First date tonight & been blocked

[Newpjamas]

Wth…
Was all set to meet up for a first date with someone i been talking to from online dating
He been txting all week morning & goodnight txts, said he has booked for our date arranged times etc.. whats apped last night
I replied this morning and hes removed his profile pic and theres one grey tick
I had arranged childcare & everything
I give up!!!!!

@CherryDocsInYrBalls

His auntie died. That's a classic bullshit excuse, watch out for that one

Hahaha spot on ive had

1. son and his football team were in a car crash
2. had to wait in washing machine engineer
3. car crash, even sent me pictures which I reversed image search and found online from accident a few years ago.
4. lots of dead, dying or ill relatives
5. man was late coming to put in his radiators

I could go on and on and on.

If they don't meet up in the first week. Block and delete!

Haha, the wife has found out.

@ChuckBerrysBoots

Lucky escape! Can you head out with a friend instead, shame to waste the childcare!

I hope OP did this!!

Exactly as @FatFucker said— there are an awful lot of people (women too) who use these dating sites as pure entertainment to pass the time and as an ego boost too— some are with someone, some aren’t but what they have in common is they don’t actually really want dates/relationships— they just like the online interaction — bizzare I know but very common.

Echo previous sentiment on the good morning/ good evening texts. Tbh even post first/ second dates. To me it just smacks of a person trying to build a false sense of intimacy to get into your pants.

I equally second the advice on short first dates preferably not involving alcohol. Childcare is reserved for friends not first dates in my world.

@Sassbott - agree with the good morning/evening texts but I have had boyfriends who are perfectly nice who like to do this.

@Crikeyalmighty

Exactly as *@FatFucker* said— there are an awful lot of people (women too) who use these dating sites as pure entertainment to pass the time and as an ego boost too— some are with someone, some aren’t but what they have in common is they don’t actually really want dates/relationships— they just like the online interaction — bizzare I know but very common.

@Crikeyalmighty - oh god yes - very common and I don't now engage with these types. If I internet date.

Nightmare op but I guess it’s better you found out now. Some men just like the ego boost of chatting with someone or jt passes time etc which is utterly shit. After a few similar issues I decided I was going to chat for a few days and have a date arranged, no weeks texting etc if someone is serious about meeting someone they will meet you, if they can’t fit you in for weeks then that’s a red flag for me. So def arrange a light hearted quick coffee or drink then go from there as a pp said. Be upfront about what you want, and no tan for yourself I’m sure you look fab 😊

You're better off without him, what a twat to mess you around like that. I must admit I've cancelled dates in advance with kind of lame excuses before simply because I wasn't that bothered, but I'd never arrange something and then simply block like your guy has. Wanker.

So many would just say nothing, I would have my last say, no one gets off easily with me though

@SheKnowsWithoutKnowing

So many would just say nothing, I would have my last say, no one gets off easily with me though

How you gonna have your last say when you're blocked?

Blocked on WhatsApp, I'd send a text it probably hasn't blocked her on phone, even if he has I'd get it off my chest.

Very annoying you had to arrange childcare for him to treat you like that. Very spineless of him he could of cancelled at least.

@SheKnowsWithoutKnowing

Blocked on WhatsApp, I'd send a text it probably hasn't blocked her on phone, even if he has I'd get it off my chest.

Very annoying you had to arrange childcare for him to treat you like that. Very spineless of him he could of cancelled at least.

Do you honestly think they care? Best just to ignore and move on. These people are a waste of time and energy. They'll just roll their eyes and move onto their next victim.

@FatFucker I'm just the odd one out clearly, I just couldn't ignore someone that had mucked me about, but that's me and I'm glad I'm like it.

I would totally send this man a pithy and concise message, if he hadn't blocked me on text. Firstly, I find it quite cathartic to be bracing rude, and secondly, it might stop him doing the same to another woman in future.

BracingLY

I find blocking so annoying. He should have had the guts to let you know he didn't want to meet up whatever his reasons are.

I noticed my ex blocked me a year after we split. I had no intention of contacting him.

@Newpjamas

Thanks guys I didn’t realise the morning & nightly txts were red flags im new to dating so i will remember that in future 👍🏻

I didn't realise it was a script! Why do so many guys do this? Going through a lot with my unstable friend ATM and she thought it was genuine and kind. But it seems it's from some playbook.

Yeah you have to be aware of stuff that is full on like that op. It's an attempt to monopolise too much of your time and headspace. Other example might be if you tell someone your family is visiting tomorrow and they spend that whole day texting you. When they know you are trying to spend time with your family. Just be aware of anyone not respecting your personal space or time. But especially so if you don't even know them or you've only been on a few dates.

Consider why it wasn't a red flag for you. It might be that you got swept up in the heat of things because he was really cute or something but really you should have been asking, why does this guy feel the need yo message someone he barely knows this much? Has he no life? Is he some weirdo obsessive oddity? Does he need to be the centre of attention 24/7? Or is he love bombing me? Or a combination of all perhaps.

I reckon he's married ... enjoying flirting and fantasising about meeting up but got cold feet / scared of getting caught. He will eventually build it up to full on cheating...dickhead.

You dodged a bullet!

@phizog

The red flag you ignored was the messaging morning and good night texts!! A mentally sound, decent bloke is not going to do this for a woman he's never met. He will have a level of caution and want to wait to meet you, get to know you, date more regularly to start doing this. Why would anyone do it to a stranger - always ask yourself that. Only needy, weirdos who are trying to either get laid, or want to pretend they're in a relationship, or are just bored will message you as if you're already dating them.

This!!

@MrsBerthaRochester

Lol at to nervous! Married more like.

This. 100%

@SheKnowsWithoutKnowing

Send him a text, he might of blocked you on WhatsApp but probably not on his phone, tell him how shitty and immature his behaviour is then block him.

I agree - call him out, then block him. If he's going to behave like an arse and leave you feeling like this, at least you can have the satisfaction of telling him he's an arse, then go on your way.

Thanks @Pinkbonbon that’s really helpfull
Ive not dates before i need practice