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He slept with someone else whilst I was in hospital....

62 replies

brinkkyboo · 27/05/2022 14:46

Three months ago I started dating a man,we immediately got on great and started dating.
We didn't have the "official " chat but he referred to me as his "girlfriend " when in a pub to another person.

Two weeks ago I was in hopsital for a minor op that week and didn't see him for a week.
He had a night out with his best friend and the next day I could sense he was a bit different.
Anyway a week later he said he didn't want serious but still wanted to date me.
I said yes (thinking he was thinking it was rushing too fast)
Through mutual friend it turned out he slept with someone the night he went out with his friend (random woman )

So I'm thinking he said that was he didn't want to feel like he cheated on me or so that he doesn't look like the bad guy.
Since then he has slept with another woman (different woman )
So that's obviously gave him taste for it.

OP posts:
frozendaisy · 27/05/2022 14:47

Ok so he wants to sleep around if this isn't for you finish it.

Pspspsps · 27/05/2022 14:49

If you want to be exclusive and he doesn’t then this can’t work.

TheOriginalClownfish · 27/05/2022 14:50

Yeah throw this one back in the sea.

When you fancy someone, really fancy them, you'd not be bothered going out getting shags elsewhere because you'd wait and see where this potential one that's important to you might go.

He didn't bother so he's not that bothered about you or where your relationship is headed - now that's fine if you feel likewise but if your basic expectation of someone is that you are monogamous with them then you'll only get hurt with this one.

DramaAlpaca · 27/05/2022 14:50

He's not the man for you. End it and move on. You deserve better.

inmyslippers · 27/05/2022 14:50

I'd drop him soo quick.

LemonViolet · 27/05/2022 14:51

You sound very passive in all of this. You don’t even have a question or a particular point of view really expressed in your post here. There’s a lot of you assuming what someone else might be thinking.

What do you want from the situation?

LampLighter414 · 27/05/2022 14:51

If you want an exclusive relationship ask for it and if he doesn't then cut your losses and move on

femfemlicious · 27/05/2022 14:51

This relationship isnt going to work out @brinkkyboo . Save yourself the trouble and heartbreak. Love yourself and end this now.

DenholmElliot1 · 27/05/2022 14:51

If you want exclusivity you need to tell them.

Overthewine · 27/05/2022 14:53

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arethereanyleftatall · 27/05/2022 14:58

Not sure what you're asking here op.

This bloke has slept with 3 different women in one week.

(Let's assume/hope he wears a condom).

If you're happy with that because it's what you want to do too, crack on.
If you're not happy with that because you want exclusive, then ask him.
If you don't like his response then end it and move on.

KangFang · 27/05/2022 14:58

Delete, block, ghost.
That's all he's worth.

Original poster
brinkkyboo · 27/05/2022 15:06

I'm not sure wether to continue not exclusive whilst still having dates etc
If my jealousy can cope with him going out and hoping he doesn't sleep with someone

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DenholmElliot1 · 27/05/2022 15:12

No, it's not something I would do either OP. Hell would freeze over before I'd share my lover with someone else.

Lacedwithgrace · 27/05/2022 15:28

He can exclusively date you without committing to you and then decide whether he wants to commit to you.

LIZS · 27/05/2022 15:30

"Hoping" won't be enough. You want exclusivity, he does not.

Ponderingwindow · 27/05/2022 15:32

Dating non-exclusively is fine.

if I am having sex, it’s exclusive. I wouldn’t want to risk catching anything he brings back.

1FootInTheRave · 27/05/2022 15:38

Run.

He isn't that into you and you deserve far better.

ValerieCupcake · 27/05/2022 15:38

brinkkyboo · 27/05/2022 15:06

I'm not sure wether to continue not exclusive whilst still having dates etc
If my jealousy can cope with him going out and hoping he doesn't sleep with someone

Aren't you worth more than that?

OurChristmasMiracle · 27/05/2022 15:41

I would send a message and say that you are not looking for the same thing so not compatible. And block

TyrannosaurusRegina · 27/05/2022 15:48

When someone shows you who they, believe them.

If you stay with him, then in years down the line when you're in hospital again/on holiday with friends/away for whatever reason, and hesleeps with someone else beacsue he has the chance you'll wish you'd have just left things now. Save yourself the heartache now - dump him.

Veol · 27/05/2022 15:49

Is he phenomenal in bed? I’m not sure what you get out of it, apart from an STD.

PrinnyPree · 27/05/2022 15:50

brinkkyboo · 27/05/2022 15:06

I'm not sure wether to continue not exclusive whilst still having dates etc
If my jealousy can cope with him going out and hoping he doesn't sleep with someone

But in that case he's just having you as the back up girlfriend whilst he shops around. He's just showing you his colours early, he will never be faithful to you if he's looking for someone else whilst you're still at the beginning of a relationship.

If you don't care about being exclusive and want to date other guys too then fair enough but don't be this guys back up option whilst he plays the field, he obviously doesn't give a damn about you. Throw this one back, you've not invested too much time in him yet.

Femalewoman · 27/05/2022 16:16

Yuck from me on that. Unless you like that in a man then just dump him. If you are ok with it then carry on.

seensome · 27/05/2022 16:18

If he was really into you, he wouldn't be wanting to date around and sleep with other women, he doesn't think much of you to do this while you're in hospital. What a shit!

If was me, next time he gets in touch, you're too busy and getting ready for another date