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Curlyhairdonotcare · 2022-06-06T12:12:11+00:00

Trying to be proactive about dating I met a guy yesterday afternoon - met at one and left about six. Coffee - jubilee screen in the park and a pizza. I texted when I got home and we texted back and forward a bit. He did not reply to my last message about my new Monstera plant. He also did not cross the touch barrier. He has not asked me out again. Does that mean he is not interested and I should continue my search?

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Curlyhairdonotcare · 07/06/2022 09:09

Shitscared123 · 07/06/2022 03:29

I love these will he/won’t he threads!! So glad the cheese plant didn’t put him off . I like the sound of you. Please update us on the next date.

monstera chat was hardly bed room chat xx

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GentlemanJay · 07/06/2022 09:31

Don't die wondering. Just ask him. Then you know.

Suprima · 07/06/2022 09:41

Curlyhairdonotcare · 06/06/2022 14:53

I just would rather know one way or the other tbh
i dont have anytime for games
i find multi dating too exhausting and prefer to see one person at a time

But this attitude is completely wrong and is going to exhaust you emotionally in the long run.

You really can’t put your eggs in one basket and become exclusive with the first man you go on a date with from bumble. There is no point in investing all your time and emotional energy into one bloke who seems ‘nice’ and you’ve had a pizza with. You’re settling from the get go.

He’s literally got his own mumsnet thread and he hasn’t even kissed you.

Cast the net wider and focus on ‘do i like him?’ ‘has he impressed me?’ ‘do i want to spend time with him again?’. Rinse and repeat. I get that it is effort but the man of your dreams isn’t going to just wander into your living room, and you might just miss him if you aren’t multiple dating.

Pizza and jubilee man probably is multiple dating and has realised you don’t tick his boxes. Please ignore any posters saying ‘oh but you texted him about a house plant how would he reply to that?’ or ‘he is at work he is busy’ because if he really bloody fancied you it wouldn’t stop any conversational flow or suggestion of date 2.

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Curlyhairdonotcare · 07/06/2022 09:50

Suprima · 07/06/2022 09:41

But this attitude is completely wrong and is going to exhaust you emotionally in the long run.

You really can’t put your eggs in one basket and become exclusive with the first man you go on a date with from bumble. There is no point in investing all your time and emotional energy into one bloke who seems ‘nice’ and you’ve had a pizza with. You’re settling from the get go.

He’s literally got his own mumsnet thread and he hasn’t even kissed you.

Cast the net wider and focus on ‘do i like him?’ ‘has he impressed me?’ ‘do i want to spend time with him again?’. Rinse and repeat. I get that it is effort but the man of your dreams isn’t going to just wander into your living room, and you might just miss him if you aren’t multiple dating.

Pizza and jubilee man probably is multiple dating and has realised you don’t tick his boxes. Please ignore any posters saying ‘oh but you texted him about a house plant how would he reply to that?’ or ‘he is at work he is busy’ because if he really bloody fancied you it wouldn’t stop any conversational flow or suggestion of date 2.

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Hea facetiming me tonight and he asked me out on a 2nd date 24 hours after the first??

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Curlyhairdonotcare · 07/06/2022 10:09

Suprima · 07/06/2022 09:41

But this attitude is completely wrong and is going to exhaust you emotionally in the long run.

You really can’t put your eggs in one basket and become exclusive with the first man you go on a date with from bumble. There is no point in investing all your time and emotional energy into one bloke who seems ‘nice’ and you’ve had a pizza with. You’re settling from the get go.

He’s literally got his own mumsnet thread and he hasn’t even kissed you.

Cast the net wider and focus on ‘do i like him?’ ‘has he impressed me?’ ‘do i want to spend time with him again?’. Rinse and repeat. I get that it is effort but the man of your dreams isn’t going to just wander into your living room, and you might just miss him if you aren’t multiple dating.

Pizza and jubilee man probably is multiple dating and has realised you don’t tick his boxes. Please ignore any posters saying ‘oh but you texted him about a house plant how would he reply to that?’ or ‘he is at work he is busy’ because if he really bloody fancied you it wouldn’t stop any conversational flow or suggestion of date 2.

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I tried to multidate a couple of times and honestly, it wasnt for me. I actually missed red flags That I would have been able to work out quicker as I was so busy with the ‘others’. This time last year I would see a guy for breakfast, another in the evening and then see another the next day. It was exhausting. And I ended up single and burnt out. I learned that for me - one of them barely texted me (every other day) but I did not notice because I was so busy with the other. For me the right thing is one at a time - if you have any advice in not being burnt out by multi dating I am all ears!! Or a book!!

i love block delete move on - as its more a protection against morons rather than ‘a relationship will complete you’ type book

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