They always come back when the grass isn’t greener…..

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Really struggling at the minute. Husband left me, not sure if he had a mid-life crisis/got a bit pissed off with family life / had his head turned - who knows??
Just as I was getting used to the idea, he’s back declaring his undying love. He can’t live without me. Why can’t we just give it one more go etc etc.
Part of me believes him and feels sorry for the fucker. The other part thinks ‘well you made your bed’
Any similar stories? Did you tell them where to go or give another chance - did it work or not??

"His excuses for leaving range from he felt unloved/like a stranger in his own home. We had gone stale etc to he was fed up with himself/sick of life/ had a mental breakdown."

^^
This BS is typical Cheater Script.

I had something similar (they aren't really very original !) - "I don't know what I want, I'm confused, I need a break to sort myself out, I'm fed up, there is too much responsibility, I can't cope"

I bet you a £ to a p there is an OW about and she's dumped him.

Please, please OP, don't be somebody's backstop option. He made his bed, make sure he lies in it - permanently.

I need a little time to think it over
I need a little space just on my own
I need a little time to find my freedom
I need a little
Funny how quick the milk turns sour, isn't it, isn't it?
Your face has been looking like that for hours, hasn't it, hasn't it?
Promises, promises turn to dust
Wedding bells just turn to rust
Trust into mistrust
I need a little room to find myself
I need a little space to work it out
I need a little room all alone
I need a little
You need a little room for your big head, don't you, don't you?
You need a little space for a thousand beds, won't you, won't you?
Lips that promise, fear the worst
Tongue so sharp, the bubble burst
Just into unjust
I've had a little time to find the truth
Now I've had a little room to check what's wrong
I've had a little time, and I still love you
I've had a little
You had a little time and you had a little fun, didn't ya, didn't you?
While you had yours, do you think I had none, do you, do ya?
The freedom that you wanted bad
Is yours for good, I hope you're glad
Sad into unsad
I had a little time to think it over
Had a little room to work it out
I found a little courage to call it off
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time
I've had a little time

From what I have seen they leave for another woman or the thought of one, always.
Then the ow decides that actually she doesn't want her shag partner there 24/7, she prefers the excitement of an affair. Or her dcs refuse to leave their father. Either way the ow realises that life will not be better living with the affair partner. The Cheater (dh) then realises oh shit, I'm going to be on my own or at least won't have some dope to do my washing/cooking/cleaning/wanking off/child minding etc. Then he begs to come back as yes he doesn't want to sit alone in a flat or in MacDs on a weekend whilst his ex builds up a new and better life without him.
Seen it all before with friends.
There is no such thing as a mid life crisis. See also 'boys will be boys'. Women on the other hand do go through the peri menopause and menopause. It is a biological and huge physical change for women. Did your mother piss off and leave when it happened to her? Did your grandmother? Or her mother? No, it's just yet another excuse for men to behave like dicks.

This also happened to a good friend of mine. She is stunningly beautiful, kind and clever. I always thought her DH treated her horribly. Anyway, he messed her about for a couple of years, then left and 6 months later went snivelling back.

Unfortunately, beautiful, kind and clever friend had met someone else who absolutely adores her and she told her ex to go F himself.

Unfortunately, beautiful, kind and clever friend had met someone else who absolutely adores her and she told her ex to go F himself.

F'ing great. Ha ha ha! How arrogant to think she would be crying by the phone!