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I found a receipt for Viagra in his pocket!!

65 replies

kwals80 · 26/05/2022 18:58

My partner suffers from diabetes and it’s getting worse and I notice this because when we have sex I can feel his doesn’t get fully hard.
So on Monday evening he said that I shouldn’t make any food for him as he was going to his friends. But you know as woman we have this weird feeling, when we know something doesn’t feel right?
And it’s weird because I don’t normally feel that way but on Monday I had that feeling.
Moving swiftly on……all night I didn’t like how I was feeling so I looked on his Amex statement via Apple Pay (as I also have his Amex sorted on my iPhone wallet). I found that he spent £29.50 in Tesco @ 20:30 but just didn’t know what on. It was coming up to 2:00am and he still wasn’t back and I ended up falling asleep. So I’m not even sure what time he even came in.
Anyway I dropped the kids to school and when I got back something told me to look in his coat pocket and I found the receipt
/card for Viagra (photo attached). When I confronted him I asked him what did he buy from Tesco and he said alcohol and I kept asking what else, I then let him know that I knew he brought viagra and he said it wasn’t the first time, and he uses as his diabetes is getting worse and as I know he can’t get as hard anymore. I said to him well you haven’t been using it with me and how convenient that you brought it that day when you were supposedly going to you friends.
He denied that he was cheating (obviously)!!
Anyway sorry for the long winded thread but I want to know that it’s not me going mad is it?

I found a receipt for Viagra in his pocket!!
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ElCoh · 26/05/2022 19:02

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ElCoh · 26/05/2022 19:03

Oh and yeah, he's cheating. You're snooping, he's cheating. Sounds healthy.

Moser85 · 26/05/2022 19:48

For Gods sake @ElCoh It was clearly a mistake.

sorry @kwals80 I would think he's cheating too. If not then I assume he would have shown you the unopened pack as proof.

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kwals80 · 26/05/2022 19:53

@Moser85 That’s a very good point. Thank you for that.

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ElCoh · 26/05/2022 19:54

It's for God's sake. 😉

FibbyJiggins · 26/05/2022 19:54

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FibbyJiggins · 26/05/2022 19:56

You're not going mad, OP. I would say the evidence is pretty clear. Sorry.

Readtheroom · 26/05/2022 20:00

ElCoh · 26/05/2022 19:54

It's for God's sake. 😉

nobody cares

SecondarySnob · 26/05/2022 20:03

The 24th May was Tuesday though?

Readtheroom · 26/05/2022 20:04

SecondarySnob · 26/05/2022 20:03

The 24th May was Tuesday though?

It was but I think OPs forgotten what day it was

ElCoh · 26/05/2022 20:07

@FibbyJiggins original!

ElCoh · 26/05/2022 20:07

You cared enough to reply @Readtheroom

FibbyJiggins · 26/05/2022 20:10

ElCoh · 26/05/2022 20:07

@FibbyJiggins original!

Ah, so you've been described as such many times.

gamerchick · 26/05/2022 20:13

You can buy Viagra in Tesco?

Moser85 · 26/05/2022 20:16

@gamerchick
Many Tescos have pharmacies.

NotaCoolMum · 26/05/2022 20:18

@kwals80 are you sure he’s not using it for your intimate time together?

ChloeHel · 26/05/2022 20:19

Agree with @Moser85 ask him to show you the packet to prove he hasn’t taken one. He either bought a pack of 2 or 4. Pack of 2 is £10.99 and a pack of 4 is £19.99 - so he must have bought other things too as a pack of 8 is £34.99 so too much!

@gamerchick yes, Tesco have their own pharmacy.

Dementedswan · 26/05/2022 20:24

Why do people automatically call affair? Op my h is diabetic. He spoke to his consultant and they prescribed viagra. He was embarrassed to tell me in case it didn't work, it did and I found the packet so he confessed. Men have feelings too. BTW my dh certainly wasn't cheating, he felt useless and wanted to try without raising my hopes.

Discovereads · 26/05/2022 20:25

Even if he’s taken one or more, that’s not proof he has cheated. It’s not unheard of for men to test it to see if it works before trying it when sex is in the cards.

I don’t see how buying viagara is proof of cheating anyway.

Likeli · 26/05/2022 20:29

Well surely just ask him to show you the packet? If he can’t (because some are missing) then throw him out he’s obviously cheating.

Whowhatwherewhenwhynow · 26/05/2022 20:29

the Unusual late night out with his friend coinciding with purchasing the viagra would raise my concerns.

he could just be buying for when he is intimate with you, as he might be embarrassed. However I’m guessing there is a wider context that means you are worried about an affair given you were already suspicious before finding it.

have there been other changes, increased nights out, hiding his phone etc.

Readtheroom · 26/05/2022 20:30

ElCoh · 26/05/2022 20:07

You cared enough to reply @Readtheroom

Hmm
MaggieFS · 26/05/2022 20:31

Discovereads · 26/05/2022 20:25

Even if he’s taken one or more, that’s not proof he has cheated. It’s not unheard of for men to test it to see if it works before trying it when sex is in the cards.

I don’t see how buying viagara is proof of cheating anyway.

It isn't. But buying it at 8.30 pm and then not coming home for hours raises questions. I too would be suspicious.

Daisydoo99 · 26/05/2022 20:33

Hey

can I put another spin on this?

In regards to the viagra, maybe he’s been having a small dose without you knowing ( due to being embarrassed) and it’s not making him ‘rock hard’- sorry for the cringey phrase. I’m not sure how viagra works?
He genuinely may have been at his mates, blowing off steam and having some time with a man because he’s struggling with his health and confidence. I don’t think many men talk about stuff like that to each other but maybe he needed abit of a male chat/ company?

the lying isn’t fab BUT it’s embarrassing to many men and a huge issue mentally.

some questions…

  1. has he got very defensive or understood how it looks and tried to reassure?
  2. has he explained why if he’s been taking it, he’s still slightly soft with you still?
  3. does he normally stay out so late on a week night?
xx
Discovereads · 26/05/2022 20:39

MaggieFS · 26/05/2022 20:31

It isn't. But buying it at 8.30 pm and then not coming home for hours raises questions. I too would be suspicious.

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But he did not go on a shopping trip and then mysteriously didn’t come back to 2am. He stopped by Tescos on the way to see a friend, which OP knew he was going to see and spend the evening with.