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Would you go out with a short man?

371 replies

Maverick2022 · 06/05/2022 21:54

Not the most PC question, but....

Would you go out with a relatively short man eg I'm just under 5'6" and he's the same.

I've never gone out with a man the same height as me before, the prospect feels a bit odd. He's also v lightly built, which seems to emphasise it.

I've read that men routi eyes lie anoit height on dating sites etc due to mNy women's feelings about this/preferences etc.

How do you feel about it?

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iknowthismuchis · 06/05/2022 23:43

You like what you like I guess. DH is noticeably shorter than me.
He's also stronger than me, kinder than me, funnier than me, richer than me, he often a better parent than me and I think he's massively hot (even after 15 years together) ...

(Also not sure where the small hands suggestion comes from, he has the sexiest hands I've ever seen)

AprilMae · 06/05/2022 23:51

I’ve only gone out with short men (c5’6). I’m 5’3 and don’t like craning my neck. The tall girls can have the 6ft fellas.

Jalepenojello · 06/05/2022 23:59

I wouldn’t be attracted to someone shorter than me

PrettyMaybug · 07/05/2022 00:03

Thesefeetaremadeforwalking · 06/05/2022 22:12

If I was single then, yes, I would.

I'm 5'2" and have dated guys shorter than me, no problem !

Really? Confused So you've dated men around 5 foot tall or shorter?! I think I can count on the fingers of one hand the amount of men I have ever met who are under 5 foot tall!

It seems women who are tall-ish (5 ft 8 +) are much more likely to not want to date men shorter than them. Women who are shorter don't seem so fussed. I have a friend who is 5 ft 9 who says she would never date a man less than 6 ft. She said she'd rather he was ugly and boring than short. I find this so bizarre. I'd rather have a man who was 2 inches shorter than me, and funny and good looking. (I am 5 ft 6.)

OrlandointheWilderness · 07/05/2022 00:04

I'm 5'8 and curvy, DP is 6'1 and a broad, big chap. I bloody love his size and the fact he makes me feel in proportion! 😂 I love hugging him and kissing the side of his neck as that's where we happen to meet. I did have an x who was 6'2 but as lean as anything but I felt like I was going to break him.
Also have dated shorter men but nothing that stuck.

DramaAlpaca · 07/05/2022 00:06

Definitely not. I'm 5'10 myself and wouldn't date anyone shorter than that. DH is an inch taller than me and that's fine. I have never found short men attractive.

PumpkinsandKittens · 07/05/2022 00:06

I’m 5ft 4 and only date men 6ft + ime tall men prefer short/petite women so I’ve never had a problem finding tall men!

WhatDoIDoNow3 · 07/05/2022 00:08

I don't mind it at all, however saying that I've never been with anyone under 6ft, I am curvy so would need the guy to be well built if he's my height 😅

SmiledWtherisingsun · 07/05/2022 00:15

Alcemeg · 06/05/2022 22:24

Rod Stewart's always done all right.

Yep. Wonder why? 🤔

kimfox · 07/05/2022 00:15

No. Tried it once, didn't like it. It's bad enough having short friends you have to stoop to hear & who make you feel abnormal. Wink

JustGotToKeepOnKeepingOn · 07/05/2022 00:18

No. I feel self conscious about my height and weight so am only attracted to men taller and fatter than me.

Getoffmyshoes · 07/05/2022 00:38

I used to be quite height obsessed despite being only 5’2 myself. I once read a thread similar to this and someone had commented “are you really going to pass up on an otherwise perfect man because he’s not towering over you” and I thought to myself she’s right.

l’m now blissfully happy and engaged to my gorgeous, handsome, kind and funny 5’6 DP. I thank my lucky stars every day I took note of that woman’s comment.

Getoffmyshoes · 07/05/2022 00:39

I will caveat by saying that DP is muscly and broad shouldered though, so I never feel larger than him!

youvegottenminuteslynn · 07/05/2022 00:42

My ex was 6'7"

My partner is 5'7"

He's twice the man my ex was in every way and I love him very much.

Some women will only date taller men and it's important to remember that that is their preference - we all have some things that appeal to us and some that don't, and we cannot expect people to want to date everyone just because they're a 'nice guy'. I'm not saying you're like this but I have met so many blokes who feel personally offended and wronged by women who don't date them due to not finding something about them attractive when we can't help what we each find physically attractive.

It is a dick move though when women make fun of shorter men for the sake of it, just as it is when anyone makes fun of overnight people / people of a particular race etc.

Change123today · 07/05/2022 00:51

I’m taller than my husband. I’m 5.10 I’ve been out with a mix of similar heights & taller than me. I was friends first with him and we just naturally ended up together. I suppose as friends I never thought of him as a short person - he made me laugh & so much more than being defined as a short man.

i wouldn’t want to date a man who judged people on height. I know one of my exs didn’t like us being the same height - used to be so self conscious about it - soon become an ex, There is so much more to a person, my husband is lovely means the world to me been married now nearly 20 years!

i don’t miss wearing heels as a tall woman already wearing heels out never happened much anyway!!

Matildahoney · 07/05/2022 00:58

Gotta be tall, I'm 5"2, I like them around 6ft

latetothefisting · 07/05/2022 01:01

Depends what is meant by relatively short-I wouldn't go out with someone the same height as me as I'm already short for a woman (5'1) so a man the same height would be extremely short! I have would and have gone out with men a lot shorter than average though.

However saying that I would very seriously consider having kids with a short man -again this is more due to my own height and knowing that 2xvery short parents would very likely result in an extremely short child, which would be detrimental to them,particularly male children.
I'm obviously not suggesting some sort of height related eugenics program and it isn't a complete deal breaker but I'd be lying if I said it wasn't something I'd considered.

If I had no plans for kids in the relationship I wouldn't care less!

Dillydollydingdong · 07/05/2022 01:05

I'm just under 5ft 6" and dp is the same. He's kind and gentle, affectionate and very cute!

Cameleongirl · 07/05/2022 01:13

One of my friends is tall for a woman ( about 5’ 10” or 11) and her DH is shorter than her. It doesn’t seem to bother them.

I have to admit that I like being enveloped by a man, I’ve always gone for broad shoulders and what I describe as a “rugby player build.” DH is 5’ 11” and built like a brick outhouse, whereas I’m 5’5”, small build. Suits me just fine. 😄

Mollymoo67 · 07/05/2022 01:18

I feel really sorry for men who aren't tall. I'm not judging anyone over this - we can't especially help our turn-offs. But my ex was 5 foot 5 and never had a proper girlfriend till his late twenties because of it. My DH is the same height as me, 5 foot 7, and it's never been an issue for me but it seems to have always bothered him, which I think is due to past rejections.

Like I say, not judging, or suggesting anyone should date people they aren't attracted to for whatever reason. It's just an observation, that I do think shorter men have it tough when it comes to dating.

AchatAVendre · 07/05/2022 01:36

Not single but if I were...

I used to like them and was especially attracted to short, cool, slightly alternative guys. BUT every single short man I've gone out with has been an A-hole out to sleep with as many women as they can, possibly to over-compensate with being turned down by some women due to their height. So now I'm wary of them. One short ex also turned into a raging hypochondriac too (he used to constantly have a "cold" and use that as an excuse not to go out and do anything) and that just finished it for me.

Also, I'm not big at 5 feet 3 and a size 10 but even I used to feel as if I'd injure a former short, slight boyfriend, although he was taller than me. I can't imagine what it would feel like for a taller, sturdier woman. Very odd I would think.

I do like skinny men though. DH is tall and skinny.

Balderdaah · 07/05/2022 01:51

I tried to but got the ick.

Opentooffers · 07/05/2022 01:55

I think it depends on the man. I'm 5ft4, have dated a man the same. Found I avoided wearing heels because I could tell it intimidated him when out, possibly would of made me feel odd to be taller too. Until I stopped liking/ respecting him as much, then I thought ' f@×k it! Started wearing them whenever I felt like it - could tell he squirmed a bit. So no, would not do it again, but then he had a case of small man syndrome, which some may not have.

MountainDewer · 07/05/2022 01:58

Im 5 feet and would RATHER date a short man around my height. I instead ended up with 6 ft ++ DP. Whom I have to stretch to kiss. 😠

Funny how a thread regarding attraction to fat women would have everyone in an uproar. But perfectly fine to admit that people don’t like short men.

Wonder how the tall women fare too?

webseb · 07/05/2022 02:05

Has anyone else received a private message on the back of this thread quoting what they've said here and asking if they want to discuss? Finding it a bit creepy, especially as it's an unused username. Reported and blocked anyway.