Do you wear pants in bed when you are sharing a bed with a partner you don’t live with?

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Was wondering what others do/ think. I don’t live with dp but we stay at each other’s houses 5 nights a week. I prefer not to wear anything, he prefers NOT to be naked. I think it’s a bit odd. His choice of course.
perhaps it’s just me.

I wear full on long sleeved and full length pjs in bed and would never, ever sleep naked. Feels really weird to me!

I sleep in pjs. Doesn't matter if I'm alone or DP is here, always do!

Why does it matter to you?
My current and ex boyfriend both wore pants to sleep, and would put them back on after sex.
I prefer to wear a bra to bed - can be uncomfortable without it.

Unless there's a bigger picture here you need to stop nitpicking.

Can you imagine the replies if a woman posted here about her boyfriend trying to control what she wears in bed?

Nobody has the right to tell another person how to dress (unless due to the specific safeguarding issue of nudity around unrelated children, identified above). Bodily autonomy for everyone. DH would be sleeping in the shed if he tried to tell me not to wear my baggy night pants in bed.

Don't forget men have dangly bits! My DH wears pants in bed, he says it's to contain the testicles etc. I think it's to do with not wanting things to get all tangled up overnight.

I used to go to bed naked but my husband always wore shorts. I have a toddler now and since breast feeding got used to wearing a "sleep bra crop top" and knickers. I think I'll always wear something now I'm a Mum but I never thought it weird DH didn't sleep naked when I did. I always just assumed it was to keep his junk more contained. 😅

I hate sleeping naked. It's got nothing to do with intimacy or whether there is anybody else in bed with me! I actually find it hard to get to sleep if I'm not wearing anything.

I can't believe you think it's weird not to be naked in bed. That's what pyjamas are for - who do you think is buying them all?

I hate being naked, I always wear something in bed. Even when DH and I got together. He always slept naked.

What is it you think it is implying? You said you are overthinking it which sounds like you feel that it means more than it does.

I don’t like sleeping naked and my ex never slept naked either.

I never sleep naked as almost certainly the monster under the bed will then get me

He has issues with intimacy. So I guess that is lurking at the back of my mind. I have not told him what to wear/ not wear.

I've never slept without knickers, it would feel odd to me letting it all hang out and ooze 😂

I hate sleeping naked. Nothing to do with intimacy issues I just don't like what it feels like.

I could not and have not ever slept naked neither does my husband of 25 years... I couldn't think of anything worse..

Just wear (or not wear) whatever makes you comfortable. It's weird to enforce your preferences on someone else.

My thoughts, stolen from a previous MN post...

Everyone should have a gusset

I would feel worried if a partner felt the need to wear clothes to bed. Because if I'm wearing clothes in bed, it's either absolutely freezing cold, or I'm feeling unsafe.

But that worry is me projecting my preferences and issues onto another person. And it's clear from this thread that many people feel physically more comfortable sleeping in clothes and it's not relevant to their feelings about their partner.

My other half wears boxers in bed cos he doesn't like his balls sticking to his legs if that helps you at all.

My partner doesn't live with me. Unless we're having sex I'm usually in a t-shirt/dress & knickers and he's in pjs. I can't sleep naked, wasn't brought up that way and keep waking up from the cold!

I always sleep naked, unless it's the depths of winter. Mind you, I've only literally slept with one man in the last decade, and we were definitely both naked. He usually sleeps in something at home, AFAIK, because his kids are often there.

My boyfriend before that wore sweat pants and a long-sleeved t-shirt - he was German. He was quite happy walking around his flat with nothing on, though. I'd have rather he'd stayed naked in bed, but not as much as I wanted him to get a good night's sleep next to me,because moving around a lot and whinging about being cold wouldn't have been good for my own sleep. And I like good sleep.

I think that’s what is going on in the back of my mind. We have been together nearly 4 years and I am unsure whether we are both going in the same direction.
think I am just projecting my insecurities and doubt onto his underpants 😂

I sleep naked and DP wears boxers - where ever we sleep.

Eh? Of course you should wear underwear in bed, it's not very clean not to.
Unless you're willing to launder your bed linen on a daily basis.

It's not worth reading into, I think it just comes from what you've always done and therefore find comfy. OH and I always wear just pants in bed all year round, we tried to sleep naked a few times to see what it was like but couldn't seem to relax enough to drop off so gave up.

If I remember correctly we both said we felt less comfortable and a bit like we might wet the bed without pants on which is ridiculous because the pants we wear are just normal not incontinence ones! I've read someone else say the same on here before though so it's not just us!

I think it must be to do with what you wore in bed as a child and growing up and which felt secure or comfy or both to you. Weird the way your brain works and the associations it makes.

it's not relevant to their feelings about their partner.

No! it really isn't! I would always sleep with pants and a t shirts on, whether I was in bed with my Dh (who i feel completely comfortable with!) or if I was sleeping alone, I just sleep better and feel more comfortable that way

I mean fair enough if was a one off here and there because you were both knackered and accidently fell asleep. But otherwise, put some pants/boxers back on after any activities.