* UPDATE * My bf wants nothing to do with unborn baby/pregnancy

[Sofi1990]

Hi guys

I’ve got an update on this situation. Things have gotten weirder. I’m actually shocked to be writing this. I need to say this so I know I’m not going completely mad.

I have decided to keep the baby. My bf wanted me to get rid and was so shocked when I told him, I’m keeping it with or without him. And quite frankly I’m happy to do it on my own so he can happily walk away, just like he wanted to. I said I would have liked him to be part of the baby’s life but it’s his decision to not be a part of his baby’s life so I’ve accept his decision and it’s over.

WELL, he came crawling back a few days later with this suggestion. I’m still fuming and completely in shock as to his thought process behind this/ or maybe he thinks I’m a complete idiot!

He basically said he wants us to stay together as a couple, go on dates, share a bed together, have sexual relations/sex with each other and act like a normal couple until the baby comes so HE can make a DECISION on what he wants to do - if he wants to still stay together and raise a baby together. Or if he doesn’t want that and leave when the baby is born.

WHAT?! My blood is boiling (probably not good when I’m pregnant) argh.

He's ridiculous.

Erm.. no mate, sling your hook

You are definitely not going mad!

What an absolute cheek! I hope you've already told him where to go!

Of course your blood is rightly boiling.... absolutely no way whatsoever should you provide half the rent, sex, companionship etc (and be barred from meeting anyone else) just so he can have the opportunity to be sure he wants to dump you and HIS CHILD at the most vulnerable time in your life. Absolutely not. Vile behaviour.

Show him the door.

Disgusting

How can you turn an offer like that down?!
I mean him and his mighty cock need a place to stay,you to cook and clean for him and and the odd shag thrown in for good measure

Sling him out,gather support around you and laugh at how pathetic he is-unless his Willy is made of pure gold and spunks £50 notes,he’s not worth it

What a Prince among men-not

What a piece of shit.

I thought I was going mad guys! He’s playing such horrible mind games with me. I’m just disgusted at how he can even suggest that to me.

Stay together as a “couple” a couple that needs to have sex by the way. He emphasised that clearly. He needs things to feel normal so he can decide how he feels about me and baby and if he wants that.

I’m gagging in a mouth which doesn’t help with the baby sickness anyway, ugh.

Sigh.

What an idiot. Why does he think that is an attractive idea to you?

He’s done you a favour by spelling it out loudly and clearly that he’s a self centred twat.

This way you know you don’t have to ever question yourself about whether you did the right thing by getting rid of him.

Boot him out he’s an utter disgrace. You have your baby and look forward to having it you’ll survive without this idiot selfish prick around your neck. Hugs.

@NotTheOW I think to try to manipulate me so I cling on to the fact he might stick around and have a baby with me.

I hope you laughed at his suggestion and told him to fuck off.

[quote Sofi1990]@NotTheOW I think to try to manipulate me so I cling on to the fact he might stick around and have a baby with me.[/quote]
Yes. Glad to hear you can see right through this.

The awful thing is I half suspect that you'll go for it!

He's very obviously a turd of the highest order, but I'm no longer bamboozled and flabbergasted at what my sex will do to keep the status quo (I count myself in this).

Wow

Please don't accept his "generous" offer
What a douche bag. I can't believe men like him exist 😭

Bear in mind, as this hasn't worked, he may decide to have a "change of heart" and commit to you both, only to do a runner later.

If he tries to upgrade his offer, please see if as the lie it will be.

Tell him shame he can't make a decision. But you can. He's toast.

I bet his mother is so proud of the ‘man’ she’s raised.

as if your going to want to have sex with him when you're pregnant and hes makimg a decision on whether to stay. what does he think he is? God? tell him if only he was that special and that it never going to happy. hes done.

Hi @Sofi1990 having read your previous post I was actually in an identical situation to you a few years ago. I also went ahead and kept my baby. Your relationship is over either way. You cannot be with someone like this and you deserve way more. Please try to get your support network in place and distance yourself from this prick as much as possible. Focus on yourself and the baby and don’t let him be at the birth, on the birth certificate or give baby his second name. These are really vital things. I would always be willing to chat if you wanted. Xx

I suppose on the plus side he's openly told you he's a cockwomble. Better than stringing you along while he "decides". I would give him some credit for that and slam the door behind him slightly less hard...

Just wow.. was he always such an arsehole?

Wow.