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Do you like and get on with your siblings ?

89 replies

newhoover · 09/04/2022 23:19

Hi everyone.

Do you have a good relationship with your siblings ?

Are you more or less successful than your siblings ?

OP posts:

FreezyFreezy · 10/04/2022 19:14

Yes. I have 3 siblings and see two of them fairly regularly; in fact I see them more as friends than siblings. The other lives away and we don't see each other very much at all but there is no bad feeling there.

MrsTimRiggins · 10/04/2022 19:17

I adore my siblings, all five of them. I’m closest to my oldest brother but we all get on well.
As for most successful, who can tell? I got the best academic results, one brother seems to make money from anything, another brother is a computer whizz, a sister is an artist, another is a free spirit and has seen the world and the other has a high flying career. Some have children, some don’t, some are married, some not, some own their own homes, some don’t.

DailyCake · 10/04/2022 19:22

@newhoover

Hi everyone.

Do you have a good relationship with your siblings ?

Are you more or less successful than your siblings ?

You sound like the ds I don't get on with. I am the reason for everything wrong in her life. I was smarter, passed the exam to go to a good school when she failed it. I went to uni for free in Scotland and then my employers sponsored my Post-Grad. She lives in New York and attended a crap Community College which she had to pay for herself. I married and had two DC, she has never married or had a long term relationship. She has accused me of having had plastic surgery because I have few wrinkles. I used to block her emails as she keeps sending religious shite (she is now a 7th Day Adventist) even after I asked her to stop it. I now delete them, unread. The thing is though, she is not poor, owns her own apartment in a nice area and had a good career in accounting even though she kept falling out with work colleagues and changed jobs regularly. She was quite pretty as a teenager, modelled and even appeared in two tv ads. We fought a lot as children and she seems to be stuck in that time. Her main problem is she thinks I ought to defer to her more because she is older than I am. I attempted a reconciliation a few years back by inviting her to visit me. We were fighting within 2 days. She has no concept of personal space and I had to keep backing away during conversations. She wags her finger in your face or prods you when she is talking, and always refers to herself by her full name instead of saying "I" or "me". I think she is on the spectrum and some small part of me wishes we could have a better relationship. But no, plus I'm richer than her.

AnastasiaRomanov · 10/04/2022 19:24

[quote Bodgerbarbara]@Robin233 yes same style, said she wished every bad fortune on her sister. Was horrible.[/quote]
I wondered if this was the same poster too.

SickAndTiredAgain · 10/04/2022 19:26

We get along ok when we see each other (at my parents’ house at Christmas), but we aren’t friends. We don’t text/call each other to chat. I don’t dislike them, but if we weren’t sisters and knew each through work for example, we’d be fine but not friends.

I have no idea if they are more successful than me because I only have a vague idea of what each of them do and have never seen where they live.

NameChangeCity123 · 10/04/2022 19:27

Absolutely. 4 years between us. My brother is a joiner and I am an area manager of a charity so pretty even I think

Perrymenopausal · 10/04/2022 20:57

No, not really. He’s the golden child. I see him a few times a year and that’s enough.

He is a carbon copy of my mum who has nothing nice to say and will try and pick holes and belittle any achievement. I got a promotion at work once and instead of being pleased they were giggling like little children saying I bet no one else applied etc etc.

I’ve been happily married for years and have two amazing kids. Brother has limped from one bad relationship to another (no kids) and can’t seem to stay longer than 6 months in a job without quitting or being sacked. Mum always makes excuses for him (which hasn’t helped him)

OnoNotagain · 10/04/2022 21:07

Love my only sibling (older brother) to bits, but he lives on another continent and I rarely see him. He's much wealthier and more successful than me, had a better education due to parents circumstances at the time, owns more property, travels more, has a child ... all things I don't. But he's a great guy and I don't begrudge him any of the above.

Twolostsoulsswimminginafishbow · 10/04/2022 22:19

Adore them all (8, although one died in his teens.) and get on well individually with each, one sister is like a close friend and we speak daily. I’m the one who gets us all together regularly.
On paper I’m the least successful currently as I am seriously ill and can’t work but have a lovely life (DH of 27 years and 3DC) with no money worries so I’m happy with my lot. I’m not envious of any of my sibling’s successes. If I want help I only have to ask and I know they’ll be there. I can’t remember ever arguing with any of them other than the odd childhood squabble.

Bumply · 10/04/2022 23:25

Youngest of 6
Have daily conversations via text with eldest sister in Canada where we talk about anything and everything.
She was a teacher and really I tune with young children and broadening their horizons.
Other sister had 6 kids and was earth mother and now runs her own gardening business.
I'm in IT and have a PhD.
We each admire the others skills and think they're more impressive than our own.
Three brothers. Closest to the middle one also in IT where we can chat about work related topics even though he's now retired.
Eldest was entrepreneur and in monetary terms has been the most successful. I know him the least well due to age gap and personality not being quite the same (unlike eldest sister who is older than him but on my wavelength)
Youngest brother (older than me) also in IT, and more successful, but rarely in contact since our mum died. When we do make contact it's fine. We slot back in. But it can be years in between.

Kite22 · 10/04/2022 23:30

Are you the same poster that started a similar thread recently, and was really horrible about her sister, over things that were not of the sister's doing ?

Are you hoping for different answers ?

kyiv · 10/04/2022 23:32

Yes. Despite them being selfish mother fuckers. I love them deeply. And it really depends on how you measure success.

Robin233 · 11/04/2022 06:46

@Kite22

Are you the same poster that started a similar thread recently, and was really horrible about her sister, over things that were not of the sister's doing ?

Are you hoping for different answers ?
^^^^
I'm pretty sure it is.
Come in n op the only way you're going to be happy is to let it go.
Don't be bitter.
Make your life the best it can be and stop comparing it to your sisters

DailyCake · 12/04/2022 07:24

[quote Robin233]@Kite22

Are you the same poster that started a similar thread recently, and was really horrible about her sister, over things that were not of the sister's doing ?

Make your life the best it can be and stop comparing it to your sisters

This is excellent advice OP. Being jealous and holding on to perceived grievances is like drinking poison but expecting the other person to die.

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