Hi all
I broke up with my boyfriend. He’s 62, I am 42. The age gap doesn’t bother me as we had a lot in common and he’s fit and healthy. However he had no interest in my kids age 11 and 19. He started off coming over but then changed to I must come to his house. Took my 11 year old daughter with initially. But then he started saying we had no alone time so if she was with a friend I’d visit him alone. He became more demanding that I leave her home - even alone for a couple hours to visit him. I didn’t feel comfortable leaving her alone. I know couples need some time alone but he knew I was a mum with a younger child from the start. True, she didn’t like me dating as I’d been single 6 years so it was new. My son struggled with it too. However my kids are not out of control monsters. My boyfriend started telling me to send them to live with their father 7 hours away reasoning that it will be good for me to have a break from 90% responsibilities single parenting. Naturally, I’m not parting with my kids. He became nasty and told me they’re the worst children he’s ever met and he’s trying to help me have a better life. His children are all grown up and he seems to have a decent relationship with them. He has good points and we had special moments, but I broke it off as I couldn’t see it working if he won’t accept and include my daughter. One of my friends said I should remember my son is basically adult and my daughter will also grow up, so I need to think about my happiness and future. I believe I made the right choice because your kids come first especially when they’re still growing up.