Name changed - the circumstances could be identifying.
I'm mid 40s. Never experienced any sexual attraction to a woman. I've been with men, had two long term relationships, but nothing ever felt quite right.
And since I split with the ex 3 years ago I've gone off men completely. Feel queasy just thinking about doing anything with them and certainly don't want a relationship with a man ever again. I presumed that I'd then spend my life single etc. Never considered being with a woman as I've never been sexually attracted to another woman. I thought I was "100% heterosexual".... how wrong can you be.
I have been away for a week with a group of people to "do a hobby"!! I met a woman there, we clicked immediately. She is a lesbian. At first I thought it was just a friendship thing but it developed into some arm touching, walking arm in arm, and to my surprise sexual attraction from my side. Last night when everyone was leaving I hoped to get a chance to say goodbye to her alone as we'd been flirting earlier, eye contact etc. Unfortunately we couldn't manage to shake off a "hanger on" who wouldn't leave. So I hugged her, she stroked my arm and said she'd text. I can still feel her touch....
I suppose I'm asking if others have experienced similar- no attraction to another woman at all and then all of a sudden it's there with someone, completely unexpectedly and very powerful.
I don't feel odd about it in any way - it's quite exciting actually. It happened very naturally - like when I've met men before I've been attracted to. I'm surprised - that's all! And I'm ready to see where this goes with her. (If anywhere)
Is sexuality so fluid like this? Not sure if I'm bi. I was convinced over the last 3 years that I might be asexual - no attraction to anyone. Before that I thought exclusively straight. Any advice/insights welcome!