Tell me about your Friends with Benefits situationships

[Littlegreenfrogcake]

I am 3 weeks into a new FWB situation, and I am REALLY enjoying it. I love that there's no pressure, expectations or emotional weight to it. I was really upfront I do not want or need a relationship and that I needed to connect with someone before the sex could happen.

Due to various reasons, much as i like the guy as a friend, and the sex is GREAT, I know I wouldn't consider him relationship material. So I'm not worried about that so far.

What are others' experiences? Anything I should look out for over the coming months?? Has it worked/not worked for you?

and the sex is GREAT, I know I wouldn't consider him relationship material

As long as you both think this, its fine. You both have to think you could do better (in the relationship stake), for a FWB to work without anyone getting hurt.

Or just not want a relationship, with anybody.

I’m just contemplating a FWB!! Had some years ago.. well before my daughter was born and it worked great. Met a guy O.L.D who we actually figured out we used to work together.. he’s not really relationship material (I don’t think) but is keen to meet up.. asks constantly to come round.. I’ve just been worried about a FWB situation.. (what will the neighbours think 😂😂) thank you for this thread! Deff giving me food for thought!!

@Beachbreak2411 - If your only reason to hesitate is wondering what the neighbours think, best draw the curtains! 😂

I gave up worrying about what my neighbours thought ages ago.

Ohhhhh I had a lovely one until I met current husband.

Never ever saw him outside of my house. Never even went for a drink together. He’d turn up on demand and go within the hour. Purely physical for about three or four years off and on.

He was a marine or a para or something and was away a lot and had loads of tattoos (not my normal
thing at all) and a massive 🍆. Fond memories.

It worked because we never tried to make it anything it wasn’t. Didn’t overthink it. Awesome.

I've just started one.

I'm in a FWB situation with my ex. The sex isn't good (he loves it tho lol and he doesn't last long so... lol) but I get him to do other stuff around my house out of it so it's a win-win. Plus he's my venting partner when I have stuff I need to vent about or if I'm bored and want to chat. So I get something out of it

I'm very curious about these situations as started one and from what I read one person wants more, or eventually moves on...so how does it end? Mine is a bit different as he is in an open relationship which he was a bit naughty and didn't tell me, but we met online and it was sex from the start and I didn't ask. It was literally the best sex, and my libido got the better of me in the end so after a few times just decided to be honest and say that ultimately I want a relationship/family but for now this is great and really motivating for me...going to the gym etc. He's totally down for it for as long as I want. Happy to meet halfway or mine. Not quite sure how to manage logistics - it feels a bit blunt to say hi fancy a shag when are you free, but I do think it has to be fairly direct along those lines once you've established that's what it is. Also what PP said about how much to message, I'd keep it related to meeting only, with a bit of social/flirty chat. I do have two other casual people so I'd never be reliant on him. Thinking about pitfalls and pluses my advice would be enjoy lots of sex!! Be honest. Keep it light and simple. Remember it's all about fun.

I’m in one with my exes twin brother 😂😂 it’s amazing! Although he defo wants more. But like everyone has said, being open and honest about your intention from the start is absolute key. Sadly deep down I know someone will get hurt (and I think it will be him) I’ve told him this many times, but he says he’s happy with the situation. I think it’s a great tonic if you’re going through something else in your life (divorce, separation etc) and don’t want a proper relationship. It does seem to be incredible sex though for most who have a FWB!!

I have been trying for a year to get a fwb 😹 so difficult. I find men just want the benefits and not the friendship 🙃

I've had FWB situations many times and end up feeling used and my time wasted.

One of them turned quite manipulative etc about the friendship and getting the sexual acts he wanted.