Do you wear pants in bed when you are sharing a bed with a partner you don’t live with?

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Was wondering what others do/ think. I don’t live with dp but we stay at each other’s houses 5 nights a week. I prefer not to wear anything, he prefers NOT to be naked. I think it’s a bit odd. His choice of course.
perhaps it’s just me.

I wish- my labia are not at all petite, quite the opposite ( I hate them)

I echo pp - who do you think buys all the PJs and nighties? I don't feel comfortable sleeping naked. It's also important if you have children who might walk in not to be naked. But mostly it's what you're most comfy with. I like PJs. DH likes naked unless it's v cold. It bears no reflection on our feelings or sexiness. And it would be controlling to try telling the other they were 'wrong'.

I hate sleeping in clothes, and so does he, so neither of us wear anything in bed, ever. We don't live with each other.

😂 This is painting quite the picture!

Leave him for wanting to wear pants?

Not your body, not your decision, OP. I never sleep naked because I don't like to. Doesn't matter where I am or who I'm with.

Wearing underwear in bed always seems odd to me, surely it is a time to let everything relax and air out! PJs or a nightshirt for warmth, fair enough, but undies?
I was somewhat surprised when I read stuff (in MN and elsewhere) suggesting some folk did have underwear on in bed! But their body & so on...

In 26 years marriage DH has never told me what to wear in bed and vice versa. None of each other’s business.

Knickers in bed is a no for me though. I rarely sleep naked unless it’s a heatwave. I’ll wear a nightshirt mostly.DH wears PJ shorts and T-shirt.

Mine are cotton, same as my pyjamas. I don't want to be changing pyjamas bottoms daily if using them as underwear.

I wear pants AND boxers in bed. I grew up with a brother, so I was never naked in the house. I think it comes from that. My DP wears nothing. He grew up with only brothers.

That's the main place I want then. Too much skin on skin and as someone else beautifully said, "oozing" potential. Do you wear uncomfortable underwear? I don't feel like anything needs airing out in my baggy cotton pants!

You don't know if you're going in the same direction because he won't sleep naked??? You sound like my ex. He felt we were incompatible cause I wouldn't sleep naked. You're SLEEPING what difference does it make? I actually had more intimacy with someone that wore pj bottoms to bed than I had with my naked sleeping ex. I think maybe you have bigger issues beyond the sleeping naked thing.

We're the reverse. I can't stand sleeping naked. Makes me feel incredibly vulnerable and it's not great if I have to get up to a child in the night (or if a child gets into our bed). My husband always sleeps naked and has no issues walking around with no clothes on. Neither is odd. It's just personal preference.

Lucky you aren't with me OP, I wear underwear, a bra, singlet, t shirt and tracksuit top and bottom to bed.

Always naked. Both of us. Coming away from a sexually coercive marriage where I wore a full outfit going to bed every night will do that to you.

That threw me as well 🤔

I sleep naked unless I’m on my period 😂 dp gets the message if I’m wearing knickers in bed lol! He sleeps in whatever he collapses in 🥴 has been known to fall asleep on top of the covers in jeans and hoody but if he’s intended to go to bed it’s usually boxers 🤷🏼‍♀️

I wear pants in bed all the time, whether I have a partner or not, whether he lived with me or not, and I'd expect him to as well.

While the DC are familiar with my naked body (showering, changing etc) they have a tendency to get in bed with me, so I wouldn't feel comfortable with them getting into bed with a naked man who is not their dad (as he is my EXDP).

Hated being naked, more comfy in knickers and a top

You have misunderstood completely.

Big tits, so I hate sleeping naked. Only ever done it when really drunk, and even then usually wake up around 4/5am and put a nightie/t-shirt on.

Both ex husbands used to wear at least underwear, neither ever slept naked. Current partner wears pyjamas.

Can't sleep naked, I would be freezing! And I grew up in Australia so that's saying something! I wear lots of clothes to bed. DP goes naked. It's just what we prefer, personally.

I don't feel comfortable sleeping naked. It's also important if you have children who might walk in not to be naked

wear or don’t wear what what you’re comfortable in but don’t confuse your opinions about nudity with some invented rules regarding children.