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Anyone gone for the forbidden fruit and not lived to regret it?

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Theonlywayisup11 · 29/04/2022 18:59

I’ve just come out of a 10 year relationship. It is not public that we have separated yet, however men must be able to sense something in the air as recently I have had a lot of propositions. One is from someone who would be totally inappropriate and would cause extreme drama. Without saying too much he is the brother of an ex (identical twin brother at that!!!)

Anyone ever tasted the forbidden fruit without getting totally screwed up?!

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TooBigForMyBoots · 30/04/2022 02:02

That's not Forbidden Fruit. That's becoming a pawn in a weird game of one-upmanship with a bloke who has no boundaries and is in a long running competition with his brother.😱

MrsTerryPratchett · 30/04/2022 02:06

Men who are 'persistent' aren't a good idea.

WibblyWobblyJane · 30/04/2022 02:23

Identical? How do you know it’s not actually your ex?

Codswallop20 · 30/04/2022 02:24

Mate, shag someone else who means nothing to you. Get it out of your system and regroup. Trust me, trust us all, you do not want or need a relationship, you do not want or need drama.

If you want a cheeky bit of fun take it away from home and do what you like. If you still feel the same a year from now, persue it. Guarantee you won't and save yourself massive hassle

Lookingoutside · 30/04/2022 03:17

Yes. Loads of times.

Fuck the hot twin.

TruthHertz · 30/04/2022 03:19

I wonder if cheating scumbag husbands also see it as 'chasing the forbidden fruit'. 🤔

GingerDuo · 30/04/2022 04:02

I'm with the fuck the hot twin brigade!

I had a fling with a guy many years ago before marriage who I occasionally have brief catch up email contact with.

When my marriage ended I had a fling with a much much younger man. Farrrr too young for me but amazing fun!

Very recently discovered they're father and son 🤣

Hopingforabagofbuttons · 30/04/2022 04:03

5128gap · 29/04/2022 22:12
Theres no such thing as forbidden fruit. Its just a way of glamorising something rather ordinary that has the potential to upset someone else. There are millions of men out there. Few of them are worth the tiniest amount of hassle. If he's that one in a million that is, fair play. But likely he's no more special than the zero hassle guy next in line.

This has summed up my thoughts exactly .

SalsaLove · 30/04/2022 05:10

I fucked the brother once and totally regretted it. I felt so sleazy for a long time, even though we were both single.

LetHimHaveIt · 30/04/2022 06:22

TooBigForMyBoots · 30/04/2022 02:02

That's not Forbidden Fruit. That's becoming a pawn in a weird game of one-upmanship with a bloke who has no boundaries and is in a long running competition with his brother.😱

Couldn't agree more.

Awrite · 30/04/2022 06:33

I think the fact the hot twin wants to shag his twin's ex girlfriend says enough about him to stay well the fuck away.

YOU are the forbidden fruit, not him.

PaterPower · 30/04/2022 07:48

Agree with the “weird one upmanship“ post - why would you want to be the trophy shag of a guy with obvious sibling issues?

You’re not short of offers by the sound of it, so take one of the others up or go and pick a random up in a bar or whatever.

tomatoandherbs · 30/04/2022 07:58

If no children involved in this scenario in any shape or form… knock yourself out

any children involved at all… fgs NO

Steelesauce · 30/04/2022 08:09

I once shagged my exs best friend. It caused an absolute shit storm but I did it out of revenge so I guess it is what I wanted to happen. No regrets! I wouldn't do it now though, I much prefer the peaceful life.

If you fancy the drama, go for it.

girlmom21 · 30/04/2022 08:12

I think it's a bit weird to want to have sex with your ex's brother - especially if it's twin. Do you just miss your ex?

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Theonlywayisup11 · 30/04/2022 08:44

@Steelesauce thats an interesting one!! My current exs best friend has always tried to cross the line with me. How did it all end up for you? They still friends? You still friends with either of them? I think best friends is up there with brothers aren’t they?!

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Theonlywayisup11 · 30/04/2022 08:45

girlmom21 · 30/04/2022 08:12

I think it's a bit weird to want to have sex with your ex's brother - especially if it's twin. Do you just miss your ex?

Good question. I don’t think so. My ex is married with a daughter now. We haven’t spoken for years. This brother was always the more outgoing one, although they do look identical.

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tomatoandherbs · 30/04/2022 08:47

Op

do you have children?
does anyone in the scenario have children?

girlmom21 · 30/04/2022 08:49

The other thing to consider, then, if you know it would cause trouble, is would that be fair on his wife and child?

He'll be angry because of the principle of it if he knows his brother has been sleeping with you. That could cause problems in your ex's marriage which seems unnecessary.

I'd steer well clear.

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Theonlywayisup11 · 30/04/2022 09:05

@girlmom21 I certainly don’t intend on having a relationship with him!! I also would not intend anyone to find out, this is certainly not a potential future husband situation…

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tomatoandherbs · 30/04/2022 09:13

Why don’t you answer whether there’s any children in the scenario?
although I suspect no answer sadly means there are children

Onwards22 · 30/04/2022 09:16

Who’s attention are you trying to get?
The ex you just broke up with or your ex with the twin brother?

What drama would it cause?
Does he already have a partner?

Do you think by having sex with him his brother will find out and be jealous and potentially leave his girlfriend for you?

girlmom21 · 30/04/2022 09:19

Theonlywayisup11 · 30/04/2022 09:05

@girlmom21 I certainly don’t intend on having a relationship with him!! I also would not intend anyone to find out, this is certainly not a potential future husband situation…

In your OP you said One is from someone who would be totally inappropriate and would cause extreme drama.

It doesn't matter what your intentions are - it's not worth it.

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Theonlywayisup11 · 30/04/2022 09:23

Sorry I’ve not been clear. I do have a child. He also has a child. Clearly not with eachother. I don’t think I’m trying to get the attention of anyone and I certainly would not go out looking for anything right now. I was peaceful thinking I would have some time on my own. My current ex and I are very friendly, it’s very amicable right now, although I think we both hope for reconciliation. I have said no are you crazy on more than one occasion, he has said he always had a thing for me. I guess because it was so long ago and everyone has moved on there was a ? In my head. Although the comment about me being the forbidden fruit has rang home!! I think I’ll stick to my guns and wide birth it. Was really hoping for more stories of people who had been there and done it and how that ended up for them

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LethargeMarg · 30/04/2022 09:28

I think there's a whole load of feelings this could stir up. Plus he's bound to tell his twin brother and would you want the ex to know ? They may already be talking about it now i would be very cautious and suspicious of his motives . I think it could potentially end up making you feel a bit crap. Your ex probably has good memories of you and personally I'd want to keep those and not have them tainted if he found out you shagged his brother . Persistent blokes are all about the thrill of the chase . Tread carefully