I found a receipt for Viagra in his pocket!!

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My partner suffers from diabetes and it’s getting worse and I notice this because when we have sex I can feel his doesn’t get fully hard.
So on Monday evening he said that I shouldn’t make any food for him as he was going to his friends. But you know as woman we have this weird feeling, when we know something doesn’t feel right?
And it’s weird because I don’t normally feel that way but on Monday I had that feeling.
Moving swiftly on……all night I didn’t like how I was feeling so I looked on his Amex statement via Apple Pay (as I also have his Amex sorted on my iPhone wallet). I found that he spent £29.50 in Tesco @ 20:30 but just didn’t know what on. It was coming up to 2:00am and he still wasn’t back and I ended up falling asleep. So I’m not even sure what time he even came in.
Anyway I dropped the kids to school and when I got back something told me to look in his coat pocket and I found the receipt
/card for Viagra (photo attached). When I confronted him I asked him what did he buy from Tesco and he said alcohol and I kept asking what else, I then let him know that I knew he brought viagra and he said it wasn’t the first time, and he uses as his diabetes is getting worse and as I know he can’t get as hard anymore. I said to him well you haven’t been using it with me and how convenient that you brought it that day when you were supposedly going to you friends.
He denied that he was cheating (obviously)!!
Anyway sorry for the long winded thread but I want to know that it’s not me going mad is it?

I would thing he had arranged to meet a prostitute. Sorry OP xx

I’m not saying it was a coincidence. Most men are embarrassed at needing viagara to get a hard on. So he’d not likely buy it with you there. So picking it up while out alone for the evening is the perfect way to buy it and then try it.

He also had the audacity to text me and ask if I’d cooked for him…I replied “No - her the person your F*g to make your food”

Sorry but I think you’re mental to be assuming he’s cheated and sending him messages like that.

There’s nothing like ED that can be considered the same stuff. And it’s very common that people might be very open about some health issues, but not sexual dysfunctions.

It's a tough call isn't it op. But I agree it would raise my spidey senses somewhat. At the end of the day only you know what feels off to you and if this has set off a gut instinct reaction then then listen to it.

He also had the audacity to text me and ask if I’d cooked for him…I replied “No - her the person your F*g to make your food”

This is plain weird, all the guy did was buy viagra. The aggressive accusations are a good example, along with the lack of trust, as to why you should go your separate ways.

DH buys them all the time and not necessarily when a shag is imminent. The last time he bought them was April, he didn't go off and sleep with someone else straight away, they got put in his meds box for if and when he needed them. He hasn't needed them.

The op seems to think he wouldn't be embarrassed. She knows him better than us. I'd be suspicious too.

We all know our partners and know what they are like/usual habits and behaviour.The OP knows her partner better than a bunch of us random people on the internet.

The OP felt there was something off about the night out with her partners supposed night out with his friend;it was enough for her to trust her instincts and follow up on it.

Then he went and brought viagra and was lied about it;the OP said he's normally open and honest about this and now he's being cagey and lied to the OP.

“This is plain weird, all the guy did was buy viagra. The aggressive accusations are a good example, along with the lack of trust, as to why you should go your separate ways.”

I agree @toastedbagiel If I were being accused of cheating because I’d privately bought oestrogen gel due to vaginal dryness and been too embarrassed to tell my DH because he might think I’m not attracted to him any more because I can’t get wet for him. I’d be shattered into a million pieces if he accused me of only buying it to use with another man because I happened to fill the prescription one rare night I went to see a friend. I don’t understand the OPs complete lack of trust but do know it will kill the relationship.

Viagra is for Gods sake? Heavens to Betsy.

@Discovereads my reason for feeling this is because his always open about sexual stuff, this man is a talker. I know he has issues with ED so why hide the fact about buying the tablets his brought the cock ring before and told me.
When I asked him he had an opportunity to tell me.
As I previously said I do not normally have any suspicions when he goes out but this time I did, and also if he claims to have used them with me in the past, and I don’t think he has, why go buy them again? (It’s because he hasn’t used them with me before and he had an idea to use them for that night with whomever he was going to meet).

I can understand a man being embarrassed about ED. Given the link with diabetes, is there anything about his lifestyle that you could support that might reduce the impact?

@balalake i cook all his meals for him, but his not good with maintaining this and will go and buy extra shit on the side.

Ask him when the last time he's used viagra, it's not Beene it's you since he bought it, when he tells you this ask him to show you the pack. If he refuses, because he knows some are missing it's another nail on the coffin

I too think he's cheating so would be making plans to leave

Ask him for proof he went to the friends house. This could be

Time stamped phonecalls
Text messages

If he doesn't have either of these to show that would be very unusual as most arrangements are made this way. If he says he doesn't have proof. Tell him to get proof by texting or phoning this friend in your presence to say he had a good night (on night in question) and would like to do it again.

If he can't do that then you have your definitive answer.