He slept with someone else whilst I was in hospital....

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Three months ago I started dating a man,we immediately got on great and started dating.
We didn't have the "official " chat but he referred to me as his "girlfriend " when in a pub to another person.

Two weeks ago I was in hopsital for a minor op that week and didn't see him for a week.
He had a night out with his best friend and the next day I could sense he was a bit different.
Anyway a week later he said he didn't want serious but still wanted to date me.
I said yes (thinking he was thinking it was rushing too fast)
Through mutual friend it turned out he slept with someone the night he went out with his friend (random woman )

So I'm thinking he said that was he didn't want to feel like he cheated on me or so that he doesn't look like the bad guy.
Since then he has slept with another woman (different woman )
So that's obviously gave him taste for it.

He's not going to stop shagging other women if he's shagged two other women in the space of 3 weeks.

You've done nothing wrong. It isn't your fault he slept with other people. This is who he is.

Please walk away. If you stick around, what would you be sticking around for? Someone you can't trust who doesn't respect you. Someone who will erode your self esteem. Someoen who will have you jumping through hoops to try to keep them.

Walk away now before real damage is done.

It really boils down to whether you want an open relationship or not. Simple really.

Do you really need to ask? You know.

Why on earth do you think this is about you not being good enough , this man likes to have sex with lots of women.
In your position I would stop seeing him, and do some work on my self esteem.

You're NOT SURE?

You thought you were this fuckboy's girlfriend, & now you are going to accept being with a twat who cheerfully shags 3 women in the same week, while describing you as his g/f?

How happy are you going to be, spending your life hoping your fuckboy doesn't fuck around this week, next week, every week?

I had to have minor surgery. My boyfriend of 3 months took the day off work, drove me there, picked me up and spent the afternnon with me and cooked dinner for us. We have been married for years now. This is more the sort of thing you should expect.

I’m of the generation where as soon as you were seeing someone, you were, to use the modern term, ‘exclusive’. None of this dating-several-people until you have ‘the chat’ malarkey.l

Therefore, him sleeping around would instantly be break-up territory for me. He’s not a keeper.

Fuck no. Do not continue. Why in earth would you want to still see him, knowing he’s shagging around and hoping he isn’t?

Raise your bar. You deserve more than this! Him sleeping with 2 women recently while you’re dating is not about what more you could do to stop him. It’s him. It’s who he is. He’s not for you.

OP, this is only going to end one way for you, and that is badly.

Dump him.

He's sleeping around and has zero respect for you.

Why would you waste time with someone who would behave like that?

Bin him OP. He's effectively cheated on you - you didn't know what he was doing.