How do I face him,after I made a fool of myself?

[nallycally]

3 years ago I started dating a guy and he had form as a womaniser (did the cliche thing of thinking I could change him)
Anyway he wasn't very nice to me and treated me bad ,messed me around,he honestly broke my heart.
Picked me up,threw me away (our mutual friend (not mine anymore ) fell out with me and that was it for our relationship.
We continued to speak for a year after and we still flirted and chatted on the phone most weeks .
Then he got a girlfriend and said he didn't want to ever speak to me again (blocked me and everything)
Obviously I was heartbroken ,I had came to terms with no relationship but not even worthy of friendship.

Next week we are both at the same event and this is the first time since he blocked me a year ago I've seen him.
How do I go ? After making a fool of myself?
When he told me he didn't want to speak to me again I sent a long rambling message about how he hurt me etc
He didn't reply and just blocked me

P.s it's me I just name changed as I posted a thread regarding a friend and was worried she might see 🙈

Revenge dress.

If a person says to you “leave me alone” and then blocks you. Then LEAVE THEM ALONE!
if you were a man and a woman blocks you and says leave her alone. Most posters would be saying to leave her alone.

You might actually enjoy your self if you respect that he said to “leave him alone.”

Who cares about the “revenge dress” or “pretend to be having an amazing time” just actually go to the wedding to enjoy yourself but leave him alone.

In fact you’ll enjoy it if you respect that he said to leave him alone.
Have a little dance with you current BF, catch up with old friends, get a little drunk, and shag your current BF afterwards.

You weren’t friends. He was an ex you continued to have ‘flirty phone calls with most days’ (your words). That isn’t friendship, that’s dysfunctional - you were likely pining after him and he likely just wanted his ego stroked. If I was this guy’s new girlfriend I would fully expect him to ditch the ex he still flirts on the phone with daily. Why wouldn’t he?

The tone of your updates is increasingly bitter. You’re giving this guy too much headspace. You’re in a new relationship and it all occurred quite some time ago - so why do you care so much? The opposite of love isn’t hate, it’s indifference.

Really, do you think he's given this a second thought?
Just go, be civil and enjoy your evening. Doesn't have to be such a big drama 🤷‍♀️

@nallycally ask yourself one question:

is this eejit giving you a nano-second's thought?

Let me give you the answer:

No he most definitely is not, and not least of all he is not agonising about what you think, what you feel, how to behave at the wedding, whether you will remember him. He's a bloke, they're empty-headed about all that stuff, and he's an arrogant one at that.

You need to take no action whatsoever. You do not need to even get near him at the wedding but if your paths do happen to cross, you have no obligation to strike up a conversation other than "nice weather for this time of year, doesn't the bride look radiant!" - not need to breeze in, to act up or be any different to your normal beautiful self.

just go along and the wedding with your bf.

= enjoy the wedding ....

I'd just go. And I'd make a point of being extra happy and vivacious and social with everyone. Look shiney and be shiney. With everyone but him. Infact you could even treat him like an old acquaintance that you once knew briefly and then go 'I must dash' and go straight on to someone else and be extra shiney with them.

Because his sort hate being irrelevant amd passed over even more than theu hate being ignored.

If you coldly ignore him, he can tell himself its because you still care. Whilst if you are warm but blasé and give more attention to other people around him, that will actually make him feel like the nothing he is. And I guarantee he'll message you afterwords. Of course, then you'll just delete it and block him xD

Go, and shine.

Don't overthink it. Go and ignore him completely unless forced to interact, and then keep it breezy and brief.

remember, this guy blocked you. He cut you out. You don't owe him anything.

You only need to be you. Smile, say "Hi" if you have to. If he tries to engage further a short sentence like "No. We both know how badly that ended" and walk away.

But mostly just don't do or be anything other than yourself.

Just be civil, it’s a wedding and you don’t want to be the person-rightly or wrongly that made anything difficult or awkward. You have a new boyfriend and you can get really dressed up for confidence.