Active discussions

Meet the Other Phone. A phone that grows with your child.

Meet the Other Phone.
A phone that grows with your child.

Buy now

Please or to access all these features

Talk
Relationships

Mumsnet has not checked the qualifications of anyone posting here. If you need help urgently or expert advice, please see our domestic violence webguide and/or relationships webguide. Many Mumsnetters experiencing domestic abuse have found this thread helpful: Listen up, everybody

Original poster

DH and Glastonbury

228 replies

Bobthecatnapper · 18/06/2022 22:43

DH was invited to Glastonbury this week by a male work colleague and his wife who apparently have one of these 2 bedroom glamping accommodations at the festival. I asked if I could go with him and he said that he wanted to take his mate (will call him G.) I know G and he has recently split with his wife, very upset about it all, a bit lonely and has apparently "always wanted to go to Glastonbury." OK.

Fast forward to tonight, DH announces he is actually travelling down to Glastonbury on Wednesday and will "work from the festival" until the weekend. I went on the website and while it lists 22nd June as a start date (Wednesday) nothing actually starts until Friday.

I am suspicious about all of it, as DH has some form. Can any Glastonbury expert tell me whether people go on the wednesday to "work from the festival?"

OP posts:
LoudingVoice · 19/06/2022 00:31

This years tickets were from when it was cancelled due to covid so it’s possible people have dropped out.

when you apply for a ticket you need to submit a photo.

There was a resale for the tickets that were refunded because people didn’t want them anymore, you still had to be registered & try your luck to get one and if you’re lucky then it’s printed with your name & photo still.

LoudingVoice · 19/06/2022 00:33

HarrietSchulenberg · 18/06/2022 22:44

Well, he'd beat the traffic, that's one way of looking at it.

He absolutely won’t, Wednesday is the busiest day to arrive!

IWobble · 19/06/2022 00:34

Put it on his toes about the tickets requiring a photo and being non transferable. His response will tell you plenty.

mackthepony · 19/06/2022 00:38

Sounds like utter bollocks to me.

How conducive to work will being at Glastonbury be?!?

ThatWasThat · 19/06/2022 00:40

@MrsTerryPratchett I think I may have driven Barnaby home after you met him. He was very tired

Eeksteek · 19/06/2022 00:42

Glastonbury is huge. There are a million things going on that are not the big stage music acts. They aren’t even the half of it. So yes, there will be stuff going on. Although working from a festival is a bit weird. Has he got power? I haven’t been for a long time, but there were no power options unless you were disabled when I last went. Also, glamping at Glastonbury must be thousands. How come someone just…..dropped out?!

Shortpoet · 19/06/2022 00:47

As PP have said:

Going on Wednesday - not suspicious and very normal

Expecting to work from campsite - delusional- Wi-Fi patchy and I wouldn’t recommend having a work laptop there as could easily be stolen or damaged even from luxury tipis.

Using someone else’s ticket - not a chance. They do check that you are the person on the photo and you might be asked for other id as well.

The only way it might be is if he has a working ticket, say working in a bar or litter picking I think they can be organised nearer the time (not sure how near) but luxury tipi is not included.

zoomstyle · 19/06/2022 00:48

Totally normal to go to glastonbury on a Wednesday, smart move even. Glastonbury is about a lot more than the main stages.

But to work? Nah, he's either totally deluded or telling porkies.

Shortpoet · 19/06/2022 00:49

You couldn’t even get the person to go and collect their wristband and then give it to your DH to get it, as if you leave the site you need both wristband and paper ticket with your photo on to get back in.

LemonSwan · 19/06/2022 01:02

Shortpoet · 19/06/2022 00:47

As PP have said:

Going on Wednesday - not suspicious and very normal

Expecting to work from campsite - delusional- Wi-Fi patchy and I wouldn’t recommend having a work laptop there as could easily be stolen or damaged even from luxury tipis.

Using someone else’s ticket - not a chance. They do check that you are the person on the photo and you might be asked for other id as well.

The only way it might be is if he has a working ticket, say working in a bar or litter picking I think they can be organised nearer the time (not sure how near) but luxury tipi is not included.

I have worked before. Can’t remember exact year but probably 7ish years ago.

You had to have photo Id to get your wrist band for that too - so again not transferable.

Maybe in another role it would be more flexible ie. food truck?

Oblahdeeoblahdoe · 19/06/2022 01:16

Call his bluff and say a mate has a spare ticket so you can go too!

BreadInCaptivity · 19/06/2022 01:18

Ok - so going on Wednesday is pretty normal and if he's in a glamping area may well have access to power sources to do work (though frankly the idea of him sending off more than a couple of work related emails sounds ridiculous).

What would annoy me is that in your place I know my DH would have given me first refusal rather than take a friend. I think that's pretty poor form in his part regardless of his friends situation and wouldn't necessarily scream infidelity but definitely a lack of respect for his wife as a priority.

Tickets - I'd be careful on this. Yes standard tickets are not transferable but like a pp I've been to similar events as a corporate guest where last minute changes to attendees have been facilitated.

If you're paying thousands (yes that's what it costs) for a glamping tent there than I'd damn well expect a bit of flexibility. I'd ask which company is providing the accommodation and look up their booking policy rather than assume it's the same as standard tickets.

All that said.....it's a shit show isn't it, whichever way to look at it.

He's got "form" for not being were he said he would be, so understandably you have trust issues.

He's being disingenuous at best suggesting he's going to "work from Glastonbury" for two days. Either work and go later or have the extended experience (and I'm sure his friend will have planned for two days with his mate. attached to his laptop Hmm).

However whichever way you cut it, he's been offered a great opportunity and has chosen not to spend it with the person he is supposed to love most - especially in the context the invitation is coming from another couple (meaning if the accommodation had originally been booked for four male friends, inviting G would be understandable) but in this case it just says he doesn't want to go with you.

I'd be thinking is he actually going with G...because if I were the couple offering the tickets I'd have assumed your H would be bring his partner.

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/06/2022 01:20

ThatWasThat · 19/06/2022 00:40

@MrsTerryPratchett I think I may have driven Barnaby home after you met him. He was very tired

Grin
Rabbitmugsarecute · 19/06/2022 01:23

Op?

Derbee · 19/06/2022 01:28

There is no way your DH’s friend can transfer a ticket to him. You have to register way in advance, with ID.

Totally reasonable to go on Wednesday, as you need to be there early to get a decent camping spot. There’s so much on, that it’s a fantastic couple of days to explore before the music starts.

But the story about the ticket is almost certainly bollocks

MrsFezziwig · 19/06/2022 01:30

This years tickets were from when it was cancelled due to covid so it’s possible people have dropped out.

I think this year’s resale was the smallest ever. People who’ve been hanging on for over two years to go to Glastonbury are committed!

lightisnotwhite · 19/06/2022 01:54

Can you stay in accomodation without getting into the festival itself? Not been to Glasto but the ones I’ve been to have a seperate pass you wave to park and camp and or stay but the festival itself has ticket barriers to get in.

MangoTango28 · 19/06/2022 02:09

Hmmmm definetely sounding suss - re his form for 'not being where he says'
where does he actually be?!

Wouldnt his colleague and wife have preffered another couple then random friend?

ventreàterre · 19/06/2022 02:18

He sometimes lies to you about where he goes and he'd rather take a mate than you, his wife? What a prize!

Monty27 · 19/06/2022 02:37

Xmas1Xmas2Xmas3 · 18/06/2022 22:49

I like to watch the punters arriving on Wednesday morning. All clean 😁

Oh that has me chuckling 😂
OP I would believe Wednesday is a good start for Glastonbury. I wouldn't be happy with being excluded in preference to his ahem friend.
Do you know these other people?

Eeksteek · 19/06/2022 02:51

lightisnotwhite · 19/06/2022 01:54

Can you stay in accomodation without getting into the festival itself? Not been to Glasto but the ones I’ve been to have a seperate pass you wave to park and camp and or stay but the festival itself has ticket barriers to get in.

Some of it. Various campervan and family fields are outside the ‘compound’. I’d imagine the point of glamping would be to be in it. Not sure though. I went in 2000, where there were more holes in the fence than in a crumpet and 100k people had tickets, but 250k people attended. I heard it changed a lot, but I’ve never made it back to see for myself.

Original poster
Bobthecatnapper · 19/06/2022 03:23

I last posted at 23.43 before bed somebody at 1.15 implying I Have disappeared! I was asleep!

just woke up now briefly.

I think the test will be if he sends me photos. Is there enough WiFi / 4G to do that?

agree his behaviour in general is suspicious aside from tickets, his choice of G over me (which happens frequently) is grating

OP posts:
jimmyjammy001 · 19/06/2022 03:25

To gain entry into the festival you need a ticket which has a photo of the person who brought it, that includes glamping. Very unlikely to get in on someone else's ticket unless it's his twins ticket. You can not transfer tickets over either, it will just get cancelled

MrsTerryPratchett · 19/06/2022 03:25

his choice of G over me (which happens frequently)

Why are you with him?

KarlWrenbury · 19/06/2022 03:54

Train strike?