How do I face him,after I made a fool of myself?

[nallycally]

3 years ago I started dating a guy and he had form as a womaniser (did the cliche thing of thinking I could change him)
Anyway he wasn't very nice to me and treated me bad ,messed me around,he honestly broke my heart.
Picked me up,threw me away (our mutual friend (not mine anymore ) fell out with me and that was it for our relationship.
We continued to speak for a year after and we still flirted and chatted on the phone most weeks .
Then he got a girlfriend and said he didn't want to ever speak to me again (blocked me and everything)
Obviously I was heartbroken ,I had came to terms with no relationship but not even worthy of friendship.

Next week we are both at the same event and this is the first time since he blocked me a year ago I've seen him.
How do I go ? After making a fool of myself?
When he told me he didn't want to speak to me again I sent a long rambling message about how he hurt me etc
He didn't reply and just blocked me

Go . Hold your head high and ignore him . He made it clear that he didn't want to speak to you - so give him what he wants and act as if he doesn't exist . Do not give any impression that you are bothered by his presence - he's moved on so have you .

You haven’t made a fool of yourself.

He treated you poorly and he should feel ashamed & embarrassed.

I would slap on a smile, look my best and ignore the prat.

He's the one who should be embarrassed OP, not you! Go along, be polite and distant, act like he is a minor acquaintance.

Go and totally ignore him. Why would you care what that arsehole thinks? He has no bearing on your life whatsoever.

Yes go. Make sure you look stunning, casually so if needs be. And then be happy and ignore him. If he speaks to you, decide what you'd like to say and then take control in your own hands by getting away from him. I'm brush it off somehow, make light if it and then say I 'had to rush, excuse me' and get away. Exchange over. I do also think I'd worry about it before hand, so have some kind of debrief for yourself afterwards as well.

Be prepared that even if he seems interested you will NOT BE INTERESTED BACK.

What's the event?

He might not show up 🤷‍♀️ What event will you both be going to?

You haven’t made a fool of yourself. You responded normally to being treated like shit. It was only a text message, it’s not like you spray painted cunt on his front door (which it sounds like he deserves). Just ignore him

Be civil if you have to speak to him but don't engage any more than that.

Consider how he may behave and be prepared to let this wash over you whatever it is. If he ignores you, fine, he's being consistent with blocking. If he is civil but no more, perfect. If he acts interested then move away. Don't reciprocate. If he is rude then repeat what he said back, say 'ok', or cut him dead. Don't get into it with him, remember this especially if drinks are involved.

Is it a social or a work event? If social then I would just avoid. You've not made a fool of yourself though, he's been a twat.

It's a wedding and he will deffo be there.
I will be going with my new boyfriend so at least I won't be alone
I just feel like he will think I'm pathetic
I acted so desperate

It was a year ago. You have both moved on. Things are always a bit fraught after a break up. You’re unlikely to even speak to him but if you do he’s hardly going to bring up the message is he? If on the off chance he did just style it out and say, ‘OMG, I was so pissed when I wrote that. Still, looks like things have worked out for the best, doesn’t it?’ Then do a cheesy grin 😁

It wasn't even the break up
It was being friends for a year,speaking daily and then him telling me don't message again and blocking as if I was nothing
It was v cruel but he is cruel so why was I surprised

You have not made a fool of yourself, you reacted to how he made you feel, and even if it wasn't your finest moment, it's a human reaction and was in the moment. You haven't stalked the guy and turned up at his work, it's a message - dont be so hard on yourself. He hurt you and you told him, that doesn't make you 'pathetic' at all.

Strut in there, with your new man on our arm and ignore him!

The only fool is him. I agree with pp, go with your new man and hold your head high. You’ve done nothing to be ashamed of, unlike your ex.

The fact that you’re going with your boyfriend means you’ve moved on, so don’t give it another thought. Ignore him completely if you can, or if you do have to speak to him at all, just treat him like a passing acquaintance you barely remember.

You aren't going to look pathetic. Especially turning up with your boyfriend. You've clearly moved on and aren't sat around at home hoping he'll unblock.

Don't try to play games by acting like you don't know him or acting like best mates and nothing happened. Just treat him like someone you used to know. Civil if he speaks to you or you're in a group chatting together but not really bothered that's he's there.

Oh I see you have a bf now? Then why give it a second thought 🤷‍♀️ Could understand more if you was alone he might bring someone as well so be prepared for that

Be really cool, OP and ignore him completely. If he says hello, just murmur Hi back in a disinterested way and turn away - show no interest whatsoever. Don't interact with him. Keep your dignity and all will be well. Remember the best revenge is success, so hold your head high, look confident and enjoy yourself with your new man there to support you in enjoying the occasion.

Totally ignore him, don’t drink too much, but make sure you have the best time with your fitness and boyfriend. Fuck him. He’s subpar.

Look damn fine, show up and ignore him completely. Laugh lots, have a good time.

Also I don't think you've made a fool of yourself from what you've said.

Say hi if you’re passing and keep walking - beyond that, ignore him. Don’t do that loud LAUGHING to show him what a great time you’re having, just act natural (and look amazing, of course )

Why do you care what he thinks? Do you credit him with judgement worthy of respect? Or, if he thinks you're the most pathetic thing in the world, do you see that that one opinion of you, from a disrespectful git, means absolutely nothing?

What does your boyfriend think of how worried you are about this? Is he supportive?

how close are you y to the bride and groom, it would be awful if you were on the same table as him

Honestly go and simply do not go up to him. If your paths cross just be polite and act like you have forgotten your whole interaction. It will take skill, don't act like you don't know who he is, but act like you've done that much since you last saw him that what you shared has faded into a blurry memory that you can hardly recall.