Is this negging?

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I sent a picture of my face made up to go to a festival of a guy I’m messaging (we haven’t met yet) and he implied jokingly i was wearing too much make up. I was heavy on the glitter. We were chatting about something else and be mentioned how he had heard I could “glitter a turd”. The messages are very jokey but that has really pissed me off. For context I’m a petite blonde woman in my late 20s and not short of male attention. I’m not really awful looking and even if I was that’s unwarranted.

am I overreacting / should I joke back? I’m tempted to make a cutting joke back (in the name of banter ofc) and let it peter out. How dare he!

How can you possibly resist this prince among men!

This doesn't even sound like negging. Negging is basically little criticisms dressed up as compliments. An example would be something like "wow it's really brave of you to wear that dress! I love how you don't care what anybody thinks".

This guy's just an asshole. He's not even trying to pretend it's complimentary.

Seriously block and delete. No need to waste time letting it fizzle out.

So what have you said to this substandard bloke then OP?

Said nothing, enjoying my festival! Thanks all for the wise advice

asked him whether he did indeed call me a turd and no satisfactory response so will leave it then if I hear anything more, will tell him why I’m blocking. Peace out all ✌️

Nice one 😊

Not particularly neggy I don't think, just arseholery. If he'd said 'wow you can make yourself look really quite pretty when you make an effort' - now that would have been negging.

I mean I hate negging but I almost think arseholery is worse 😂 what exactly is he seeking to achieve?

Just block him already.
Don't give him another opportunity to a) land criticism on you, or b) explain himself. C) unleash some other unpleasant tactic.

Don't leave the channel open. He is not to be trusted. Protect your energy.

*I did read you said you’re blocking but.. I dunno….

If you are not short on male attention and have confidence… why would you just not ghost him completely?

You are already making excuses for him… a joke… he has other qualities…. Remember when you asked him about it and he had the opportunity to explain and he didn’t? He just asked you more questions?

His neg bothers you very much but instead of cutting him off cold, you’re ready to waste your precious time letting things fizzle out. You will not be in your 20s forever, you shouldn’t suffer fools.

Calling you a turd or whatever is a serious neg. You are in such a wonderful time in your life and I am begging you to not waste a minute on it with this dingleberry… Also I believe it not a meh but a straight up insult.

At the start he should be his very best, and he can’t even do that. He will ignore your concerns and the more you let him (like your doing now) the worse it will get.

I just don’t want you to waste time on him when he isn’t worth….. two shits.

PS I bet if you ghosted him he’d message you. I also bet if you held strong, at one point he’d bring up his comment. Apologizing or at the very least showing he knows what he did. He’s trash and you know it. I bet you looked great with glitter!

His texts once you ghost:

”What’s up?”

”What’s going on”

”Ha! I just watched that show you talked about and it was great”

”You seem busy, so am I. I am going to (wherever) it should be fun”

”Well I haven’t heard from you in awhile….it’s really weird… hope you are ok”

”IS THIS ABOUT MY TURD JOKE?!? Lighten up, it’s just me being funny. You have no sense of humor do you?”

”Whatever you’re a glitter turd”