A bit of an awkward question about sex

[3catstoo]

A friend asked me a few days ago, should you let a man come in your mouth? Well I have no experience of this, DH has always warned me so I've never been caught out.

Has anyone done it or does anyone have anything to say on the matter?

Your comments would be really helpful. I feel a bit useless on the subjest.

Thanks

@ madamez and the fat lip

I don't mind really - it's not like exquisite fine wine or anything but not terribly offensive either, and DP gets such a kick it's worth it. Spitting it out is a bit of a mood-killer to me [shrug] ... or am I just a wanton floozy?

Tried it once but didn't like the tingly anaesthetic feeling in my mouth. Bit like eating lemons but with salt instead. Never again.

Olives, spaff tastes like olives-ew cant look at olives without going to gag.
Does anyone else get that, if you are a swallower (as I have been on occasion) then does the impact so to speak make you gag?

Wow, I didn't expect such a response.
Thank you all.

Dh has never questionned me moving away instead of sticking around. It's got me curious now. We have been married for 10 years so I hope he hasn't got an std.

My friend is with a new man.

I had heard that sperm was full of protein. Maybe I should try it as a veggie.

I think it is the not knowing what it tastes like and what if I choke or worse still be sick, that's always put me off.
I wouldn't want to kill the moment by having a choking fit iyswim.

Never thought of using a condom to do it. I think for my friend that's a good idea as it's a new ptnr. Both are over 50 (she looks younger than me at 33!)so have both lived a bit (she has I know).

What about the speed that it comes out, daft question, but could you choke?

No, never really experienced choking (only as a result of my own laughing incidents!)

From..er...other activites I know that DP's jizz comes out at quite a velocity, however it never feels like that in my mouth, one minute you are doing the work and the next minute you have a mouthful, so to speak. No choking/gagging risk imo. What helps is that I know when dp is about to shoot so it never really comes (ha!) as a surprise.

Thanks KittyLouise.

Yes I was thinking of the speed it comes out during other activities too, that's why I though I might gag, if I did try it. DH would probably wonder what was going on if I did swallow though. I would end up having to explain about my friend and her new man. I'd rather not have to go there.

It smells like bleach to me .

bratnav- seriously was in my pregnancy mag when i was pregnant with my dd

OK so you're all better educated at this than me, maybe you can help with another thing.

This one is for me not my friend. I have wondered this for years but never asked (pre DH this was).

Someone once listed 'come in your face' as a seperate act to oral sex.

Call me dim but I have never worked out what is involved if it isn't oral sex.

Can you help me with this one too?

oral sex is when the mouth is involved

coming on someones face doesnt involve the mouth

maybe they just want to wank over your face

Sod that. I would rather have it in my mouth, not my eye (bloody stings)

Yes that's what I thought but he also said 'hand job' as a seperate thing to. I didn't ask at the time because I wasn't with this guy. He was winding me up knowing I was a bit behind the other girls at college. I didn't want him to think I was even worse by asking what things meant .

Would a man get something out of coming all over your face anyway?

Seems a bit strange to me. The swallowing sounds better to me too.

I rememeber as a teenager being asked by an older friend , If I spit or swallow, and had no idea what he was talking about LOL

Its personal choice, and no i will not tell if i do or dont LOL

I hope you do not mind me giving a male view on this.

This really is a question of personal taste (absolutely no pun intended).

In a typically hypocritical male way, I would say that I do prefer when a partner swallows (in many ways this would be for purely selfish, practical reasons) but have never ever wanted to taste or swallow it myself. Quite why I would want a partner to swallow therefore is clearly a moot point!

In the past I have known girls to get both very turned on by the idea and conversely be totally repulsed. There really is no right or wrong and I don't think I ever made someone feel bad about their choice especially as frankly, the most important thing is the lead up. If it's good, it doesn't really materially matter how it finishes off.

As someone said, as long as both parties know where they stand, there should be no problem.

IMO, a perfectly good middle ground lies in the lady allowing the man to ejaculuate near, but not in, her mouth and catching the flow in her hands. It makes sense in the natural movement. The advantages of this are that the lady doesn't have to swallow and the man is not left wondering (panicking even!) where it is all going to go.

The most important thing is never to do something you don't want to and never to feel a man expects it (and if he does expect, he is frankly not worth sticking with). As with all things, there is no real pleasure unless it is mutual, consenting pleasure.

I do hope that makes some sense, from a male perspective.

Has the same taste sensation as bicarbonate of soda, if you are going to swallow get it over and done with as fast as possible.

lol 3cat

I understood it as dh warning you not to let anyone come in your mouth which seemed a little strange..

Fab to have a male perspective. Many thanks.

Postingatlast, can you enlighten me on my second question about 'come on your face'. See a few posts above.

Thanks again for a male point of view.

Moondog, I didn't mean it like that. That sounds so funny.

Its good for spots as well. Just smear it over at night and was off next morning.

Maybe DHs warning of his imminent release is because he doesn't want me to swallow.

Just a thought.

Really Discoverlife?

When I have it on my arms or legs it really itches and feels like it's drying my skin.

3catsoo, that really becomes a tricky question and one which may be difficult to answer without sounding graphic.

ok, here goes. I personally have a suspicion that the coming on face thing is a fairly recent (relatively) speaking phenomenon, fuelled by porn. Pornography focuses so much on ejaculation, or the cum-shot as they call it, and there are millions of web pages out there dedicated to that one thing. I am not saying that historically men never came on a woman's face but I do think it has been glamourised in the last 15 years.

I think to answer the question fairly, you really have to know what dynamic is going on at that moment. If you are acting out a whole "whore" scenario, which both parties are party to, then coming on the woman's face or body can actually be a real turn-on for both as it feeds into the whole "treating them like meat" type role play. And before anyone flames me for that, I do not mean it in the literal sense. Everyone in sexual relations sometimes plays at just being totally dirty.

If however it is in the context of really connected love making, clearly it is neither wholly appropriate nor, in reality, much of a turn on.

It is also a question of environment too. I mean, if you are giving your partner surprise oral sex where you have not prepared tissues, swallowing is the most practical solution.

hmmm, I am not sure that really answers your question either way! I guess all I am saying is there is a place for everything in a consensual context. Bad cliché but it is horses for courses.

And I repeat what I said earlier, if the foreplay is good, it doesn't matter where or how you come. Mind you, I say that with one caveat - it can be a real turn off for a man if he feels that in some way he has to inhibit himself when coming. By that I mean, if he feels that his partner does not like it when he comes or will feel disgusted, it really can be a turn off. If that is the case, it is best not to engage in anything other than ejaculation during full sex. What I mean is that much of the fun of making your partner come either with your hands or mouth is that you can control the pace and really work, literally, to a climax. If that climax feels in any way held back, it can lessen the pleasure for your partner.

Once again, I hope that makes sense! I am trying to maintain a correct tone...

Thank you postingatlast. I appreciate your honesty. You seem like a knowledgable man on this topic. You also sound like a caring man, so I don't think anyone should complain about your tone.
Afterall the question was of a certain nature anyway. The feint hearted should not look at the thread.

I didn't think that in your average sexual relationship that coming on a womans face would be pleasurable for either party.

I just wandered how it occured if it wasn't by mouth.

My only (call it silly) suspition(sp?) was that it had something to do with the womens breasts (as they are closer to the face).

I hadn't realised it was a pornographic term either. This was about 13 years ago, possibly more.

I've never asked DH either. Somehow too embarressed to.