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I found a receipt for Viagra in his pocket!!

65 replies

kwals80 · 26/05/2022 18:58

My partner suffers from diabetes and it’s getting worse and I notice this because when we have sex I can feel his doesn’t get fully hard.
So on Monday evening he said that I shouldn’t make any food for him as he was going to his friends. But you know as woman we have this weird feeling, when we know something doesn’t feel right?
And it’s weird because I don’t normally feel that way but on Monday I had that feeling.
Moving swiftly on……all night I didn’t like how I was feeling so I looked on his Amex statement via Apple Pay (as I also have his Amex sorted on my iPhone wallet). I found that he spent £29.50 in Tesco @ 20:30 but just didn’t know what on. It was coming up to 2:00am and he still wasn’t back and I ended up falling asleep. So I’m not even sure what time he even came in.
Anyway I dropped the kids to school and when I got back something told me to look in his coat pocket and I found the receipt
/card for Viagra (photo attached). When I confronted him I asked him what did he buy from Tesco and he said alcohol and I kept asking what else, I then let him know that I knew he brought viagra and he said it wasn’t the first time, and he uses as his diabetes is getting worse and as I know he can’t get as hard anymore. I said to him well you haven’t been using it with me and how convenient that you brought it that day when you were supposedly going to you friends.
He denied that he was cheating (obviously)!!
Anyway sorry for the long winded thread but I want to know that it’s not me going mad is it?

I found a receipt for Viagra in his pocket!!
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Moser85 · 26/05/2022 20:42

But he did not go on a shopping trip and then mysteriously didn’t come back to 2am. He stopped by Tescos on the way to see a friend, which OP knew he was going to see and spend the evening with.

But she doesn't know he went to see that friend. All she knows is that he told her he was. And on that particular evening her gut feeling was that something was not right, which is why she ended up investigating.

Bollindger · 26/05/2022 20:46

I had an ex who wasn't able to get hard, he even got Viagra without me knowing, and he would go out with friends and drink then take it on the way home in the hope it would work,
He never acknowledge he brought it , and he could never get very hard even with the pills. Ask him to take one, for you both and see just how well it works, this way you can see the truth for yourself, and I bet he doesn't get properly errect.
Also a man who can't get hard is very unlikely to cheat, very few women want to put it with half measures.

Riverlee · 26/05/2022 20:49

I don’t think he’s necessarily cheating, but may just be embarrassed.

mackthepony · 26/05/2022 20:52

Maybe it was for a friend?

MadeForThis · 26/05/2022 20:57

Ask him to show you the unused pills.

Discovereads · 26/05/2022 20:59

Moser85 · 26/05/2022 20:42

But he did not go on a shopping trip and then mysteriously didn’t come back to 2am. He stopped by Tescos on the way to see a friend, which OP knew he was going to see and spend the evening with.

But she doesn't know he went to see that friend. All she knows is that he told her he was. And on that particular evening her gut feeling was that something was not right, which is why she ended up investigating.

And she found a receipt for viagara which is not evidence of cheating.

Discovereads · 26/05/2022 21:01

Bollindger · 26/05/2022 20:46

I had an ex who wasn't able to get hard, he even got Viagra without me knowing, and he would go out with friends and drink then take it on the way home in the hope it would work,
He never acknowledge he brought it , and he could never get very hard even with the pills. Ask him to take one, for you both and see just how well it works, this way you can see the truth for yourself, and I bet he doesn't get properly errect.
Also a man who can't get hard is very unlikely to cheat, very few women want to put it with half measures.

^This. I agree highly unlikely that a man with ongoing ED that he is embarrassed about and struggling with is going to be tom catting about.

Moser85 · 26/05/2022 21:17

Perhaps it's the guilt from cheating which is what is making his erections less hard and not the diabetes.

I certainly wouldn't rule out cheating just because of ongoing ED, I've seen many posters on here stunned to find out their partner with ED was in fact cheating on them.

However I do accept that it's probably not as cut and dry as my original response and he may not be cheating!

gamerchick · 26/05/2022 21:41

Moser85 · 26/05/2022 20:16

@gamerchick
Many Tescos have pharmacies.

Right.

You can buy Viagra over the counter in Tesco?

Scabbyknackers · 26/05/2022 21:49

If he bought the viagra on Monday and you haven't had sex since then just ask him to show you the packet. If he can't produce it or there's any missing then that's a lot more dodge than if he's brought it home intact. He may say he took one on the way home just in case.

ChloeHel · 26/05/2022 21:55

gamerchick · 26/05/2022 21:41

Right.

You can buy Viagra over the counter in Tesco?

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Yep as long as there is a pharmacist in store.

Badger1970 · 26/05/2022 22:14

Hmm it sounds a bit "odd" that he's not mentioned it.

DH tried them (he's got a cardiac issue) but it made him feel quite unwell and wasn't the miracle cure we'd hoped for. But he said he'd never have taken one without saying just in case he was ill from it!

I'd ask him to see the pack. If he's got nothing to hide, he'll show you.

Original poster
kwals80 · 26/05/2022 23:55

Sorry it was Tuesday I was so angry whilst writing this I can’t even think straight.

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:01

@NotaCoolMum He said that purchased them before and he reckons he used one the other day, but to be honest I didn’t notice any difference.

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Sortilege · 27/05/2022 00:04

ChloeHel · 26/05/2022 20:19

Agree with @Moser85 ask him to show you the packet to prove he hasn’t taken one. He either bought a pack of 2 or 4. Pack of 2 is £10.99 and a pack of 4 is £19.99 - so he must have bought other things too as a pack of 8 is £34.99 so too much!

@gamerchick yes, Tesco have their own pharmacy.

I love how on MN, someone will know the fine detail of any subject if you look for them. 😁

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:10

@Daisydoo99 1. After he said he wasn’t charting (but who in there goddam mind would admit if they was anyway). He walked out and hasn’t said anything to me. Until he left for work on Wednesday evening and said “goodbye”walked back in from work Thursday morning and said “morning” and said he will take over and get the kids ready for school.
2 nope as I said he hasn’t brought up again.
3 no he doesn’t normally stay out that late in a weeknight.
4 He also had the audacity to text me and ask if I’d cooked for him…I replied “No - her the person your F***g to make your food”

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Sortilege · 27/05/2022 00:12

Discovereads · 26/05/2022 21:01

^This. I agree highly unlikely that a man with ongoing ED that he is embarrassed about and struggling with is going to be tom catting about.

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There might be something to that take on it @kwals80

If he is quite shy and private he might have just cracked on with trying a solution. You wouldn’t have known necessarily if he was experimenting with timings.

The timing of the purchase isn’t necessarily significant if he was going into tesco for something else.

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:13

@Discovereads and coincidentally decided to buy viagra at 20:30. Come on??!!!

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Zemw · 27/05/2022 00:14

Lying scumbag !

ladydimitrescu · 27/05/2022 00:14

I really wouldn't assume he's cheating - I would assume he was mortified he was having issues and bought it to use with you. It's not exactly something he's going to want to shout from the rooftops about is it?

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:16

@Riverlee but his normally very open about this stuff so that’s why I’m not buying the embarrassed theory.

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Sortilege · 27/05/2022 00:16

kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:13

@Discovereads and coincidentally decided to buy viagra at 20:30. Come on??!!!

I bought Imodium, tampons and canes tan yesterday. Not expecting to need any of them imminently. Just stocking up while I was buying vitamins and shampoo.

OTOH, his behaviour since you confronted him does sound possibly suss. If he was innocent would he not want to clear the air?

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:19

sorry his reply was “cool”

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:22

My thing is when I Initially asked him numerous times what did he buy from Tesco and he kept saying alcohol he knew there was something up (or he knew what I was referring to) he could of just owned up then.

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kwals80 · 27/05/2022 00:25

@Sortilege exactly and his not the type of person to shy aware from confrontation at all. To the point I’ve always said to him he could of been a lawyer.

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