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Trapped :(

28 replies

Lovethatforyou · 25/06/2022 22:51

I’m not, but it feels that way.

A looong rough history with relationships and fertility. But here I am with a gorgeous son (5yo), a husband and a lovely home.

We both work full time. Well, 4 days each. income is good, not much leftover each month but we have a nice lifestyle.

However, my husband makes me utterly miserable. He’s so grumpy, petty, immature, disrespectful, impatient etc… I just don’t like him anymore.

But my little boy adores him.

I feel forever trapped because I’m not sure I have the emotional strength to go through the upheaval and start again, again. I don’t want less time with my boy who I waited years for (I’m 45 now). And I don’t want to struggle financially alone :(

Urgh. What a shite situation.

How can I stay but be able to bear it? Any tips? Anyone here who cohabits with someone they don’t like for your children’s sake?

I don’t even know what I’m asking. Just for empathy, no judgment, stories, advice maybe.

Pls don’t go in hard with the ‘leave him’ comments. I’m just not up to that, yet.

OP posts:
Notodaynotever · 27/06/2022 18:58

Everyone can be unlikeable. If you won't leave then perhaps there's a way for you both to reconcile. Presumably you're not perfect either.

NotReallySure · 27/06/2022 19:01

I Agree with @Escapetowonderland it's really not that easy as to just leave. Maybe one day the balance will tip but until then leaving can really feel quite impossible

Ameanstreakamilewide · 27/06/2022 20:09

I agree. The OP could do without the moralising, I'm sure.

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