Is this negging?

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I sent a picture of my face made up to go to a festival of a guy I’m messaging (we haven’t met yet) and he implied jokingly i was wearing too much make up. I was heavy on the glitter. We were chatting about something else and be mentioned how he had heard I could “glitter a turd”. The messages are very jokey but that has really pissed me off. For context I’m a petite blonde woman in my late 20s and not short of male attention. I’m not really awful looking and even if I was that’s unwarranted.

am I overreacting / should I joke back? I’m tempted to make a cutting joke back (in the name of banter ofc) and let it peter out. How dare he!

Delete and block

This

Yeah, nope. Bin!

Oh no, life is too short. If you're not charmed at the start what is the point?

Just ask him outright if he seriously compared you to a turd!
if he is genuinely apologetic then maybe salvageable.
if he tries to imply that you can’t take a joke, then move on

Bin.

'I could glitter a turd - but I didn't think you were into wearing makeup.'

Then Block.

what the fuck is wrong with these men?

He should be nothing but full of compliments and praise at this point...you haven't even met yet and he's already being a dick!

Absolutely this. You'll only be further disappointed down the line, sack it off now.

Yeah something like “I could glitter a turd but that would mean wasting glitter on you mate…” And block.

Nasty little dick of a man.

Don't waste any more time on him, plenty more fish in the see.

Sea not see! 🙄

I would usually reply "charming." to something like that then let it die out

Maybe he's jealous that you look like you're having fun without him, so he's negging you. Agree with others if he's not charming you at the start, then don't continue to talk to him, anyone that's rude, just block or unmatch them, you haven't met so you owe him nothing.

I would take it as a joke like its supposed to be, you've just said the context was jokey and if he thought you were comparable to a turd im sure he wouldn't be speaking to you. If someone took offence at that I would think they were pretty high maintaince and unlikely to see the funny side of things, me and hubby are always joking like this, when u dress up I know I look great but he will often make some funny comment, I tell him to piss off he's lucky I married him, we laugh together and he then tells me how fabulous I look. Its just a joke OP don't read to much into it

When I* dress up

I just said “you’re not seriously comparing me to a turd” and he ignored and asked me loads of questions about my day. I think I will let it fizzle. I’m very definitely not high maintenance but he’s made a few similar jokes at my expense and I just don’t find it funny, we don’t know each other and it’s too much. He’s also planned about a million different activities for us to do together despite not having met yet

It's alarming that you wouldn't just block this fuckwit. Why give a man like this even one more second of your time?

You are clearly not compatible. If he is a jokey person in that manner and you find it offensive then you will just not gel. And if you find him making plans for you to do things unacceptable then you are definitely not on the same page. Move on and allow both of you to find someone more compatible

Definitely not my sort of banter, seems neggy to me. That would be enough to put me off for sure

Nah this doesn't sound great tbh

Oh, so not even the first time. Def get rid.

enjoy the festival 💃🏽

It's a red flag.
He's testing what he can get away with.
And he can, because you are still giving him time, thought and attention.

I wouldn't want to be around someone who has this style of communication, ascerbic, toxic, spiky and mean spirited.

You know it's not right, alarms are going off, listen to them.
He doesn't need to push you around for you to have a reason to cut things off.
You're not feeling it, that's enough.

You want someone to uplifft and brighten, he's throwing shade.
Curmudgeonly bad minded fucker.
Bin.

Exactly, agree with all of the above - he has some good points but I could do SO much better. To be blunt I wonder if he thinks I’m better looking than him so is trying to cut me down to size. When I messaged him the photo of me glittered up, I said I had got “Glastonbury-ed” meaning fully sucked into the festival fashion. His first message was, “is that a euphemism for you got it?” So he seems to be checking whether or not I pulled (big eye roll) while also telling me I’m a turd

He clearly has very very low self esteem.

Bin him off and find someone who says "wow you look amazing, have a wonderful time, can't wait to hear about everything when you're back!"