Obviously, attractiveness is subjective, but there are plenty of people we can all agree are conventionally attractive (even if we are not personally attracted to them). I have always noticed that there are plenty of conventionally attractive women who are intelligent, educated, sensitive, and kind but men who are conventionally attractive are almost unanimously obnoxious jerks. No man with a six-pack or wide chest is reading in his spare time!
I think it is because women face a lot of pressure to conform to appearances, even if they have succeeded in other areas. As for men, they don't need to look a certain way to be taken seriously if they already have accomplishments.
This is why plenty of men who go to the gym do so to impress women, but virtually no woman does so to impress men. Men want to be noticed by women but no woman wants men to notice her bum or cleavage. In fact, it disgusts them to think that men are checking them out. I think it is just that women face so much in terms of beauty pressure they feel they do have to look a certain way. In turn, women never feel as if they look good enough. How often have you heard a woman express pride in her appearance? Even the most fit and beautiful 25 y/o thinks she looks mediocre at best. Conventionally attractive men on the other hand, can't stop bragging about their looks.
Does anybody else have thoughts on this?