DHs morning motorcycle rides suspicious?

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DH got a new motorcycle in the last few months, last Sunday he went out at 7am didn't tell me where he was going or what time and didn't get back until 2pm I was out of my mind thinking he crashed. This morning he's got up at 4.30am and gone out on a motorcycle ride said he would text me to tell me he was safe later on. Who gets up on at 4.30 to go on a motorcycle ride ??!!

That's very strange behaviour sounds like a mid life crisis do you expect an affair?

The roads are empty, this time of year the air is cool and clean. Dawn is the Perfect time for a bike ride while few traffic police are looking.

Unless you have any reason to think he has another woman, he's probably just enjoying the open road.

Where does he go - coast? Mountains? Ask to go with him.

Is he refusing to say where he’s going ?

My neighbour does this. Drives us mad being woken up to him revving the bike so early at the weekend. Must be the best time to go I guess but very inconsiderate.

This could be it he says he's going to North Wales but we don't live that far away 30 mins from the border 7 hours for a motorcycle ride seems a bit excessive but I've never really been into it so I don't know.

Bikers are a different breed. This is completely normal. As others have said, it's the best time for a bike ride ☺️

Definitely the best time to be out on the road but I would expect a message at least once to know he was okay.

I rode a bike in my twenties and I used to do this. It's all about freedom and speed and the joy of no traffic. The bike becomes an extension of self and it can be quite addictive.

Honestly, try it !

They have group meet ups and ride here too - they have the freedom of the road before the rush hour.
But they also allow road closures for bikes here - and they have a set circuit.

Maybe he feels he needs the practice to fee confident.

7 hours is a hell of a lot of fuel!

It's the perfect time to go for a ride, I've ridden for years and would go out at first light, stop for a cuppa with my riding friends and then go on for a few more 100 miles. It's a time toilet tho and I'd be out hours without realising it.

I'd go out early because the roads are quieter, less cars, less police, it's just all round a nicer ride earlier in the morning.

I don't find your dh behaviour odd, it's the same with 1000s of bikers. Wales is a prime spot for decent roads

Pre child I would leave at 7 and go out for 4-5hours ride and thing nothing of it, less cars, and I love the crisp mornings.

I have a few biker friends and this is not strange at all, they often get up v early on a Sunday and enjoy the roads - less cars, less lorries and less everything compared to any other day. This time of year too it can be bright v early and they enjoy going somewhere relatively scenic on the bikes.

If you are suspicious, keep an eye on the mileage maybe?
Gone 6 hours and for example only 30miles added would be suspicious, 200 miles added, not so much.

My DH does this every Saturday morning. Gets up at 5am and out. His thing is sea kayaking but same kind of reasons. Makes most of weekend and nice and quiet at the sea front. Sends beautiful photos of the sunrise sometimes. Then brings back croissants for breakfast around now.

Have you got young DC? If not buy some leathers and go with him?

What are you suspicious of? That he’s going somewhere else and not riding his bike all that time? If you’re that worried about it check the mileage/fuel usage

Do you have kids with him?

If so you need to determine why he is absenting himself from family life.

Yes going out on clear roads in the fresh air for hours sounds nice - but most of us with kids actually take our responsibilities seriously and can't indulge ourselves like that.

I'd also make sure find my iphone is active so you can find out where he is. Tell him that you were desperately worried that he was dead in a ditch and want to get this feature working so that you can locate him. If he gets uncomfortable about this, then you have your answer. Me, my dh and teens use this feature routinely to find eachother.

I agree check the mileage as well.

That sounds like typical biker behaviour tbh. And to rephrase OP's question - who goes out at 4.30am to have an affair?

I'd like to know why OP thinks this is suspicious though - IMO once you start mistrusting your partner, for whatever reason, whether warranted or not, then it's pretty hard for the relationship to recover.

So he just went out and bought himself a motorbike - what did you get to buy for the same amount of money?

4:30 is a bit early, I’ve often got up a 6 to meet ppl @7 for a full days riding.

I live in one of the towns near the Evo Triangle. It's perfectly possible for him to be meeting up with other people to tour North Wales. They roar through here regularly on a weekend in groups.

But check his mileage...

Morning is a good time to bike, as others have said, and he's maybe stopping to meet up with friends (I have a big, burly mate who goes on bike rides with a load of similar scary-looking blokes, and they basically go somewhere nice, get ice cream and then admire the view for a couple of hours).

I'd be inclined to think he'd be a bit less "obvious" if he was having an affair, to be honest.

However, I'd expect him to let you know roughly where he's going and to send you a message at some point saying when he expects to be back. And I agree with taking a peek at the mileage if you're suspicious.

Unless there are other signs or things making you uncomfortable then I'd say he's enjoying his bike on quiet roads. North Wales is perfect for it too.