intellectual and characteristic content of a person that makes them attractive.

TheVolturi · 07/07/2022 20:35

I really don't know on this one. There are some accents that I don't like very much, but in the whole I think it doesn't really matter if you are attracted to the person. I mean, Guy Martin! He has not got the sexiest of accents or voices but omg the man is attractive. I know I may be alone on this one though 🤣

Shitscared123 · 07/07/2022 21:03

Absolutely! Hinge has a function where you f an post voice notes. There are some super sexy voices and accents on there even if the guys are many particularly physically attractive. Their voice makes me pat more attention to their profiles.

TheBigPeach · 07/07/2022 21:13

I was in a shop (Ireland) and overheard a shop assistant speaking to a customer. He had a gorgeous London accent, I think maybe Cockney but I can’t be sure. I listened for a minute or two, thinking he sounds hot, just out of nosiness I had to get a look at him. I do like an accent.

loadedfries · 07/07/2022 21:24

Some accents are more pleasing than others but for me it's more the tone. I'd been messaging with a man I'd met on Tinder and changed my mind after our first call. Voice was too high pitched, but squeaky. Turn off

PotteringPondering · 07/07/2022 21:32

As a former newsreader, who still does bits of radio and voiceover work, I'd love to hope it's a major turn-on!

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