DHs morning motorcycle rides suspicious?

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DH got a new motorcycle in the last few months, last Sunday he went out at 7am didn't tell me where he was going or what time and didn't get back until 2pm I was out of my mind thinking he crashed. This morning he's got up at 4.30am and gone out on a motorcycle ride said he would text me to tell me he was safe later on. Who gets up on at 4.30 to go on a motorcycle ride ??!!

This is perfectly normal for a biker (apart from lack of occasional messages)

Motorbikin', motorbikin', motorbikin', motorcycling
Movin' on the queens' highway
Lookin' like a streak of lightnin'
If you gotta go, go, gotta go motorbike ridin'

Totally normal. Dad was a biker. Regularly drove over 100 miles to turn up at my house for breakfast (without checking first). I suspect OPs DH has found a nice biker cafe.

My Ex husband used to go out at 4.00am on his bike to watch the sun rise over Snowden (we lived in Nottingham!). Said it was the best time to bike. He had a very stressful job and said it was his way to relax. Definitely no other woman involved there. It was a love affair with his bike!!

But in some ways that's the difference between people. In my immediate family the women are all of the "I'll let you know when I've arrived/that I'm OK/when I'll be back" mindset whereas the men are much more of the "You'll find out if something goes wrong" persuasion.

They are mature adults not 6 year olds getting a present

Not particularly quiet roads anymore and bikers are very vulnerable.

I'd be more concerned that his affairs are in order. Will, LPA and life assurance.

Dear god, are OP and her DH 8yos?

I don't think the behaviour in itself is that odd OP, but there'll be an underlying reason why it's ringing alarm bells for you.

I run and often go out very early at weekends, but that's so I can get back to still have a good part of the day with the family. If he wants to spend the majority of his leisure time without you, that's not a good thing, but it is reasonable for all adults to have some time to themselves.

Yes it’s entirely normal behaviour for a biker, but I’ve ridden pillion on a friend’s bike for a few years for occasional trips to the coast and similar and I’m pretty sure he’s never told his wife.

My DH used to have bikes and he would do this most weekends before and after kids.

The roads were clear and he would meet up with others and a have a few coffee stops.

The hours and miles would just fly by without anyone realising.

Why don't you go with him ?

The North Wales coast is a real hotspot and great fun, lots of different types of riders, sports bikes, leisure bikes and lots of people two up. Why don’t you try it?

I'm married to a biker. This is normal. DH and BIL often do this to get sunrise pictures with their bikes 🤷🏻‍♀️

Why can't the guy just enjoy his hobby? Sounds great for him, & you get a lovely quiet day at home so it's a win for everyone.

Damn, reading this makes me want to go right out and buy a motorbike. Being out on the road at dawn and headed for the coast sounds brilliant.

Empty roads, dawn light, the world is fresh and new ... gorgeous 😍
Does he fancy a pillion? not helping

Sounds like bliss to me. Empty roads, sun on your face, heaven.

I don't think 7 hours is that concerning. He won't be riding all that time. He'll be stopping for lunch for one thing - that will probably take an hour. Maybe a coffee break too somewhere and stops along the way to look at scenery.
I wouldn't jump to the affair scenario just yet...

However, he should be communicating to you how long he's going to be away, just to keep you in the loop and make sure you aren't worrying about him.

Can you track him so you know where he is in a non weird way. So you can see he is safe. I love a sunrise/sunset so could see why this would appeal at 4.30 am?

Yup, completely normal. We were driving down to London a few weeks ago, left home really early and we're crossing Carter Bar at about 6am - stopped for a photo as it was such a beautiful morning and a guy on a motorbike pulled up to do the same thing. He was from Newcastle, out for a quick spin and had to be home for 8 to take the kids to school .

DH is a biker, he was out for 5-6 hours in North Wales today. He said the biker cafes and roads were really busy. Your DH may have just wanted to miss the crowds and enjoy the peace early doors.

Do you have other reasons to be suspicious of him?

Normal (biker widow)

If he's got a new bike and is still getting used to it then it's safer to ride it when there's not huge amounts of traffic.

Sorry this is off topic OP but this early morning racing is certainly something that motorcyclists do. Unfortunately causes a lot of distress to people who live on their racetrack routes, who are woken in the early hours every single weekend by speeding motorcyclists, with exhausts that have been modified plus revving the gears. Cars and lorries don’t seem to make half the level of noise. It has made me really hate motorcyclists.

A ones to all motorcyclists reading this - please have consideration for those living near roads and don’t modify your exhaust or rev the gears in the early morning. You make much more noise than other road users and wake everyone up. Think about residents. Please please please.

Bike widow here 👋🙋‍♀️ totally normal.... thank your lucky stars he's not in a club... yet lol