Biggest heartbreak of my life reached out to me

[LostInDating]

The biggest heartbreak of my life reached out to me last night and I went numb. I accepted his friends request and responded to his messages 🤡 but felt like I am gonna throw up and my hands were shaking 🤧

Maybe I shouldn’t respond but I want him to see how well I am doing without him - is that wrong 😑

Clearly it ended for a reason- I would delete the friend request and block

Eugh I wouldn't know what to do
I met the 'love of my life' at 17 and he dumped me at 20
I'm 38 now and I honestly think I'd be a shaky mess if I ever saw or heard from him again

Oh god. I would be a mess. Whats your set up now? Are you single? Is there a danger of getting drawn back in? Would that be a 100% bad thing?

When did you break up?
Who broke it off?
Why have they got back in touch?
Are you in another relationship?

Depends entirely on who ended it, why, how the relationship was and so on. Can't advise with so little information

So we met last year April , been dating for a few months. Then he literally disappeared/started ignoring me etc. so I got heartbroken (as we girls do) and moved on…he reached out to me again in October last year saying he loves me/misses me etc. he wanted to go out for dinner to explain what happened why he did what he did…so I agreed - we went out for dinner he told me the story (honestly at that point I’m not sure how true it was) after dinner he stayed at mine but we didn’t have sex (he wanted I didn’t want ) and basically told him I don’t trust him and we cannot date. He left in the morning and we never talked to each other again.
until last night again same story he loves me misses me and wants to take me out for dinner

and I just got a “good morning” text 🥴🤢🤮

He's just after a bit of company and a shag.

Nah fuck that
Block block block

Yup it'll be a repeat of last time, sorry :(

Have some self respect OP. Delete and block him.

He will just mess with you again and then fuck off, leaving you upset and confused and angry with yourself that you let him back in.

He just wants a shag, do yourself a favour and block him.

I'm sorry, op, but wake up. This POS is a scammer and after nothing more than an easy shag. He's just fucking you about seeing how far he can push it and he's enjoying messing with your head. He likes having you jump to the crumbs he tosses your way. Block this twat.

Yeah, chuck him back. Block, delete, he had his chance, well two chances, you don't trust him anyway.

What happiness and joy would be brought into your life? Nervousness, doubt in yourself is already happening. Get him in the bin.

I know tough talk from us is hard, but it comes from a place of experience. I hope you're okay.

He doesn't care if you're doing well or not without him he just wants sex and when he can't find someone else he gets in touch with you. You should block him.

Anyone that loves you, doesn't disappear for months. Unfortunately he's trying it on, he's not genuine and wouldn't be worth getting heart broken over again. Been there done that!

I totally agree with you all. He is not genuine and I can say I am over him.
it just emotions that comes along when he appears and disappears are so strong - it’s crazy.

Absolutely agree with this ^

If it was an ex from, say 12 years ago making contact then breezily demonstrating that you’re over it and doing great, thank you would be appropriate. But this is just plunging back into a mucky puddle with a dickhead after you’ve just dried off.

Blocking & deleting is so freeing. When I was OLD I would skip to the block button!

Also OP (and this is meant with kindness) you need to work on your self esteem before you let another man into your life. Why is it so low that you would even bother to speak with him even after the first time he messed you about?

This won't happen anymore if you block him

I remember the love of my life kept throwing crumbs for years and I wish I could get that time back (I wallowed for years and wasted half my 20s pining for him thinking he would come back). I know it's hard but if he had a reason he should have explained at the time. Only you know though if it's genuine...

I went back to my ex a million times, he was a grown man and would randomly block me off everything and not speak to me for weeks then would text saying 'hi' and I'd forgive him. Don't text back!! They don't change x

Narcissistic and thirsty for sex...block him. I had a former boyfriend (who ghosted me) contact me during COVID. Declarations of me being his biggest regret in terms of how it ended. Personally I couldn't give a monkeys as I wasn't into him like he thought. He said he loved me and wanted to try again. He was getting a promotion in work subject to him passing exams, and wanted me to help him with his studies (it is a subject I specialise in). He suggested meeting up, and coming to my house. I just ignored him...as I could see what a user he was. I suggest you do the same.

He disappeared and ignored you?

perhaps do the same to him now!

Just ignore him, he clearly thinking he can pick you up and put you down when he wants. You need to be strong and block and move on. Hope you’re ok it does feel weird but I’m sure you’ll be fine and enjoy your weekend

he is just a waste of time and energy.