Drunken comment has touched a nerve

[breakingthebank]

At a recent night out with our friends, dh had quite a lot to drink and was reminiscing about his youth. He talked about his partying days between the ages of 18-22 as being the "best time of his life" multiple times.

I feel incredibly hurt by this, as we've been together 20 years and have dcs together. His partying days were before he met me so he's basically saying he preferred his life before we met and had children. He has since apologised, saying he didnt mean it like that but I can't move past it. I feel like he obviously always found our relationship boring and second best.

Dh has a history of making nasty comments when he's had a drink but I think I feel particularly hurt by this because it was just said in conversation so I feel like it's how he really feels. Do you think I'm overreacting?

I haven't gone home after work tonight, I need some space to think about what I want to do next.

Good. Get his crap out of your head. Breathe. Think about what to do next.

I think it is really sad for people to consider their 20s as the best time of their lives. They were fun, yes, but so is the excitement of settling down and having a baby and then watching your children grow.

Each period of life is different and they're all great for different things. I'm really enjoying my 50s because I have no pressure. My kids are quite independent, I live by work, I can socialise and work out at will, I don't have anything to prove etc.