Anyone gone for the forbidden fruit and not lived to regret it?

[Theonlywayisup11]

I’ve just come out of a 10 year relationship. It is not public that we have separated yet, however men must be able to sense something in the air as recently I have had a lot of propositions. One is from someone who would be totally inappropriate and would cause extreme drama. Without saying too much he is the brother of an ex (identical twin brother at that!!!)

Anyone ever tasted the forbidden fruit without getting totally screwed up?!

Does it matter if it goes wrong? What’s the consequence?…not like your ex can leave you twice.

why not, sometimes it’s worth it just for the ride….you only live once!!!

If you are relishing this much drama in your life, I imagine it won’t be too long until you come a cropper

How about this: take a little time without a man. You might find yourself.

Tasted the forbidden fruit?

@AnyFucker is spot on as usual. Get to know who you are again. You will thank yourself for it down the line.

get to know who you are sure...but also fuck the hot brother. I don't think you ever really regret that stuff.

Yeah definitely fuck the hot brother. That's obvious.

I have had the forbidden fruit many times before I was married and it was always worth it, every single time 🙌🏻 You only get one life, go for it!

You're single, you can screw who you want.

I do agree that maybe you should just be for a bit before jumping into something else. Decompress from your last one.

Does he have a partner? If not, go for it!

Do it; you only regret what (who?) you don’t do…

Why would you want to encourage or embrace such potential chaos? And then check there won't be regret? You can't have your cake and eat it - if you want "forbidden fruit" you need to be prepared for the fall out and regret.

If that's what you want, the thrill you're after, you need to be prepared to bear the repercussions. Reap what you sow.

Depends how much chaos and pain you want in your and others lives.

Think twice.

No sex is worth you feeling an absolute bag of shit afterwards and it is always afterwards... And the women always feel the guilt.

Life’s short and you’re single. The ex must be from over 10 years ago. If you both want to do it, do it.

You can get to know yourself and still have a good time.

He is. And I hadn’t heard a word from him in over 10 years, he happened to message me just as my relationship went tits up. I’ve told him no, but he’s quite persistent. I totally understand what everyone is saying, but a sneaky distraction might be just what I need right now?!

I would definitely have a go on the hot twin.

My DH was my ex's best friend! They're not friends anymore. No regrets at all. We got together after I'd split with my ex and this is a much happier and healthier relationship.

No you need to be single for a minute.

You say no one actually knows you’re separated so it must still be very fresh.

You say it will cause drama and that’s he’s not taking no for an answer - you shouldn’t even be thinking about this at all.

In the kindest possible way you sound very naive and you need to give your head a bit of a wobble.

The best way to do that is to stay single and work on yourself for a while and then you can date or have sex with whoever you want.

If he's single and you're single there's nothing at all forbidden

Yeah definitely fuck the hot brother. That's obvious.

Some people need to raise their bar on here.

This guy hasn’t spoken to OP in 10 years and thinks she’s still in a relationship with her DH and has randomly asked for sex and now won’t take no for an answer, even though she’s ‘in a relationship’ - what a catch!
It will also definitely cause lots of drama.

There are thousands of men in the world that would be willing to have sex with OP. Why go for someone surrounded by massive red flags.

Raise you bar OP.

He does know that we’ve separated. I just haven’t gone public with the information. He messaged me (quite innocently) to start, we got chatting as we hadn’t spoken since we were in our early twenties, then he started with the more ‘encouraging’ messages.

I’ve told him no, but he’s quite persistent.

I really don't ever think that a man who won't take no for an answer is a good idea in any context OP, much less when you're probably in a relatively vulnerable headspace after a split.

I totally agree. And if you find the idea of actively choosing to be alone for a while difficult to deal with OP ... you need it all the more.

but a sneaky distraction might be just what I need right now?!

Distraction from what? Pain? Heartbreak? Anger? Loneliness? Anything to numb the feelings? Thing is, if you deal with them now, you'll save yourself more heartbreak later ... and you might not make the same mistake again - much like the one you're contemplating.

Theres no such thing as forbidden fruit. Its just a way of glamorising something rather ordinary that has the potential to upset someone else. There are millions of men out there. Few of them are worth the tiniest amount of hassle. If he's that one in a million that is, fair play. But likely he's no more special than the zero hassle guy next in line.

😂

Also, she can be alone and ‘have a go’. It didn’t sound like she was asking whether she should get into a relationship with him.

I'm all for shagging around post break up but the identical twin of an ex sounds gross. It would be like shagging your ex again, except not, it's his brother. And I personally wouldn't want to come between family. There is so much more dick in the sea. Don't go for one that will cause drama and probably leave you feeling a bit weird after - as post orgasm hormones (if you have one!), you'll be dragged into the past rather than into the future.