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Biggest heartbreak of my life reached out to me

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LostInDating · 24/06/2022 09:34

The biggest heartbreak of my life reached out to me last night and I went numb. I accepted his friends request and responded to his messages 🤡 but felt like I am gonna throw up and my hands were shaking 🤧

Maybe I shouldn’t respond but I want him to see how well I am doing without him - is that wrong 😑

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Fairislefandango · 24/06/2022 17:42

Block him and work on your self-esteem. Seriously, the 'got heartbroken as we girls do' and letting yourself be ruled by 'crazy emotions'... this is not a narrative which will lead to positive, healthy, equal relationships. There is no reason why women should let themselves be messed around by men, or fall for their 'I miss you. I only dumped you because I was just in a bad place (aka I fancy a shag and you'll do).' crap.

Youcansaythatagainandagain · 24/06/2022 17:46

Marlena1 · 24/06/2022 10:24

I remember the love of my life kept throwing crumbs for years and I wish I could get that time back (I wallowed for years and wasted half my 20s pining for him thinking he would come back). I know it's hard but if he had a reason he should have explained at the time. Only you know though if it's genuine...

This. From mid 20s to mid 30s.

I finally saw sense and moved on.

He still gets in touch randomly once or twice a year.

Move on OP. If he wanted to be with you, he would be. This guy is just playing cat and mouse.

SistersRdoingit4themselves · 24/06/2022 18:50

He has come crawling back because he wants sex. He hasn't got in touch because he genuinely loves you or wants to get back together. He's back for his needs and his alone. Tell him to fuck off and block on every level. You've wasted enough time on this lying steaming great turd.

cottagegardenflower · 24/06/2022 19:06

I love you and miss you = I feel in need of a shag.

Catlover1970 · 25/06/2022 16:31

LostInDating · 24/06/2022 10:21

I totally agree with you all. He is not genuine and I can say I am over him.
it just emotions that comes along when he appears and disappears are so strong - it’s crazy.

You were also only seeing him for a very short period of time. Block him

Catlover1970 · 25/06/2022 16:36

Naunet · 24/06/2022 14:11

Right, and ghosting someone twice is exactly what loved up men do isn’t it?
Your user name says it all.

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Hahahaha love it

Cotswoldmama · 25/06/2022 16:45

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She's amazing! #block,delete,moveon!

gingersplodgecat · 25/06/2022 17:01

He's got kids? Why did he and their mother split up?

Original poster
LostInDating · 25/06/2022 18:27

He is much older then me - so his kids are grown up now. Don’t know the reason why they separated

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NeverDropYourMooncup · 25/06/2022 18:47

Ah, he's just been dumped again.

Block and move on.

ElspethBoomingHowsen · 25/06/2022 18:58

Op, how much older than you? You can’t date for less than 6 months and declare him
the love of your life. That’s now how love works. Infatuated, yes, in love, very unlikely.

block and move on. Trust me it is so liberating!

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