My marriage is abusive and I’ve been putting up with it for far too long. There is no physical violence but awful verbal, emotional, and financial abuse. His anger and hatred towards me is off the scale. Lately I’ve felt increasingly uneasy round him and a sense of danger. I’ve wondered if he was planning to kill me then told myself I’m being silly.I’ve asked him to move out, and he has. He is furious.
Today I had a conversation with his brother. Bil is very sensible and nice. He knows we’ve not been getting on although not the truth. Bil said he has become seriously concerned. He said H often rants about me in a furious spiteful manner and blames me for everything.He said H is consumed by it. He said H gives off a evil sinister energy (he does) and that he no longer wants him around him or his children. He said he is seriously concerned that H is going to hurt me and that he has long suspected him to be a sociopath.
I don’t know if I’m just spooked, but I’m actually really frightened. I used to have that awful anxious feeling around him that i realise was actually fear. I am not worried he is going to attack me, I am worried he is going to kill me.
I know that womens aid and the police can help but realistically he could be in this house within seconds if he wanted to.
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I’ve got a bad feeling.
Sausagelove · 17/05/2022 23:07
BoDerek · 17/05/2022 23:23
Oh goodness, please act on this. Yes Woman’s Aid can help you. Please do whatever it is you’d advise a good friend or a sister to do if this was happening to them.
Nothing is worth living like this. I know people in here will advise you not to move out but I’m more of the thinking that it’s better to be alive than right.
Sausagelove · 18/05/2022 00:07
I cannot leave my home and even if I did he obviously would know I had gone to certain friends. He knows where I work and where I go. I was going to say I don’t feel in immediate danger tonight but I just realised I usually leave the back door open for the pets to wander in and out and I have kept it locked tonight.
What realistically will the police do, based on a feeling? He hasn’t commented any crime?
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