Is my partner gay?

[Delpedro32]

I need advice to know if my gf is gay or not and what to do about it. I have been with my gf for 8 years now and in the back of my mind I have always thought she could be gay. This is due too the many signs she showed about it, some of the signs individually where not indicative but all together yes. For example only watching lesbian porn, almost no interest in a penis or having penetrative sex, having really intense friendships with her female friends to the point she follows and prioritises them above all else. Showing her breast regularly to other females etc but the main thing for me was when we had a year apart , she got a female friend she knew only a couple of months to move in to our family house, particularly she gave our/her room to this girl and moved herself to the single spare room. I couldn't visit the house while she lived there. Weekly they would have wild nights with loads of alcohol and drugs and I couldn't even call her those nights.
There is many more things that happened but I will let you guys ask me and advise first.

Yeah Sounds gay to me

Exceedingly gay.

Thanks for your opinion 👍

Nah. I only watch lesbian porn despite being straight. She had some parties - so what? And close friends?

Definitely gay.

Do you also not like penis or penetrative sex ?

Whether she's gay, straight or bi, she sounds like the sort of person you shouldn't be in a relationship with.

yes

Makes no difference, your relationship sounds awful either way.

What are you even getting out of it?

Ross??

Regardless of what we say regarding her sexuality, are you actually happy being with a woman who doesn’t like penetrative sex and who doesn’t take any interest in your penis?

I think your trying to make something bad sound good. Lesbian porn? Sure, nothing wrong with that. But having a wine and cocaine session once or twice a week secretly from your partner, in someone elses house, can't name the people you are with ?
If it was your partner disappearing 2 nights every week , you don't know where or with who, you would be ok with that?

Gay and doesn’t even really like you.

Having drug fueled parties doesn't mean she's gay though, but of course isn't good in itself.

A lot of women don't like giving oral or whatever, and don't get much out of penetrative sex.

Gay or not OP she isn't that into you.

Thank you for your opinion. I agree, just having drug fuelled parties doesn't make you gay. But constantly having secret parties with the same person and lying about it sounds very suspicious. Also I didn't refer to her giving oral, i meant myself giving her oral, witch she loved

I was responding to you saying she wasn't really interested in penis. I think a lot of people don't find penises themselves attractive though, unless it's a really impressive specimen.